Being in the community since the start of the year one of the biggest things i have learnt is what a onitis is. For you newbs its when you like a girl so much its just about an obsession. This girl is normally one admired from afar or in secret.

So why is it the holy grail? How hard is getting the grail? Hard! How hard is it getting your oneitis? HARDER! This is because going for your oneitis normally means going in with such strong feelings that game goes out the window, pua's revert to afc's. There body language gets needy, clingy, insecure even as her every response dictates the way you feel at that moment.

Summary: DONT DO IT!
But if one was to get right in with super tight game both inner and out. Could he do it?
The only guy i ever heard of that got his oneitis was the one and only Style.

Now i am nowhere near Styles level of game, in fact im probably in the negatives there. This is my last chance though and i think with the combined knowledge of the Community i may have a chance =)

Now down to business. She is SMART! As in get scholarship overseas perfect report smart. She also has the body language of a dignitary. She could easily teach a lot of us PUA's a bit about it. Not comftable with the whole sexuality of guys thing. That or shes a bloody good actor. Very driven always working on assignments. To sum it up: AN OVER ACHIEVER!!!!

Any suggestions are welcome
All questions too
i will be posting updates on here every day
Lets try and learn something from this

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It takes a lot of balls to dump your old life and move forward ....... it also involves a period of loneliness which i have am figuring out sucks

Have taken to reading of some "mewspapers" so i can gain more interest through being an authoritive presence in her life. Also i have learnt one (hopefully soon more) dhvs

Any other suggestions willl be welcome =)

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I FAILED!!!!!!!!!

Geezus christ all girls have ADD or the whole oneitis shit much be fukn up my bodylanguage. I just cant seem to hold her attention!!!

Balls to the wall approach?
I think nows as best of time as any

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It takes a lot of balls to dump your old life and move forward ....... it also involves a period of loneliness which i have am figuring out sucks

Maybe you're using the wrong bait.

Sure, she's an academic overachiever. Sure, she worldly and intellectual. But maybe it's just what her parents and teachers pushed her to be all her life and that's all she knows.

Maybe those things are not what deep down gets her "juices flowing."

You might try Style's "Eliciting Values Routine." Make sure you have at least some rapport going first, though, so you don't come off creepy.

every1 goes thru this. in fact, i went through it like a week or so ago and FAILED.

i was thnking, maybe just dont talk to her for a bit. text her a week or so later and ask her if she still has that "misc item here (pen) " u lent her? say u want it back. get a date, dont get over excited about it!!!

get some options too, this will make it a lot easier to forget about her.

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Just to inspire a bit of hope, i started down this track about 2 months ago, and have been hooking up with her regularly since then. She broke up with her boyfriend about a week or two ago, and I'll move in and take that position as soon as her emotions are back in check.

Sounds like you're bigging her up waaaay too much. Don't put her on a pedestal and just think of her as any other girl and remind yourself that you're the prize, not her.

I don't think you should spend time reading up on things that may interest her because that means you're moulding yourself into the person you think she wants you to be. Just do your own thing, be confident in yourself and she'll either get attracted or won't. If she does, great, she's attracted to the real you. If she doesn't, nevermind, plenty more fish..

as hard as this may seem, its what you MUST do. she wants a GUY not a personal assistant. so throw her back in ur priorities, go meet some other women.

OHHH BEST ADVICE I EVER GOT

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I struggle get emotional attachment. I don't know if it's a blessing or a curse. I think you would have to say "lets be just friends" and maybe rebuild from there. The way I see it, if your sexually attractive to women you have a solid chance of hooking up with your friends on a good night out after some drinking and dancing so don't give up.

Witty banter

It seems she cant get enough of it.
Following the whole advice of lightening things up and being cocky funny has got me to do some really fun things, anyone know the childish but of so funny gullibility game?

Basically it involves saying something like "hey did you know that saying gullitine real real slow makes it sound like gullible". Or this one "hey theres something on your face, yup more to the right. How did you get that gullible on your face?

Anyway i asked her to prom (by facebook) coz her friend has been hinting at me too obviously for like two weeks but you know that clenched feeling you get with your oneitis yeah that got me heaps lol. So anyway she replies with

"Hang on, I'll go grab the good twin.... she says only if you tell her how to say your name right. What's she on about? "

i tried the whole hey i met your twin like yesterday gambit like.. shit... 4 months back. SO anyway i reply with something equally witty and try for a met up on monday to try and go find the gullibility goat (somethign she tried to get me with that i turned back on her) So what do you guys think? a bit of progress right?

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It takes a lot of balls to dump your old life and move forward ....... it also involves a period of loneliness which i have am figuring out sucks

Hello everyone,

I've been far for a long while, because I didn't have too much time for this up to now. Now to the point:

Sound advice, that I'm sure you heard lots of times already:

Pursue of a oneitis in general is counter-productive, not because it steals your time from closing other girls, but because it narrows your options. And again, I'm not talking about k-closes or f-closes here. I really mean that by investing energy into a oneitis you'll end up unwittingly dismissing A LOT of genuinely interesting people.

Great song!
Anyway guys yes i do not limit myself when it comes to meeting new girls, (some of the really afc mates call me a manwhore) Although when it comes to this girl i would rather have tried then not. Do you guys get me? I have had a rather a lot of girls who i have had something for but havnt been able to attract or pull the trigger.

Oh good news, she likes a bit of wit, so i gave it to her. Got her to the point of waiting for me to ask her out, problem was i thought i would up it with more wittiness to spice it up. I made the spice the main dish in other words,,, oh DAMN!

Example: You havnt answered my question yet (me)
(her) well you havnt asked it yet [shes really into the exams at the moment so i used facebook...... Fuck stupid move eh]
(me) hmm i dont know what you mean but i will ask you two questions, ok?
(her) thats one [bitch got me!]
(me) ok then [really serious bedroom eyes lowers voice, direct eye contact] Are you always this annoying [wow this got her offguard rofl]
then i fluffed around with her for the rest of the day.
Morale of the story... Go for it sometimes, dont always try to be the one up on her.
I tried that and now i have to do damage control (yay!)

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It takes a lot of balls to dump your old life and move forward ....... it also involves a period of loneliness which i have am figuring out sucks

honestly, from everything your giving us to build on, your doing great. PULL THE FUCKING TRIGGER! dont use facebook to ask ppl out to something important like prom... kids these days

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-dw3llz

I did it oh god did i do it well.

but get this an afc buddy of mine tries to fuck it up with
"hey were going to the movies you wana come?"
she makes excuses because of work which believe me she aint lying about lol
"hey come on, rain will pay"
I just looked daggers at the dumb fool and said see you later and left with him in tow.

Ever since then she has been stand offish
Funny thing was i could tell how much she wanted to come. It will take a bit of organising to get her out to another location out of school, so should i do the planning or simply game at school and facebook untill she makes time for me?

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It takes a lot of balls to dump your old life and move forward ....... it also involves a period of loneliness which i have am figuring out sucks

have her make time for you. game her at school too!!! id say leave facebook on the back burner for a bit. socialize with people and if she talks to you talk back.


if u get stuck at school email or text - PUAdw3llz@gmail.com and it'll be forwarded to my phone for 24/7 advice.

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