Ok, so pretty much I've been seeing this girl for a week. We really hit it off, we hung out everyday together. I took it really slow, and was respectful. (only kissed). She told me she has a hard time commiting to a relationship. Asked about my past relationships. Had good dates, everything went GREAT. Watched movies each night and cuddled. She would leave caz she would have to work at 530am. She was definitely into me tho.

I found out a little about her past, and her last relationship. Her longest was with someone who was physically and mentally abusive. Got her into some drugs. etc. Its been over a year since that relationship. She's working two jobs right now, and can barely afford to pay rent. Been kicked out of her parents house, they won't pay for anything right now.

Went to dinner and a movie last night. Had a lot of fun.

I woke up this morning with this text:

HER: "I don't think we should see each other anymore"

ME: "Really, How come?"

HER: I can't have a relationship with anyone right now, I told you I can't commit and don't want to hurt you"

HER: "Im going through a bunch of **** right now and I don't need to put you through it. I think its not a good idea to be with you right now"

HER: "im sorry, I really am..I'm just not well right now."

ME: " Well this was random. There anyway you want to make this work? I tried my best to take things as slow as possible with you becasue I knew what you were going through and really liked you.. I thought I could be the guy to help stear you in the right direction, but I guess I ****ed things up"

HER: "No you didn't **** up, I just don't think you could handle someone unstable like me, I do like you, I'm just scared to death of relationships right now"

ME: "Seriously pushing people away due to past relationship is ridiculous. I know the timing sucks, and like I said I'm willing to go slow and work with you, but if that's what you really want I got no problem letting you go."

Didn't get a response from her after this....2days later I send her this::

ME: "Hey Sarah, I was thinking about what the texts I sent to you and it was f***ed up to try and push you into something you didn't want. You are going through alo of sh*t, if ya need anything just let me know. Feel free to hit me up sometime...ttyl"

HER: "That really means a lot to me. I didn't mean to push you out of my life completely I'm sorry for that but thank you I appreciate it.

ME: "NP..keep staying on track. Ill see ya around.

HER: "Okay"

Guys...you think this girl played me? You think shes serious? Think shell be back? I really liked this girl, and she was hott. Were my texts too blunt?

Tips on what I should do, if anything will be apreciated.

First of all, sounds like you didn't fuck her. That is not bad, if that is not what you want. However, using an discription from Dr. David D, I read your post as if you were wearing a superman outfit on with an "SW" on the chest, for "super wussy".

This is normal. It is not O.K. however. How do I know this? Well, your not attracting her, there is one.

In this instance, you have to reflect MOSTLY (as you should in every aspect of this game) is what do YOU want? Fuck that BS that she has been in an abusing relationship, fuck that she doesnt appreciate a good, fun, adventurous guy.

Sounds like you need to build your screen bro. What I mean is, really take some time to find out what YOU want. You may have to go through many of these little "1 week" relationships... but TAKE NOTES on what you do and dont like, to better build your filter. For instance. Attraction locations.

If you enjoy women who are typically less baggaged, would you go to a bar? How bout a divorce support group? Or would your chances of finding a woman with less baggage be better on a hike or going to a beach, or taking an art class?

I don't have those answers for you, but I do have them for me : )

If you really want to engage with this woman, you have to fuck her. She is saying all that shit about "relationship is not for me right now", because you are being supper wussy by signaling that to her. I can hear it in your choice and patterns of words. How do you think a woman can read into this?

If you really want to have a surpluss of women and not fall into this trap again. Do what YOU want to do, something OUTSIDE of women, and become GREAT at it. Try everyday to transfert the validation you seek from women from that "something", however, dont loose sense of your "pickup mentality". Doing this makes you the ultimate catch AND you get to accomplish what you want to!

Have you had sex with her?

Have you engaged this girl since posting this?

If so pls share, and most of all know that her attraction for you can most likely be salvaged, if that is what you want. Cheers brosef.

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Havn't fucked her bro. I wish tho.

What should I do now. Wait a couple weeks, month and she if she contacts me?

What would you do man?

I don't know whats going on her with her, and why she would hang out with me from 8-2am everyday of the week, and all of a sudden pull that shit. The night before we started to hold hands and shit. Was I going to fast. I thought i was doing everything perfect.

BTW.. according to her texts. What do you get from it?

Learn from it and move on. Don't try to fix it. It is hard and time consuming. Build your inner game, learn some openers, build a routine, and go fuck some hot bitches. I promise you every PUA on this forum will say the same thing. Move on.

Guys what did I do wrong so I can learn from it?

And if later on I want to salvage this, how do I go about doing this? Make her jealous with other girls?

She has insecurities that you didn't bother to address all you said was that you wanted a relationship with her. You didn't connect on an emotional level, just a physical one.

Okay, this is how it goes. You get an orangutan. I’m not talking a little monkey or some dancing chimp bullshit, I mean a fucking orangutan. Don’t ask me how you’re gonna get a fucking orangutan, because that’s not my problem.
So the orangutan’s name is Clyde. This is non-negotiable; all orangutans are named Clyde. I don’t know why that is, it’s just how the world works. So you and Clyde become man (and ape) about town. You’re seen everywhere together, you make the scene. You and friends go out in big groups. You talk loud, you laugh louder. Every time you say something witty, you high-five the orangutan. The town begins to buzz. It gets back to her. “Did you know the guy with the orangutan?”, “You used to date the guy with the orangutan?”, “Why would you break up with a guy with an orangutan?”. Next thing you know she’s calling.

“I’m hoping we can still be friends. Wanna hang out sometime?”
“Geez, I dunno; me and Clyde were going to a monster truck race tonight (orangutans love monster trucks). In fact, the whole social calendar seems kinda full. I tell you what, I’ll make a little note (what was your name again?) and maybe I can squeeze you in. Oh, well, you know my number so don’t be a str-- Hey, look at the time! I gotta skate, Clyde’s making Mojitoes.”

At this point the upper hand is yours. You can let her twist the wind, you can draw her back into your life at the pace you decide. Whatever, it’s your life. But if you’re a smart man? You slowly phase her back in. You’re IM-ing. You’re talking on Live. You get invited to family functions. You bring Clyde, he becomes like one of the family. You’re one big Brady Bunch.

I'm going to be blunt here- she doesn't sound like she really wants you. Sorry. But if she did, she would do anything to be with you. I had a fucked up relationship with a guy and used that same excuse so many times with new guys but deep down, it was because I wasn't that keen on them. The moment I found a guy who interested me completely, I suddenly didn't care about my past fucked up relationship and didn't feel the need to tell him all about it. It's sweet that you didn't push her to have sex. And NO WAY did you take things too fast if all you did was kiss and cuddle and hold hands. Try and find a girl who is worthy of your affections- there are plenty out there.