Hello, I'm Tidus.

I'm relatively new to the scene. I started reading this forum a few months ago, bought The Game, read a few pages, and pretty much left it at that.

My username became inactive, The Game gathered dust, I didn't get laid.

Anyway. If it all taught me one quick lesson, it's to seize the opportunity.

So to cut a story short, a girl who works in a cocktail bar was talking to me and my group of friends. I went in there again some weeks later, and she had remembered me and we spoke again.

I haven't run any game on her. To be honest, as a HB10, I was intimidated by her, and I am an AFC.

In a flash I decided to ask her if she was on Facebook. I didn't even know her name at this point, but she took our some paper, and wrote on it her full name.

Few weeks later I've found her on FB. What should I do next? I haven't even added her yet, because I'm wondering if I should send a message when I add her; however from previous experience (just one girl, however, who I met on a night out) my message may just be ignored and she accepts the request (or in the worst cases, clicks ignore). I'm thinking if I send a message with the add and she ignores it, that puts me straight on the backfoot. However as it has been a few weeks, and she has only seen me a couple of times, she doesn't even know my name; she may not actually know who I am when I add her.

Any help is greatfully appreciated. I've got back into reading The Game and hope to finish it soon. I'm prepared to try my luck with this HB10 though. If I'm entering The Game I may as well start at the top.

I reckon you should just add her mate..
Sometimes you just cannot think that much. Shes just a girl if she slips out, then who cares? Theres many more dude. Thats the rule i go by. You have to show confidence.

cheers

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dressed in majestic splendor and touched by the flames of eternal fire...

well she wrote her full name for you right? so you owe it to yourself to add her!

what was your interaction like before she gave you her name? were you flirting/teasing her? or were you shy and being the nice guy?

if you were teasing her etc...then your message needs to follow on from this...if you were the nice guy....start with something neutral like hey how ya doing? and then progress into teasing her. If you dont tease her and get cocky (in a playful way) you have very little chance of grabbing her attention.

Yes I will definitely add her. I played the nice guy and was pretty quiet so yes I will incorporate some teasing. Do you guys think I should include a MSG when I add her or not?

I'm still new to this but I read The Game and one thing I learned from that is..."to get a woman, you have to be willing to risk losing her." So don't put too much thought into it, just keep it simple. If she doesn't accept, o-well, you win some you lose some.

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"Attraction is not a choice."

i will add her and send a message in the same time. i guess u have a better chance of her adding u

'Do you guys think I should include a MSG when I add her or not?'

yeah a simple msg like "rmember me?" should b sufficient

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kamadeva

Okay, she accepted me after a days (her profile said she was on holiday) and hasn't responded to the message I sent when I added her. I basically reminded her of who I was and asked how it was going.

I've left it a good few days now, so may send another message. I feel on the back foot already though and find it hard to think of something to say that isn't just repeating what I said in the initial message (sounding desperate to send it twice) but can't straight out make a fuss because her initial reaction will be that I'm a dick.

Interestinlgy, this isn't the first girl I've added who has ignored the initial message on the friend request. Same with friends. Hmmm.

when it comes to adding on facebook, i see if i can get girls to add me as my name is individual where as i might not find the exact sophie smith who i was chatting to that night... i always find its good to leave a few days after adding and then jus randomly chat to them on facebook chat... rather than leaving a message that they can ignore, chat is more innocent in a . wel, yr online so am i , how are you ? sortof way.

this has worked well for me, at the end of the day, they have added yu initially.

good luck xx

I wouldn't send her another message. If she got your friend request, she got your message. You said she was on holiday, so let her settle in back home. If she wants to respond, she will... there is no reason to make a fuss about it because surely she doesn't live on Facebook so I wouldn't worry about it. Next time you run into her, don't hesitate to talk to her. It's better in person than over a computer.

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"Vincit Qui Se Vincit"

Yeah, I agree about it being better in person, but I do sometimes find it easily to converse online as you get time to think about your responses. As well as this, I only see this girl when she is working in a bar that isn't too close to me. I'll maybe just have to make a point of visiting a bit more often! I liked the idea of speaking to her on chat. I may do this, initiate a chat when she's online, talk a bit, make my excuses and go offline. This may set up more nicely for the next time I see her in real life.