Hey guys,

So, 1 thing that confuse me lately. When the first time we met a new people, it's obvious that we have talk about ourselves, because we're the one who initiates the conversation, and they don't know anything about us, so we build comfort by mentioning some details about us.

So far, I've progressed quite good, I don't have many problems in getting numbers and attraction, if only the culture in my country is different, I'm sure that I can go for kiss close as well (u can't kiss girls who aren't ur girlfriend here, and it's a very strict rule!).

But today I've read something about qualfying myself and I realized I might shared too much about myself a.k.a qualified myself too much. Now I'm in the middle of confusion between:

talking about myself to build comfort and qualifying myself.

And don't we have to DHV a little bit by mentioning our job or our activities?

Any suggestions here, guys?

Thanks

Best pal,
Steven

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Actually its possible to generate attraction and even DHV by not talking about yourself. You ask them things about themselves, get them talking about themselves (they love it), become interested in what she has to say (instead of her boobs) and remain mysterious when she asks about what you do, by responding with an obviously joke answer.

That's just the other extreme, you can do anything in between.

Qualifying yourself is different to comfort building.

Qualifying yourself should be in the form DHV. (teasing her, stories/activities etc). This should be fun and playful...no serious stuff here!

Comfort building is once you ALREADY HAVE ATTRACTION. It is where the 2 of you get to know each other better by finding out about each others personal lives,hobbies and all that other cheesy stuff. This is where you make her realise that you two are a match made in heaven as you have sooo much in common etc. etc.