I would like to ask the opinion of the forum members if this was a shit test. Coz if it was, I think I failed it big time. Was toasting a HB8 when she suddenly snapped at me "Why didn't u look in my eyes when you toasted? I think its really rude !" I was actually looking at my friend, to the right of me, and I admit that I was distracted. Tried to recover the situation by telling her, I didn't think it was a big deal but I definitely felt I had lost the situation. My question is, a more general one, if you've failed a shit test, is there any way to regain ground? Or is time to move on? Thanks in advance.

You only fail a shit test if you REACT EMOTIONALLY to it. and since your posting it on a forum, you are reacting to it alot.

Next time, dont give a fuck. Thats how you pass shit tests. Thats how you become 100% congruent with your actions (and therefore will always be passing shit tests, since a shit test is a test to see if you are congruent).

My reply to that statement would be "are you from Germany? because toasting w/o making eye contact is 7 years bad sex in germany."

And stop focusing on shit tests so much, focus more on having fun and being in the moment. If your having fun and in the moment, she wont shit test you.

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LMAO.. dont you know that if you dont look into her eyes while you toast you will have bad sex for 7 years

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I do it because I feel like it, and I feel like it because I do it.

keep in mind this MAY not have been a shit test at all....if you found her to be bitchy in general, well she may have been just that, a genuine bitch and was simply giving you a hard time purely because she wanted attention (as you werent looking her in the eye but rather your friend. Bitches can be demanding as theyre used to getting what they want...and how do they get what they want? SCARE THE SHIT OUT OF PEOPLE AND MAKE THEM GIVE IN!).

Either way, your response should be the same (as weeneedhelp mentioned)...dont react emotionally, or dont react at all.

Johngage, out of interest what happened after she said that to you?

I don't think she is a genuine bitch. She's not the needy type. She is one of these girls who just barrel thru, solid and sensible. She's pretty strong psychologically (she's a prison guard !). I guessed that was what surprised me, this was the first time when she actually say something to me with real venom. And to be honest, it stunned me big time.

What happened? I said something like, "Sorry, didn't realize it was such a big deal". We broke off drinks to have dinner (we were having a barbecue at my friend's house), and she didn't bring it up again.

I still have a long way to go Vision, and I think my game needs to improve by a hell of a lot more...

You dont stop growing until you die, but your currently in the uncalibrated "awkward" stage right now. Stay in and keep pushing your comfort zone. You only have a few thousand more approaches to do until you get good.

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