Yeah I'm not even sure why bombshellbrunette is in this forum.

If a guy had the same attitude as her he'd be considered a douchebag. Stop treating everything like a game, if you like someone and they like you, be with him. Simple as that. Else you're going to see acting capricious is going to bite you in the fucking ass.

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I don't think you do disagree, I think you misunderstand. What you just said was that you have a goal. Of course, I agree with that. I said that there is not meant to be a winner and a loser. The winning conditions are that both people win. Sounds like you think you won and he lost. No, neither of you got what you wanted. One or both of you were after either a great partner, or one great night of sex. But neither of you got that, so you both lost. It was largely his fault I believe, though.

Besides, if you won, and got what you wanted, then everything would be fine - and you wouldn't be posting here. It looks like you're posting because you're confused about what happened and wanted some clarification, and for that I direct you to my first post in this thread.

well what should my goal be then?

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Honesty I don't think that guy deserves any nookie.
He spent 10min just dry humping you haha, if it were me your panties would have been pulled off and tossed across the room before you realized what was happening.

He gave you too much time for your female logic to kick in and analyze the situation. Your thoughts were probably, "I am just another notch on the bed post?" or maybe this guy is just a chump not worth my time, or whatever your reason was for leaving.

And your goal's whatever you wish to make it

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No one can tell you what you want!

But I would hazard a guess at "a great boyfriend."

hahahahaha the upper hand. the problem with your mentality is that it's girls who think like that that are the easiest to manipulate. have fun.

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Hey enough with the put downs, guys. She posted here because inside she is not comfortable inside with what happened, even if that's not coming through exactly in her words, her motive is obvious. The only reason someone starts a thread in this board is for help.

Motives:
Well... Tease a guy might be just as good a reason to be in the game, as getting a number - we all have our motives...

and because bombshell is a girl, I think it is easier for the 'poor, confused guy(who were probably thinking: "Score, I did it...")'... but what would girls think about me, if I was in the game, just to work them up, to the point, where they thought: "this guy is so sweet... he seems interested in me... he might be BF materiel"... but when im done undressing her... having kissed her a little... I look at her and say... "it's not going to happen..." - she would be confused and feel sad... "what did I do wrong... we had it... why did he refuse me... is something wrong with me"

But motives put aside - what happened:
I think neither of you won! - and it wasn't a draw either... I think both of you lost... and maybe you lost the most...

like Jaybot pointed out, your sex (good as it might be), isn't that interesting for a guy of quality, he IS able to find someone else, who will offer him whatever he needs (not saying you should have had sex with him)

I think you SHOULD tease him... but not by 'lying'... I believe, that you with all of your bodylanguage and actions said: "it's now cowboy... let's get undressed"... and when he showed you his affection (:D) you pushed him away.

I think, that the push-pull effect was to powerful... and due to the 'quality-guys-get-what-they-want-theory' I think you might have lost him... unless he's not... but YOU wouldn't waste time on a guy, who's whimpy and easy to control... (or??)

Hypothetic situation:
well... you did accept the invitation... and it's not, that you didn't know his intentions... but...

you are in the room(his mother's???) with the guy... he starts to come onto you... he begins massaging your neck... you allow this.. and enjoy it... PULL

he tries to escalate... tries to kiss you... you put a finger on his lips and say something like: "these lips aren't for any guy, you know" or "you have to try harder, if you wanna go there" - both in a flirty way... PUSH

continue this... for as long as you like... and allow him to escalate, when you think it's okay... but...

Don't give him permission to something... and then take away that permission... it creates confusion and destroys attraction by replacing it with frustration...

the mysterious girl is attractive
the confused girl is not

you should have push-pulled him until you thought it was enough for that day... put you telephone in his hand and said: "type in your number, so I can call you some day"... or if you are the kind of girl, that like the boy to take the initiative... given your number to him...

Then you would have WON!!
sry for the long post... lots of thoughts...
Plz feel free to disagree... anyone... it is just my thought

A girl will enjoy sex more then us . due to the fact that her vagina lol has more nerves therefore making sex for her the ultimate reward for her; although she cant just fuck everybody because hey not evey cock is the same and neither every guy; as far as bombshellbruneet i think what ure doing is rite ; however what is it that ure looking for? to trap the guy in some sort of spell and keep him chasing after you , make sure u know what ure goals and principles are and what u want with every encounter; Lol u LMR'D the guy lol ; you clearly dont know what ure goal is you have to find that for youreself it seems to me that maybe u want to be seen as a quality women and u want the guy to work harder to get in ure pants and u want to keep him on a leash.
To all of those who think sex is the ultimate goal in my opinion ure only seeing in from one side , we all have different beliefs , the ultimate goal in my mind is simply to capture her mind steal it and have her craving to be with you , steal her mind and u have powers beyond ure wildest dreams.

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Wolf you filled in a lot of missing information with your own.

The way she described it sounds like what I said previously - she was just along for the ride, he said "you're gonna swim naked" then took her to his room, she's like "wtf?" lets him go along with it, he just dry humps her for 10 minutes, and she's grossed out and says she has to leave.

This crap is why guys become misogynistic. Don't lead him on. If the dude is weird just tell him you aren't interested.

This is insane. Your pussy isnt the holy grail. If this guy wasnt a chump, he would've figured you out and kicked you to the curb. The game isnt meant for you to tease each other. If you both want to have sex, then fuck! End of story!

hahaha i don't want to sleep with him and let the game be over so soon. i wanna make him want me...so i've been trying the push pull on him. last weekend he asked me if i had plans and that we should hangout. i told him i was busy. i think im done playing games with him. he doesn't amuse me that much. i'd rather go out to clubs and fraternities and go sarge for some fresh meat!

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