Hey guys,

I have a serious question which I'd be interested to hear your opinion on.

I have a long-term but not-so-serious relationship with a fun-loving but fancy free HB10 which has the possibility of turning into the most serious of relationships ie marriage and kids in the next month when she's moving in with me with a view to seeing if it could work out beyond just going out and having fun together. She is 30 (I'm 34) and her biological clock is ticking. We've previously discussed having kids and she seems serious about it. She doesn't earn very much or have much career prospects but gets by from her house mate who has some money. We share a lot of interests like music and clubbing and have a great time together.

So, knowing that the time is coming when I'm gonna be a one-girl guy, I thought I play the field for the last time and met a lovely HB6 (only 6 because her ass is slightly chunky but she is very pretty and could be 8 if she worked out). She is only 23 and doesn't want kids yet but in only 2 months since I met her she has said she would be willing to have kids earlier than she had planned because I am older than her. She has a good job for 23 and is willing to wait on me hand and foot (not that I expect that!), but this is the exact opposite of the HB10. She was sexually inexperienced when I met her but I've taught her a few tricks and she's mad for sex all the time now. She knows about the 10 but doesn't know of our plan to move it together.

Who would you choose and why? I thought it would be a no-brainer but there are pros and cons to each girl.

Thanks

I would go for the younger one since the "biological clock is ticking" you still have some time to try before you buy.

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Hobbit: Why so? Surely this is standard thinking in every scenario. Only a crazy fool would make such a big decision on impulse.

Platinum_Digger: Thanks, at least there is a reason behind that but I've been 'trying without buying' for the last 5 years and I've temporarily had the most amazing girls along the way. At some point, a purchase is going to be necessary.

I've decided that further investigation is necessary with the 10 before making the leap. I have a holiday coming up which I have invited her on, which might be the 'make or break' experience.

Hobbit's right. You're not buying a fucking TV, you're trying to pick a mate--a companion for (supposedly) the rest of your life! The only way that will ever work out is if you two are together because you're absolutely fucking crazy about each other.

The worst possible reason to pick one of these girls is because some random guys on an internet forum approved her. Do what you feel.

Your boy,
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No, the worst reason to pick a girl as a life-partner is because you are 'fucking crazy about her'. Impulsive lust is only with us because historically this lead to impregnation. However when you bring contraception into the equation, it doesn't necessarily lead to having a common interest (raising offspring).

'Fucking crazy' is not a good basis for a relationship. More people marry for lust than every before, hence the highest divorce rate ever. I'm looking for something deeper and longer lasting than lust.

Do what you think you should do > do what you feel. Random internet advice is unbiased as you guys have shown so thanks for your contribution.

Nowhere in any of my statements did I even so much as imply that being fucking crazy about a girl equates to simply lusting after her--to suggest that would be ludicrous.

Look, you say you want something deeper and more fulfilling than lust, but you're basing your decision-making on some arbitrary standards involving the girls' bank accounts, likelihood to be happy mothering your children and sharing similar interests. True, none of those things are lust but they serve the same shallow, narcissistic purpose: validation of your ego. "This one girl is hot and poor, but this semi-cute girl makes bank. What do I do?!"

Nowhere in any of this do you address how you feel about either of these girls, and contrary to the last sentence of your post, what you think you should do is usually wrong!

Dating and seduction isn't a logical thing. It's emotional. If you want a solid relationship with either of these girls you have to learn to look at them as something other than a uterus to pump out babies and help support them.

Your boy,
870

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That's right, you didn't say it. I did, because that's what it is. Have you ever been crazy in love with someone you didn't lust after?
Validation of ego? Hmmm, if it was about that, then I'd just take the HB10 right? But its not just about that.
How I feel is that the HB10 is great fun to be around, a challenge being that she has a stubborn personality and but one that would keep me on my toes. The 6 is an easy score and more (even too) rewarding but I wont be faithful to her. The 10 I have been in love with and might be again, the 6 I love but don't think I ever could be in love with.

Love on its own is no foundation for a lasting relationship. Its the mortar, not the bricks, if you get me. My longest relationships have been with girls I've loved but not been in love with. I've had amazingly passionate short relationships with chicks I've been in love with but once the honeymoon is over, there is nothing left.

Congrats though, I think I've realised what I have to do. I have to try with the 10 or I'll regret never giving it a go. There will always be others if it doesn't work out with her. Chances are I'll find out pretty soon.