David Deangelo – On Being a Man
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So here it is, answer the questions they will lead you to a clue of what a real man is all about.
The boy must die
* Sort this and women troubles will sort itself
* What is it? What do you want?
How to define being a man
* What does being a man mean to you?
* How do you become a man?
* What are the qualities a man has?
* What are the qualities a man lacks?
* What happens if you grow up without gaining the properties of a man?
A burning desire for manhood
* Men really just want a woman to like being around him
* Most of us were never shown the way into manhood
* We grew, but we didn’t grow up
The critical missing elements
* Didn’t have a father, raised ourselves
* We were emasculated by our over bearing fathers
* Spoiled by mothers
* Raised by mothers, didn’t have tools to make you a man
* No good initiation into manhood
* Reached adulthood alone
Mysterious missing manhood
* A woman can see instantly if a man is missing his manhood
Maturity
* Babies are horn pre-mature because otherwise our heads will grow and won’t fit through the birth canal
The boy must die part 2
* Boy must die for the man to live
* Man cannot go back to being a boy, like a caterpillar to butterfly
Man psychology and boy psychology
* Man – responsible, structure, carries load
* Boy – Irresponsible, unorganised
* Boys run away from problems
* Questions –
* What are you not admitting?
* What are you running away from? – Rich man from poverty
* What ideals are you clinging too? E.g. all woman are good
* What do you need to realise and accept?
* Where do you accept 2nd class behaviour?
* Where are you not being authentic?
* Where are you not demonstrating integrity to yourself?
* What are you hiding?
* Why are you hiding?
The initiation process
* A boy who doesn’t grow up ends up fighting the boys demons for the rest of their life
The men’s movement and the women’s movement
* Masculine women tell other women to be more masculine and same for men with feminine men
* What would you do if you woke up as a woman?
* There is female structures inside a man, also male structures inside a woman
* Anima and animus, male and female, is us
Boys, men, attractive women
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Strength, protector, leader, mentor to men, source of grounding energy, on his purpose
* Are you trying to get the love, approval? From father? Mother? Women?
* “The disease to please”
Interacting with other men
* Most men normally start off bad because of their father
* Way to the superior mind
* People are born with 4 characteristics towards our purpose –
* Superior at it
* Enjoy doing it
Stay on your own course
* Don’t explain, get her to lead
* Your conscious mind has an illusion that it is in control
Critical counter-initiative theory
* Most people will gamble to prevent losing £100 to £200 to nothing
* “Twinkle fingers” idea bad, idea gone
* Take control of your beliefs, re-frame them with a friend
* Always stay in touch with what you’re trying to do, it’s easy to forget what you enjoy, Write down 3 things that you enjoy
Take personal responsibility
* Refuse to be a victim
* Refuse anyone to take away your joy
Sudden success syndrome and resulting resentment
* Money, success and women never solves inner problems
Your inner world exercise
* Remember a kid from childhood that you liked and one you didn’t
* Write down what you liked in your dad and what you didn’t
* Write down what you like about men and what you don’t like
* Think about what you love about women and what you hate
* All above are projections, what you like, is what you lie about yourself and things you hate is what you hate about yourself
Circle of male development
* Women don’t want men who give away their power
Different levels of energy
* We come hardwired with all the knowhow on how to turn on women
A look at power
* Competition is heavy
* Where is your personal power?
Questions about your father
* What do you need to tell him?
* What have you not admitted?
* What has he not said to you, that you need?
* What have you always wanted from him?
* What have you hated about what he says?
Grief is the doorway to feelings
* First feeling that comes up with men is grief
Allow yourself to grieve
* It is a healthy process
Responding to emotional impulses
* We remember things that happened with emotions
* If a girl says “I just want to be friends” universally means, that you showed up needy with her
The biggest challenge in life
1. Observe yourself, “Be the witness, not the doer”
2. To know yourself – “To see and understand how to see things”
3. Change yourself
4. To let the boy die, let the consciousness grow
* Immaturity and instant gratification are partners
* Maturity and patience are also partners
Individualities
* Process of reaching your potential
* You can get different lessons from the same material
The more personal, the more universal
* Each of our insecurities are common
* Most people are unconsciously looking for permission for anything they do
* You need to take control over your deserving and permission
* Make a goal to understand men first. Then go to work on understanding yourself. Then understand women. Then understand the individual woman you want
The secret language of manhood
* Easy to spot people who don’t get it, ones who pretend and the ones who get it
* A woman knows a real man
Certainty
* Doesn’t exist in reality, even though everyone wants them
* She wants certainty with the experience with you
* She won’t have certainty if she can see that you may be needy underneath
* Most guys communicate “I will kiss your ass all the time” – Which shows certainty in that area
Feature your insecurities until your over them
* Practise making cocky funny jokes about them when you first meet a woman
* “You’re not very good at arguing and I’m arrogant, so this won’t work because we’ll always argue and I’d always win”
* Get over the automatic response of jealousy if they are going to enjoy something without you
* Its mature to let other people enjoy themselves without you
* Mistake – Acting on what you think she is thinking
* People like to be understood, men find it one of the best thing. Most people do not feel understood
* Seek to understand them, get them then help them get to a better place
Maturity vs. Pretending
* Mature has forethought
* Boy manipulates, ask yourself “is this manipulative?”
Becoming a man means giving up
* Throwing tantrums
* Correct people – stop
* Being a know-it-all – stop
* Be aware of your imminent death
Keep death in mind
* Overcome your fear of death and the pain of death
Death does not have to be scary
* If you overcome your fear of death, you can overcome anything
Why death?
* Humans always make meaning and ascribe value
* When compared to death, everything is a gift
* Think about death every day
Live now
* Remember your body will die, live and embrace it
* Do things to get into your body
* Live the life you want NOW
Most men weren’t happy single first
* When you sell your soul for approval, you fell ill at ease
Build a happy single life
* Build a happy single life, prefer and choose being single. Choose a relationship; choose manage/long time relationship
* Become a man with a great life where it would be hard to find time to fit a relationship in
Elements of a masculine self-image
* Self-concept – determine much about your life
* Self-assurance – When you need assurance, assure yourself
* Self-interest – Become interested in improving yourself
* Self-comfort – Be comfortable with yourself
Outward signs of a real man
* Comfort in the presence of –
1. Style, class and refinement
2. Beautiful women
3. Power and high status people
4. Paradox and uncertainty
* Composure in the face of –
1. Competition of other men
2. Loss of setbacks
3. Conflict or drama
4. Tests from women
* Clear paths, boundaries and values when dealing with –
1. Your boss
2. Women
3. Other men
4. Their own life
Exercise, ask yourself?
* What makes you uncomfortable?
* Where do I lose composure in life?
* Where do I reveal clarity in my path, values and boundaries?
7 Virtues and 7 vices
1. Love/envy
2. Temperance/Gluttony
3. Humility/Pride
4. Patience/Anger
5. Justice/Greed
6. Faith/Lust
7. Fortitude/Sloth
* Your unique combination of these makes your character
Qualities of male maturity
* A balanced perspective – understanding there’s always another side
* An attitude of non-judgement – losing the need to judge things as they happen
* An understanding that everyone has a positive intention
* A powerful sense of self
* An air of stability, the deep root, the strong foundation
* Trustworthiness
Breeding Distrust
* Your women live 2 lives
* Told that sex is bad etc
* See all sides of the women and understand her
Concept of the Renaissance man
* Means becoming a master of life and using all features of men
* Learn music, science, art etc
Clues you’re dealing with a real man
* Air of approachableness
* “Never let them see you sweat”
* Unwilling to accept 2nd class behaviour
* Protect himself and others who can’t protect themselves
* Challenge men who aren’t using their potential
External Qualities to consider
* Mysterious confidence – No-one knows where it’s from
* Humour
* Witt – Focused humour
* Charm – Pleasing personality
* Sophistication – Mastery in an area
* Leadership
* Class
* Chivalry – It is the theatre of I am the knight, she is the princess
* Smoothness and grace – eliminate nervous tics etc
* Comfort and composure – You get judged on that 1% chance when something extreme happens
The art of cool
* Not coming on to strong and not completely gone
* Never completely excited
* Cool guy can talk to everyone with no problems
Element of cool
* Saying something off beat and risky
* Sense of food, music, style and culture
* Laid back and unaffected
* Not obsessed with grammar
* Calm confidence
* Can make fun of themselves
* Casual dressed
* Independent, encourages independence in people “Hey go have some fun”
Sexual confidence
* When you are a mature man you need sexual confidence
* Know that the woman will have something with you that she will never forget
* Knowing you can blow a woman’s mind in bed changes everything about how you act
* When you have loads of sexual confidence, conflicts she gives you are just foreplay
Real man
* Accepts things as they are then he tries to change it
* Can show his sword without using it
* Doesn’t need or use threats
* Pillar of security
* Enjoys and encourages people to shine, progress and win
* Needs nothing external to be happy
* Don’t offer everything to women
* Keep places of yourself off limits to women forever
Handling a dominant woman
* Say not to what she wants, set a boundary
* “Don’t touch me”
Be the star not the planet
* Become so solid where no woman can affect you, you affect them
* If you’re a true mature man “You’re really cocky” is a good thing
Dr Paul
* What people want – happiness, success and freedom = Durable fulfilment
* More kings in society than any other temperament
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* What is the meaning of life? Irritable
* Definitions of life is making decisions
* Keeping a formal observing ego
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* If you are destructive for you to feel like you won, then you need someone to lose
* Constructive people see the world as abundance and destructive people see the world as scarcity
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www.DoctorPaul.net
* Life is irritable because the environment does something to it and it purposely does something back
Questions
1. What is the one thing you can do to grow up and become a man?
2. What does a man need to let go of to become a true man?
3. What qualities does someone need to become a true man?
Answers
1. A man grows up when he accepts responsibility for his future
2. A man must get rid of the baggage of his past and focus on the future, overcome himself
3. Become comfortable with himself
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