I am 16, and a senior in high school.

Elementary-middle school I was the shy kid. Not the weird awkward kid, but the shy kid. I had friends.

9th grade I tried to be all james bond - cool because I was going to a high school where I didn't know anybody, so that failed epically and so I made friends with the nerds. I discovered Pick-up stuff in December of 9th grade.

10th and 11th grade I got un-awkward, and into 11th I started being cool (I think).

(I just read that PUA misconceptions thing, and no, I don't arrogantly think I'm better than everyone else).

But despite me not really having any friends, I feel like I'm pretty cool. Really. I'm legitimately GOOD with girls. I can make guy friends. I just... don't hang out with anybody. And, really, honestly evaluating myself, I don't think I'm bullshitting myself. And I wouldn't consider myself psychotically confident.

Help?

Honestly...I don't even know why this is. It's just irritating, having lots of friends at school, then sitting home alone. For 3 days straight every week.

It's like... I can get girls numbers, but what am I going to do with them? I have no one to hang out with, and I can't have them finding out that I don't actually have any friends. YA DIG??


And BELIEVE ME I have been thinking in my head "okay, you sit home alone on the weekends, you're obviously doing something wrong." BUT I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT. Seriously.

Well dude...start hanging out with people...
Do you mean people hang out but they don't invite you or that they don't hang out? Well then invite people to hang out somewhere. Call up some of these school friends and say hey I'm heading to ____ hang out with some friends if you want to come. Then go out with these people and show them a fun time. Be crazy. Do things that people would say no no no we can't do that (nothing illegal lol just fun). Here's something I did, you can skip it if you want but I want you to get the effect of how this works:

I remember when I was in high school I went out with a bunch of people to a mall that had a kids fun area. There was this train for kids so I said come on guys lets ride the train wooo. Everyone thought I was kidding so I decided I was going to go through with it and either look like an ass or the cool guy. I walked there and everyone followed. By suggesting this I automatically became the guy to look at. Everyone followed to see whether I would do it and naturally I looked like the alpha. When we got there the ticket guy was smiling at my suggestion...I knew it was going to work then so I turned around and all of them were standing huddled in a group looking at me. I could see that some of them wanted to come with me so I grabbed the hottest girl there and said with a big smile you're coming with me. We sat right up front where they have controls so kids can pretend they're driving lol. As much of the group that could fit on the train immediately joined us. It worked. I know it did so I just decided to have fun after. Putting my hands in the air and shouting wooooo. The girl I grabbed loved it and she joined me when I did it . I was the fun awesome guy from that day. The story spread to school of course and yeah there were some amogs who tried to amog me because of it but they were easy to deal with because they were so predictable.

Just remember that people love to hang out with the crazy guy who'll take them out of their comfort zone...in a good way. Make a name for yourself. Publicity is good publicity

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Fox

Well, I know how to fix my problem, I guess, I'm just curious how the hell this occured in the first place.


Lol, nice on the train.

Oh I thought you were wondering how to fix it. Well I've been in this situation hence I started doing stuff like the train thing (thanks btw) .
What happens is that our value is low because we're not seen as the memorable fun guy. So although our interactions are great it doesn't give us the value we need to be the guy everyone wants to hang out with. This value may have been dwindling over time and you just didn't see it happen. A lot of us miss change. If you agree that that may be happening then I suggest you take a look at a book called "Who Moved My Cheese." It helps you become aware that change is happening and you can become aware of it rather than sit down one day and think "damn what happened?"

I hope that helps man.

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Fox

This is seriously the best advice I ever got and it applies to this topic:

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