Why do people think that when I fight with a girl I like her?

Why do people assume that because me and a girl fight a lot and hate each other that we are "really" in love

Just because in movies and TVs, when males and females bicker its really playful banter and they secretly love each other, doesn't mean that it works that way in real life.

Is it so hard to believe that a man and woman can fight a lot and hate each other, without there being any chemistry. No one would say that two men fight because they are secretly attracted. Just because of whats between our legs, our fights can't be real. And if she was an older woman, or unattractive, I don't think people would make the same assumptions.

I would say the one thing me and the girl have in common is that we both get pretty pissed of when others refer to us as a couple. Why do all male-female relations have to be seen through that lens?

Shes always very sarcastic and insulting around me, and I'm always trying to outmaneuver her. This is serious business not a game, and just because a girl is attractive, doesn't mean she shouldn't be ruthlessly pushed out of the road, if she won't get out of the way.

Is it so hard to believe that I fight with an attractive girl, for the same reasons I'd fight with a guy? This isn't middle school. I'm not a 10 year old boy
who pulls a girl's hair to let her know I like her.

i wanna see your LR about her. go for it.^^

you two already have chemistry and if you get your mind sorted you might actually be able to transform the negative energy into attraction by simply giving up the IDEA of winning.
dont listen to the stuff she says, except the actual info in it. but react only to that, do not FIGHT back. if you have that kind of a relationship with anyone theres something going wrong, you neednt bother about insults from a chick!
(you shouldnt bother about insults from a guy either but atleast theres really an evolutionary reason for a conflict whereas what the hell could you two be fighting about?)
do no longer participate in her stupid game, instead be yourself and honest to her about what that is, no more acting. takes a little time to reprogram your behaviour around people once youve started acting in their presence, so dont worry if it seems hard.

maybe you should be more specific about your type of conversation, the topics she brings up to annoy you etc.

---GIVEN THE SITUATION HASNT CHANGED DRASTICALLY SINCE LAST MONTH OBVIOUSLY---

if it has, just the LR please