Hi everyone,

I am the girlfriend of a master pua (we have been together a bit more than a year). He is a beautiful person, treats me really well and I love him but he still runs game on other girls. Does this mean he is still keeping his options open and might run off with one of these other hbs he meets? Or am I the only girl he wants to be with? I am just a little insecure about it all!! Please help...

Well, it's hard to say without knowing more than what you've said. But chances are, if he's a master PUA, then he probably has an ego and high self-esteem to satisfy, and needs to keep this validated by gaming other girls successfully. Whether he jumps into bed with one of them is another matter, and that largely depends on you.

You probably need to game him to keep him on his toes. But it sounds like it could be a bomb waiting to go off, as you wouldn't be asking these questions if you trusted him and didn't have suspicions already.

Personally, I think most guys in the community want to find their one true love ultimately and will use game to get there. But if he's found you and he's still gaming, then there could be a more fundamental problem - he's polyamorous by nature!

Also it could just be harmless flirting. Something to discuss with him, that's for sure.

Challenge him, but be playful about it. PUA or not, he is going to enjoy a little banter and fun with his main girl.

You have to keep things exciting or he will start bedding other women. Boredom is the #1 killer of a relationship, that may explain why he is still gaming on the side.

Does he know that you are of aware of his PUA ways?

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Thanks guys. He knows I'm aware of his pua ways but keeps telling me he is just a social person. We have a lot of fun together and I get the feeling that he really cares about me and he doesn't seem like the type to cheat. He tries to run game on me as well and I am constantly trying to work out ways to challenge him with it so shouldn't that be enough to keep him from not running game on other girls?

This kinda reminds me of when my gf found out that I'm "in the game" or whatever you want to call. This is how I explained it to her. This whole PUA thing is largely responsible for why we are together. It has taught to me to be a more fun, social and open minded person. As far as I'm concerned the game is all about giving woman the man she really wants transforming introverted boring geeks into somebody that isnt scared to talk to them that can fuck the shit out of them and that can continue to keep your ass interested in him. I'm not sure if that helps you or not. Chances are that the whole flirting thing is just him internalizing the game. Just like everything else in life if you do it long enough it becomes second nature. So as long as he's not crossing any boundaries I wouldn't worry about it too much. Hope this helps best of luck.

Thanks Mr Vandal,
I like that option very much and that sounds a lot more like my boy! You have cheered me up to know that he might be doing this for my benefit.