hey guys ,
i have a problem, i dont know how to handle situation.
1 boy tocuched ass of my girl's sister and she was saying how dare he is , as i came they told me. i didnt know how to handle the situation to fight with him or to do anything else. the guy became polite when i came there and said hi and to me and said have a nice evening i didnt know what to do.
and is it ok to fight with a guy or a gp or guys if they do something or say something to u or to ur gf when u both r walking on street. sometimes some guys 4-5 start commenting on me when i am out with my girl i am a foreigner and the girl is beautiful i am a medical doctor, due to my work i dont have wish to fight with street guys. i dont know how to behave in such situation and if i fight and get caught by police i am afraid i will be deported. and i dont want that my girl shld think that i am a pussy.
thanks in advance

Girls will not be impressed if you follow through with their requests which turn out to be a bad idea. They expect you to make the right choice, not necessarily do what they ask. You always look like a better man if you can avoid fights.

Most times just your presence will be enough to deter a guy from your girls, and just talking to him all alpha and talking to him in a friendly but sort of firm and akward way, like you know something is up, and having him leave due to feeling awkward, the girls would love you for that.

But if he's not immediately a threat, there's no need to even do that. Tell them to avoid him (problem solved) and just say you'll watch out for him.

Yeah, im going to back up what Conker said, in this day and age fighting carries major risks with it. Heck, a buddy of mine had a "frank exchange of opinions" with a few guys last friday and ended up in hospital all night after being bottled.

I think the solution to this is to (as conker stated) be friendly but firm, show that you wont just stand by and take that sort of thing - but - that your also a reasonable guy. Ive been in situations like that in the past, where a guy keeps trying to dance with your girl or as you say, gropes her ass or something. Usually ill just go up and place my hand on their shoulder, smile(dominating them) and be polite and exchange names, ask if their having a good night etc. then ill say something like "i appreciate that you may just be joking around and having fun, but thats my gf your dancing with/what you did to my gf isnt cool blah blah blah".

And usually after that they apologise. I know that all sounds pussyish and pompous but in my experience its hard to get angry and want to fight a guy whose been nice and polite to you + most guys have been in that situation when some other dude is trying to hit on your girl so you get a certain amount of empathy. Plus, your gf will be impressed you handled it so calmly unlike most other guys.

If you dont think that'll work well then just grab your girl, show them that shes with you and just ignore it.

fighting should only be the last option.

Yeah you hit it on the nail IMO - I've avoided potentially dangerous situations just by talking and even in the case where they're more dangerous than me - by almost befrending them and relating to them. Violence is only for self defence, and if you have to make the first move it should be preventative, when it seems that you have to act quick or someone will get hurt. Fortunately I've never been in that situation yet.

The last thing I dissolved was a drunk young guy, who insisted that I came up to him and kneed him in the stomach earlier that night. I tried many different angles, all while being reasonable and friendly, eg. someone who looked like me, the time I arrived made it impossible to be me, let's just put it behind us and have fun tonight, I'm going soon, but I could see that as long as I was insisting that it wasn't me, he was just getting angrier and angrier. So I decided he might just need to be "agreed with" before he was appeased, and I put my hand on my shoulder and "admitted" to him that I did it, and apologised because I thought he was someone else. His demenour changed completely and he thanked me for apologising and said I was a good bloke, and wished me a good night. I was doing my best to be genuine all the time, and I think it boils down to understanding where people are coming from and finding out what they want.

thanks guys for wonderful replies. i will keep in mind. thanks alot again.

All those are good. But on a higher level... why is that guy doing that? Would he be doing it if he had a quality woman in his life?

The dimensions of the situation can be put in 2 categories:

1) He knew you were with the woman, and touched/pursued anyway
2) Honestly didnt know she was "with anyone" and did what an AFC would do...

Now, as a 10, why wouldnt you see that this guy needs some help and take him a few trips around the room and introduce him to some women? No need to fight, or steer clear of him. Hell, at least he had the balls to do something to engage a woman... how many people do you know who dont do shit? You can earn a new friend this way, AND your woman will fuck the shit out of you because you:
1) defused a possible tense situation.
2) you made that tension a COMPLETE OPPOSITE by MAKING that man your friend.

It takes some practice, but some proper friend making skills and realization that we men are all out (unless your gay) out for the same thing. The ALTRUISTIC way is the way of the 10.

Cheers

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Id of dropped him on the spot haha

She is probably trying to shit test you. Don't fall for it!! Girls like that want to have all the power and in a relationship it has to go both ways. Sure, she can tell you about it and act disgusted but if you do actually fight the guy, chances are she will lose respect for you as she will know she can get whatever she wants out of you and can walk all over you. I knew a guy once who would do absolutely anything I told him to (even when I was joking) and I had absolutely no respect for him and ended up walking all over him and then eventually, I got bored and left him.

So good to have girls inputting here