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| Mr E | PostPosted: Mon Aug 31, 2009 9:11 am | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Zealot |  | Joined: Tue Mar 24, 2009 10:22 pm Posts: 333 Location: Canaries | | Hi guys,
need some tips from guys who have been in this for a while.
I finally seem to be getting reasonable at this. Over the weekend I hooked up with a really nice blond and yesterday kiss closed girl who is a friend of a friend. all in all a good weekend.
Now, my question is I don't want to hurt anyone but I want to enjoy myself too.
I think that the girl I kiss closed last night is looking for a serious long term relationship and the blond, well not sure about her, yet.
I just wanted to know how you guys handle having several girls cos like I say, I am not in this to hurt anyone just want to play the field a bit and see what happen- also I would dread getting caught out.
how is best to handle this? I live on small island.
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| Dangerboy | PostPosted: Mon Aug 31, 2009 9:55 am | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Addict |  | Joined: Tue Sep 23, 2008 9:24 am Posts: 255 | | Just be honest and upfront.
Managing expectations, as others would say.
So tell them that you're just keeping it tidy and having fun and not looking for anything serious, and tell them that you have other girls in your life too.
At the end of the day, if you were honest and upfront with them then they have no reason to expect anything other than that from you.
This is something I feel very strongly about.
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| Lodewijkp | PostPosted: Mon Aug 31, 2009 10:52 am | |
| Offline | | PUA Forum Leader |  | Joined: Sun Jul 12, 2009 4:11 pm Posts: 1887 Location: Netherlands | | i totally agree , just be honest it's the best thing to do.
only when you lie or keep things behind you will hurt people on long term.
about the blond girl , just find out if she wants a relationship.
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| Jaybot | PostPosted: Mon Aug 31, 2009 12:00 pm | |
| Offline | | PUA Forum Leader |  | Joined: Thu Sep 11, 2008 10:19 am Posts: 1688 Location: UK | | yup honesty is the only way, tell them you aren't looking for a girlfriend or relationship at the moment but enjoy hanging out with them. They usually suggest being friends with benefits.
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| Mr E | PostPosted: Mon Aug 31, 2009 6:40 pm | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Zealot |  | Joined: Tue Mar 24, 2009 10:22 pm Posts: 333 Location: Canaries | | Hi,
thanks for the advice.
part of me is thinking, "well if I am honest, none of them will come within a mile of me if I say, I am not looking for a LTR but guess that a lot of girls out there aren't looking for one either." either way in the long run, guess this will avoid hurting anyone.
thanks guys.
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| Jaybot | PostPosted: Tue Sep 01, 2009 12:49 pm | |
| Offline | | PUA Forum Leader |  | Joined: Thu Sep 11, 2008 10:19 am Posts: 1688 Location: UK | | the first time you do it you will be like oh shit this is gonna crash and burn but its not a huge deal. Luckily asshole guys have made women wary of being in relationships which is nice for us. But yar even if she says she doesn't like the idea etc it is nice to be honest
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| Mr E | PostPosted: Tue Sep 01, 2009 2:37 pm | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Zealot |  | Joined: Tue Mar 24, 2009 10:22 pm Posts: 333 Location: Canaries | | Hey bro,
just got a call this mormnig. Missed the call so I rang up wondering if it was some hottie.
anyway, i phone and find out it is the blond I had met on Saturday and she had been calling to find out how my first day back at work had been.
first date tomorrow. this was great because I was wondering if after a couple of days she might have been losing interest but seems that she is up to boogie
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