| I'm a musician too, and I can empathize. At one of my CD release parties a few years ago, I had 4 ex-girlfriends, and 3 HBs that I was currently working. It can be really intimidating...I had a mini-freakout when I saw the list of confirmed resos.
However, you can make this all work in your favor. Remind them that you have to be a social butterfly that evening, because there are going to be industry contacts that you need to shake hands with and charm the pants off of. Each girl will say, verbatim, "Oh, I totally understand. Go do your thing, I just wanted to say that was awesome!" Then, give something (a bracelet, the hat you're wearing, the setlist) to the one or two that you really want THAT evening.
You: "Are you a thief?"
HB: Not at all.
You: Good, can you hang on to the setlist for me? It's really important to me, and I just know I'm gonna lose it.
HB: Oh, absolutely. (she'll smile)
I would do this with the out of state girl, that way there's no chance for her to leave, no matter how much you ignore her. And then immediately walk away. This night is built on takeaways. You get to DHV simply by performing well, you create a high buying temperature for yourself, and then let everyone know that you only have a moment to speak with them, but you'll "be right back." When they watch you speak to other girls, and behave the same way, they won't be offended, because you're not playing anyone. You treat everyone EXACTLY the same way. I used to tell my ex-girlfriend that it was "my job to flirt with girls after the shows because they have mommy and daddy's money and I need to sell CD's. It's marketing and business strategy." Memorize that. Practice saying it. Have fun being the center of everyone's attention that night and hey, break both legs. Happy Sarging.
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