I really just needed to vent a little so I thought I would come here to do it. First of all can online dating really work for everyone? I think not. You see I'm on the shorter side and bald. Thats two things working against me right there. Luckily I'm at least a pretty good looking guy and the shaved head works for me. But online women are constantly writing me off because of being shorter and bald. Can't say I necessarily blame them. I immediately delete messages from fat chicks so maybe I'm sort of guilty of the same.

The crazy thing is in person it's a completely different story for me. Those very same girls that write me off online, I can game all day and have eating out of my hand in person. Hell I'm one of the few guys you will ever meet that got out of the friend zone with a chick and made her my girlfriend!!! Everybody knows that's nearly impossible! Take my last two girlfriends for example. Both were easily an 8 out of 10. Did I meet them online? Hell no. I met them in bars. Would they have given me a chance if I met them online. Absolutely NOT! It's frustrating though because it takes a lot of energy for me to go out and meet women at bars. This time I was really hoping to do it the easy way and go online.

Here is what the real problem is. Online women can't see what a cool guy you are, your drive, your passion, the way you carry yourself, that zest for life, how you treat people, your real personality, your ambition and so on. You get the idea.

I have had no luck whatsoever lately with online dating. I've posted cool pics of myself traveling Europe, with friends, my bad ass house and pool and all that good stuff. I've tried all the different openers and nothing works! So anyway if you've read this far then hey thanks for listening. LOL! This is really just my rant about how I think online dating can really suck for some people.

Thoughts anyone?

I've gotten several numbers/dates before I discovered the community. A simple "Hey, how are you?" goes a long way (if you're on myspace/facebook)

Then again, my friend found his current gf on FaceBook, so it should work.

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I should sue the creators of She's Out Of My League for turning my life story into a movie without my consent.

everyone lies when it comes to online dating. the best way is to make the lie sound reasonable. just make it so you sound like a great catch and approachable. nobody wants to be dating a creepy wierd guy. myspace is best since you can see what their likes and dislikes are as well as they appearance....heres my opener usually on a site like myspace

"hey whats up? I was reading your profile and u seem pretty cool. what else are you into?"

keep it short and simple.

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♥ BSB ♥

Social networking would probably work better for you, as dating sites are ultimately stat driven. In an environment where stats are so prominently displayed it's natural to attach undue importance to said stats and make decisions based upon them. Really this is only a problem if you're outside "average" in some negatively perceived way. Because of the tightly focused nature of dating sites, every piece of infomation is perceived in the context of dating and very seriously. Clearly this is counter to how people operate in real-life and generally proves people are unable to make rational decisions when life is presented in fact. Or it could be interpreted as most people have no clue how they operate in real life. Dating site pua only works if there's nothing about you that women will take an instant dislike to. Such a dislike clouds their judgement of everything that comes subsequently. It's the same effect as when you're in a bad mood, everything gets perceived with "negatively tinted glasses".

Social networking is a much more casual environment and women's perception of information there is not as cutthroat. Women aren't seeing everything in a purely dating context. You can effectively sneak under their radar with casuality. It's much easier to illicit social proof with pictures of you and hot chicks without people feeling the need to think up reasons why you might show those pictures and infact room for lots of other pictures that can demonstrate all the other cool things about you.