I met a girl at work, then on the town later on and got her number. Didn't think about it for a while until for some reason I invited her and some friends to a vorspiel(pre party) two weeks later since there were no girls there. Ended up just fooling around a little by the end of the night, she told me she had a boyfriend. Decided to just not contact her again but faith had it so we accidentally bumped into each other two consecutive Saturdays on the town. We also met at work once in a while (she is not a colleague, we just work in the same area).

Next Saturday she sends me a text asking if I'm out, I tell her where I am and she comes over. We decide to go to her place until her boyfriend calls her and she backs out. After this I decide that since I'm developing feelings for this girl I should just cut contact right away, this looks too much like getting caught in a bad situation, better just stick to one night stands as I always seem to fail when getting too interested.

However, she did not seem intent on cutting contact with me.. Ends up texting me twice. I just couldn't ignore it, was thinking too much about her by now. Send her a text the following Saturday, we meet up and head to her place. Finally I think.

Now comes the messed up issue. I just can't have sex with condoms, no amount of erection can possibly be maintained once I start putting on a condom or I hear the words "wait, let me get a condom". It just don't cut it for me. I should have known this but I have not experimented that much with condom sex and thought it would work. Let's just say I didn't work that night and blamed it on being drunk. Next morning there were no more condoms left and I just ended up giving her an orgasm with some finger/oral work. I got some condoms prepared for the next meeting, which came in the middle of the week. I screw up again, instant erection loss once it's on.
And guess what, she gave me a third chance which I also blew before she gave me the "I think we shouldn't see each other again" speech. She told me she had some issues with just being out of a relationship, plus there were something that just didn't work with me and her even if she really liked me. She didn't say what and I didn't bring it up but I think I know what she was thinking, that either I didn't get turned on by her or that I was sexually inept.

It don't think it's sexual anxiety problem, I've had sex with a decent number of girls, all one night stands or "friends with benefits". I either contribute this to having to use condoms (most likely) or performance anxiety due to me liking the girl too much, which is actually less likely since I have had sex with a girl I was in love with once before.
Please do not give me the speech about venereal diseases, condoms just don't do it for me until I find a solution to the problem.

I am not looking for advice on which potency pills to buy, if I should cut smoking, get a better diet, etc. I've already decided to do those things, well at least the first one.
What I would like to know is if there is any chance whatsoever to get another chance with her after I've fixed my problem. And how should I proceed?
Normally I would not bother to even think of contacting a girl after such an embarrassing chain of events but this girl is on my mind constantly. I've had sex with two "friends" since just to get over her but it didn't work.
Thanks for reading, now excuse me as I go bang my head against the wall while trash talking my rubber allergic penis.

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Funny story... I also happen to have this issue. I had to get drunk, work on getting everything out of my head and just went for it. Once I did it, the confidence comes back and it's smooth sailing from there. They say drinking doesn't help, but in my opinion I was twice as horny and couldn't actually find a reason not to do it. So I didn't get any anxiety.

I can relate heavily to your situation here. I've had sex with this new girl I've been seeing three times now. First two times: I couldn't hold an erection to save my life. My solution is in my first paragraph, but I admit it's damaging as hell. Thought I lost her till something clearly saved my ass on the third go.

Anyway, back to how to solve the problem here. I'm willing to bet that she's a little hurt by how this just went down, since I know how you're feeling, and I'm assuming it's just as bad for them. I would honestly try and make some effort to get her to actually see you again. She was obviously attracted to you at one time and it will come back. I might suggest coffee "just as friends", somewhere neutral. Show her you actually care about her and want to see her regardless of whether the sex is working or not. This might help her feel better about being around you. Keep in mind I am by no means telling you to turn into a wuss. You'll have to curb that feeling that she has against you first before you can take a run at the bedroom again.

It might also help to just get more comfortable being around her. Less reason to gather any anxiety when the time comes.

I'm curious as to how this unfolds, hope it helps bud, I'm rootin' for ya!

Well I thnk she likes you.. just call her up and tell her to get her ass over

I dont see the problem.

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Thanks Draconic. I however do not think drinking solves anything in my case, trust me I've tried that a lot. Plus, I completely lack this problem when I am not using rubbers. I just think rubbers ruin my arousal.
I've tried all sorts of things; imagining the rubber not being there, imagining it breaking, etc. Worked a couple of times in the past but the last year I've mainly just skipped the rubber since I rediscovered how much better it is without.
I've decided to buy some form of potency pill for usage whenever I have to apply rubbers.
I think her whole idea was to have me as a f-buddy, so when I didn't "function" properly she ditched me. She has also stated from the moment we walked home to her place the first time that none of her friends should find out about this. This might either be because she don't want her recent boyfriend to find out about it or because she would be embarrassed if someone found out she was seeing a guy like me. No I'm not ugly, in fact she told me she thinks I'm very pretty, but she knows my sex morals which was probably told to her by someone we both knew and I guess she thinks it would hurt her "reputation" to be seen with me.
One thing I forgot to mention is that she told me not to bother calling her because she would just ignore it. This means I would either have to send a very good text message (I suck at texting) and pray for an answer or do something stalkerish like going to her workplace or knocking at her door...

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