The thing is dude, is that you have to stop basing all of your moves by what you think she may or might not do. That is going to drive you insane because when it really comes down to it, you have no control over what she does.

This is the reality. When most people break up, and the girl is the one that does it, they rarely get back together. Girls do not do things on impulse like most guys and will weigh out all their options before they cut ties. You already stated she had been thinking about this for 2 months...2 MONTHS! For two months she began detaching herself from you until she got to the point where she felt like she could handle being on her own. Give her that respect and let her be on her own.

Do not talk to her AT ALL. Actions speak louder than words. Everytime she says something to you, you are taking it as a sign that she is still interested, when in reality she is just trying to make sure you aren't mad at her and releive herself of any guilt she may have.

I would say at the very very Least you do not say one word to her for two weeks. Most people would say at least a month. You have to let her see what else is out there. Otherwise she will have nothing to compare you to. She WILL date other guys, she probably WILL hook up with them. Get that in your head. YOU SHOULD BE DOING THE SAME. Once this happens you will both be able to see if you are missing what you had or not.

In most cases, guys never take this advice, try to stick around so they are not "forgotten" about and get a big smack in the face when they find out the girl is with someone else. It happened to me, and it WILL happen to you if you do what you are currently doing.

You dated for a year. She won't forget you. I promise. Stop all contact. NOW. DO IT. RIGHT NOW.

Best thing to do is be counter intuitive. Agree with her that the break up is for the best.

(txt) "Your are great girl and you make me smile but I think you right, the breakup if defintelty for the best. You gotta do what you heart tells you. Hope your well, take care"

Followed by no contact fom min 4 weeks. That is YOU dont contact her. If she gets in contact with you dont talk about the relationship unless she does, be happy, dont be bitter, end converstaions on a high etc etc etc

What you have to realise is the only way to actually get her back is to get over her. This takes time.

^ EXACTLY!

i understand... thanks for the advice guys..

well tuesday i came back to my house after training and she was waiting there with a friend of hers saying "they were just in the neighborhood" so they stopped by. i didnt talk a whole lot.. i was so tired. she was just asking me about it and small talk...

but she invited me to a party this weekend. idk y... i said ill see.

i feel like shes either trying to be friends (after only one week!?!) or shes trying to keep me in her back pocket.

never called her for hanging out yesterday and no contact since.

but on the good side.. i got a couple girls talking to me now who wanna hang out

i still would really like to go to this big party cuz a lot of my friends will be there but should i just pretend like shes not even there? any other advice?

You can go to the party. Just do not go with her, or go with the intent that you are going to be hanging out with her all night. You said you have some other girls talking to you, they should be your concern.

She is no longer a priority in your life and you do not need to tell her you are going, or feel bad for gaming other chicks in front of her.

Go to the party, hang out with your friends, be cordial towards her if she approaches you. No need to be rude or approach her, but treat her like you would one of your guy friends if she comes up to you. Now, with that being said I will guarentee you that if she sees you talking to other girls or flirting with them, etc. she will try to interfere or act upset about it. Whatever you do, do not feel bad, or try to comfort her, or anything like that. She dumped you, and needs to realize that your a free man and will do as you please.

To answer your question about whether or not she is keeping you in her back pocket or trying to be your friend, the answer is both. She wants to act like you guys are friends because she knows that you will stick around that way and will always be around until she can find someone to replace you. When that happens, I promise you, she will not care about being friends. Girls are good at this.

Go to the party. Have a good time. Don't think to far into anything she does. Game every chick you can.

Bring the new girls to the party with you.

Score.

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Exactly this.

You cant pretend shes not there. Go with your friends, say hi to her, and have a good time. Dont go with the intent of making her jealous.

You also have to be prepared for her to be flirting with other guys, she will be testing to see how you react. Dont get angry or upset, walk away if you have to. Be above any of her shit and dont let it get to you.

thanks... thats great advice and thats just what i was thinking. been doing well with 2 other girls now that they found out im single.

hb10 just broke up with her bf a few days ago too and shes been hittin me up hardcore.

hb8 has been talking to me a lil bit and she just texted me yesterday saying "rain is single?" and was asking me how long its been etc

def trying to bring one of the girls to the party sunday tho.

hey guys... shes been trying to talk to me again past couple days. not sure how i should react.

that party she invited me to sunday never happened. so ive been doing my own thing with everyone else.

she texts me yesterday asking if she can get some stuff back from me b4 i move out. i didnt reply. and she called me today asking about it again and whats been going on.

she was like, i heard youve been partying huh?, and she invited me to this festival with her on friday. i just said ill see.

idk.. should i give her more time? or should i go out with her and game her again? should i make her jealous now that ive been hanging out with these other girls?

ive been having a great time without her but idk.. she said "i dont wanna make things weird" "i dont want to bother you". cuz i guess her friend told her to leave me alone or something. and thats y she hasnt talked to me in a week.

so should i just keep being busy and give her a break? is it time to make another move yet?

thanks

so a little bit has happened and im confused on what to do now.

weve barely been in contact. she got all pissed at me because of something i said to her friend that turned out to be a misunderstanding. were all good. then she wanted to attend a party at my house when i was out of town and i said i really didnt think that was cool and thought it was disrespectful. she flipped shit for a day but we talked on the phone for a few minutes the next day and were good.

i just told her i want her to respect that i want space and we cant be best friends now. i said i dont hate her and still want to be friends. i just need space now.

so she hasnt talked to me. her friends stopped by with her at my house the other day to drop somethin off and we chatted for a while inside. she called me and told me to give them something of hers. and i told her to come in cuz were talking. she came up with 2 bullshit excuses and finally said "i just dont wanna come in"

and so we havent spoken since. her friends had no clue y she was being so weird.

friday i get a text from her at 4:50 in the am. "whats up?" she says. neither of us ever stay up that late. idk maybe i got it delivered late? thats never happened with her b4 tho.

i never replied...

now she sends a thank you card with a story written in it to my mom about how much she loves her and thanked her for her bday gift and everything she has done and says she still wants to keep in touch and still cares about me.

AND she texts my sister whom she is not close with at all saying how she misses her so much and how they have to hang out soon.

ppl are telling me they think she misses me.
some ppl put up pics of me with some girls at parties from the past few weekends and i have been flirting with an hb10 who knows im just trying to get my gf jealous. were actually great friends n met since ive been single.

what do u guys think i should do now? keep on going n wait for her to make a legit move on me? or should i ask her to hang out for a night.. go night fishin for an hour or somethin?

I'm in a similar situation right now, so I was wondering how this turned out?

A long time ago I went out with a girl for a year who broke up with me also because she felt that I was clingy. I think its pretty normal if its one of your first GFs. I also, like you, went AFC on her.

She also came back to me after a few months. At that point I turned the tables on her. I told her that if she wanted to go out with me again that she would have to work out her own issues. I told her that she should be alone for a while, and if she was still interested to seek me out, but that I wouldn't be sitting around waiting.

It worked out nicely. Not only did she come back to me, but she took the time to work out her issues, and, since it was on my terms, and having worked on myself, clinginess was no longer an issue. We broke up eventually, but that was for the best.

If what you want is her back as a girlfriend, then I would suggest that you tell her that you can be friends, but make yourself unavailable. Telling her you're busy is not as good as actually being busy, but it is still better than doing things likely to land you in friend-zone. If you spend time with her, it cushions the blow for her.

Since she found you to be clingy, make sure that you're busy doing lots of interesting stuff. Work on inner-game especially. Clinginess is a result of lack of confidence and of not having other interests.

If she comes back to you too soon, let her know that you have concerns too, particularly since she's starting to show a real pattern here. Decide for yourself whether you're still interested in a relationship, and under which circumstances. If she's not willing to play ball, then its not worth it.

Best of luck!