okkk first off lemme just say sorry for not being active here. i was a lil busy.
anyway, here we go..
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Ugh...
She's playing you bro...
Why would she be with her boyfriend on vacation?
If she really liked you she would straight dump him.
Ugh this has happened to me 1000000000 times she's PLAYING you.
Yada yada "I like you yeah I loooove talking to you you're cute etc etc" but she's still with her boyfriend.
Shit dude I don't know what to tell you honestly.
I like you too damn it.
Hope you get her though which will be hard as hell.
yes i realised this, i thought i was being played, which is why i posted this here.
well we did start actually "talking" a day b4 she went on vacation which is why she couldn't/wouldn't dump him (not defending her, just saying).
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shes a HB6
why are you talking to her?
umm because she has PERSONALITY and she can hold up a dam convo and put in some good points of her own. (not being an ass, thats what i actually look for in a girl)
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Isnt it obvious? He is desperate.
....thanks
lol
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Cashier, you cant let one girl have such tremendous effects on you. I suggest you go read some material.
she doesnt have a "tremondous effect" on me.
i just actually liked this girl she is (i think) "gf material"...i donno, maybe your right.
iam doing the reading, but will do more. unfortunately i dont have alot of time on my hands, i do what i can when i can.
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Amen to all above this.
Cashier, I know you don't wanna hear this but unfortunately it's plain as day TRUE.
SHE probably did like you but her OTHER man just stepped up to the mantle, with a little more conviction than you did. This will hurt, I know, I've been there myself.
But girls and guys BOTH do the same thing (see two/more people at once). It's like trying on a few jackets before you pick one to buy, that's all she was doing and you can't really pass blame on her.
And just my $2 the number of guys who mis-read a seemingly sweet girl and somehow think they need to behave more placatory to get them is insane. At the end of the day, EVERY girl, sweet or bitchy wants a cocky, confident ( read as 'a guy who knows she wants to have sex and creates the opportunity for it aggressively' ) guy.
It's better you heard it from us than to live a lie and become deluded.
Your choices are, to keep contact with her and use her as pivot material. Perhaps use her to work on your inner game - might even be worth it seeing as you've had no gfs. The question is whether you are mentally strong enough to do it.
But most importantly, consider this one as dead and actively seek OTHER opportunities. If you wanna flip this one around you have to become another person. An alpha male, I get what I want.
yeah i also realize this now.
thank you, and i will take your advice. i also appreciate the tough love lol.
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I don't get why you didn't lie to her about your past relationships. If you say to a girl you never had a girlfriend then in 95 % of the cases she will not feel attracted to you anymore. Girls want what other girls have/want. If you never had a girlfriend that means nobody has ever wanted you so why would she settle for a loser ? I am not saying you are a loser. You probably have confidence issues which are the reason for you never to have had a girlfriend and if you solve them you will for 100 % date a lot of women. But this is her mindset and the way she thinks about you now.
If a girl tells you to wait for you, you don't wait for her. If you tell her: "OK, I will wait for you untill you dump your boyfriend" ... man that is one of the biggest DLV possible. There doesn't exist anyone less attractive than the man waiting for a girl to dump her boyfriend. If she dumps him, she will probably stay with you untill she finds someone else and dump you. This will make you feel very bad because you will understand that she just used you. Don't be scared to lose her. Be a real man. You shouldn't be the one begging for her, she should be the one begging for you. I would tell her something like : " You know, I am gonna be honest to you. I really liked you but I don't feel like waiting. That's why I started seeing other girls. But we can still be best friends. ". Don't be scared to tell her this. Don't be afraid to lose the girl. If you are afraid to lose the girl, you will almost always lose the girl. And this shouldn't be a lie. You seriously should meet other girls. You will notice that not only you will meet better girls than her but she will probably crawl back to you because you showed her that you have options and are not needy. That is a very attractive way to be.
i thought we werent suppose to lie. (either way, i dont like to)
i know girl doesnt want a guy that nobody wants, which is why i just didnt flat out say that i've never had a girlfriend.
i realize that is a DLV, which is why i didnt say that i will wait for her. (cant remember exactly what i said but def. did not say i would wait)
-- then she asked me if i would like her for awhile and i said "noone knows what the future holds, i cant tell you how iam going to feel later, i can only tell you how i feel now" (dumb? i feel like it was, but i was going blank).
iam not scared to lose her (iam a man lol), but i do
want her.
i do constantly talk to other girls, but actually telling her this is a good idea, i've never thought of that. should i just go ahead and say this to her right away?
Well, my plan b4 actually reading this post was to just stop talking to her until she got back (in two days) then see what happens then.
what if she calls/texts me? should i just ignore her?
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