if you read the game im sure you know what im talking about, one of the guru's told his students to do something like go up to girls and say im an alien what flavor bowling ball do you like the most or some crap like that...

The reason i say this is because i've recently been talking to random girls around campus to help get me more comfortable around them, but even just talking about random stuff i get nervous and choke on occasion... pathetic i know but i gotta get over it...

So im asking this to see if anyone was once in my situation and what did they do to get over it, anyone do anything crazy like the alien bit or some more mild stuff???????????????

thx all who answer

I'm going to a club in Toronto this Saturday. I promise you I will try that line and tell you how it worked out. Just remind me.

_________________
"What doesn't kill us makes us stronger."
"Do not fear the unknown - embrace it."

lool, but have you done anything in the past to overcome your fears like this?

Actually, I'm a pretty hyper person so I never had huge issues with talking to people. Sure, anxiety could be a bitch, but just try to ignore it instead of trying to find ways to overcome it.

I don't know; guys, correct me if I'm wrong.

_________________
"What doesn't kill us makes us stronger."
"Do not fear the unknown - embrace it."

make random conversations with all of your friends. not about the things yall usually talk about stuff you might say to a girl (on a hetero plane of course). stuff like stories and such.w/e pops into your head.

oh ya you can do what i did watch 57x more television than anyone should ever watch.lol i never freeze up or stutter. but since you most likely dont want to spend your next 10 yars in your room just watch comedy's (i'd sat stand up would work the best) just anything really that'll keep you on your toes articulately.good luck

to quote starsky and hutch - "do it do it"
once you randomlly start walking up to people you stop getting that feeling in your gut telling you not to even bother.

"I'm Manny the Martian, what's your favorite flavour of bowling ball?"

I considered doing this actually, but I decided instead to get over my problems of starting conversations with people by getting them to start the conversations instead and once I had talked to enough people and gained confidence talking to complete strangers, then I found I could just walk up to people and talk to them without a problem. I like going out and juggling, especially using my colour changing LED balls because they attract so much attention and you get crowds of people wanting to talk to you.

Also, another great way to get over it is to start conversations with people that HAVE to talk with you. For instance, when I am out at the bar, I will start conversations with the girls working the beer tubs. Or when I go into a coffee place, or grocery sctore, or fast food place, I start conversations with the people at the tills and you know they aren't gonna stop talking to you unless you really creep them out or something, cause that's their job. Just make sure you don't use the same conversations everyone is using ie, "nice weather we're having" and lame things like that. Use your typical canned openers and opinion questions and then it gives you the confidence to use it on the random girls you meet in the same places, but that aren't working there.

way back in freshman year of high school when i used to be a total AFC.. my friend who was an even worse AFC used to throw me into weird social situations with groups of girls to completely embarrass me. After awhile I just started laughing about it and stopped caring. from then on it wasn't an issue.

As for openers with girls it can be quite difficult to bring up some retarded thing like you're an alien.. be yourself and ask their opinion. it's the best way because you can control the conversation.

YOU: Hey, i need your opinion on something?
HG: sure.. what's up

here's where you open with an opinion.. there's tons of them on here and all over the web if you google it. Try it this way as you'll feel quite a bit less stupid and actually have a chance of succeeding instead of making yourself look like an idiot to get over a fear of talking to a chick