May be wrong but my read on this is...


"and old friend" = a old fuck buddy they've probably had a past hence why she was "comfortable with him" she may have put her hand there instinctivly from doing it in the past or it could have just been a shit test to see what you would do ..

None the less I would have said nothing to her walking into that, I would have bent over and quietly told him in his ear you can have this skank I got a better ones on lock. Looked at here an gave her the italian golf tap tap to the cheek and said see you around. Then went and gamed on ever chick in the bar in front of them.

"...i caught a glimpse of her in the vip section, so i walk in and she is sat on the bar stools facing a guy with her hand rubbing his knee. Anyway instead of causing a scene i kept level headed and i gave her the benefit of the doubt that he might be a friend. (1. is this wrong?!) So i walk over, she introduces me (Still with her hand on his knee) and hes says hes a friend who she hasnt seen in a long time..."

This is inappropriate behaviour, period.

First of all, what does her hand do on his knee for longer than 0.5 seconds, regardless of if you are there or not?

Second, she mentions he is a good friend not been seen a long time. You have to give her the benefit of the doubt, I agree. Nonetheless, after you have shortly made out with her in front of this guy and introduced yourself to him (in the way some of the guys here on the forum already described), you should seated yourself on her chair and put her on you lap, while at the same time you are seizing the control of the of the conversation by asking questions like (you seem friendly and interested in his company):

1. So, how do you know each other? (to both of them)
2. Where are you from buddy? (to the guy)
3. Well, I never heard of you. Some of her friends I know already. He is such a nice guy (to your GF), I know many like him. Nice meeting you pal with a big smile (to the guy)
4. So, what's with the ladies? Nice guys should have nice ladies on their arms, isn't that right? (to the guy)
5. Well, you have a really great friend, she is so considerate while she can be such a naughty girl sometimes. Cool girl though, she is very nice. (to him. Then give her a hug and make out heavily again).

Note the amoging (subtle insults, while you are still friendly). Most guys give up and walk away. However, if he is still around, tell him "excuse me", than insert yourself between him and your GF and order two drinks, for you and for her. Position yourself such that he ends up at 5 o'clock. You are not turning your back frontally to him, but the situation is becoming unbearable to him anyway. Than make out again with your GF.

The most important thing is to keep cool and smiling a lot. Comfort her enough so she is willing to make out with you. Then, in private, confront her with the situation. No explicit accusing, just make the point, in a cool way, that you don't tolarate this shit.

Then her own role in all of this. Her hand is at the wrong position, a way too long. Then she says it's a good old friend, while you think he is not. Sorry to be hard, but this is intolerable and she needs to know it. You have standards and you don't want this.

yeah thats some good advice. However, to this day she still doesnt understand why i was annoyed by it, which still pisses me off!

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Think logically, not emotionally.

Women understand everything and know everything. But when they dont want to acknowledge their mistake they act dumb. I think since you have told her that you dont like her behaving that way, this should be more than enough. IN her head she would know what pisses you and she shouldn't be doing it again.

I think getting on your GF right infront of an AMOG can be a bit obvious and make you seem afc. anyone agree?

If you exxagarate, it will be obvious indeed. It will show some insecurity of you.

An alternative is to have a few words with the guy (some casual talk), then excuse yourself for a very short moment (like you are going to take a leak or without mentioning where you are going, stay away very shortly). After you get back than resume the casual talk with the guy for 20 seconds, hereafter make out with your GF while you keep eye contact with the AMOG (while you tongue her).

In this way you circumvent the problem of appearing scared that someone will steal your girl, you appear polite to the AMOG and you make clear that YOU are there with this girl. Everybody will get the point. Nobody will have a case against you. Only the AMOG will have the feeling that you are making a fool of him.

A few mechanisms are work here. Your girl (and others in the neighbourhood) does not get the feeling that you are a jealous, insecure guy, which is very attractive to her. The AMOG gets a sense of confidence in his case now you are gone. However, when you get back, you take everything from him that you gave him in the first place. This is very deflating to a guy: he gets the feeling you are the one who is stealing from him (initally, he probably assumed the two of you are not even a couple, this is what gave him the guts to approach in the first place. Now he must face the facts).