so i went out 3 nights sarging with a new wing this weekend, first 2 nights i had so much fun, had the opportunity for 2 F closes which i wasnt intent on taking up and even earnt myself a stalker from the first night and opened and enjoyed approximately 5 sets all leading to fantastic conversation the next night, not one set approached didnt enjoy our company. so i was on cloud 9 as you can imagine, then however the third night my wing and I headed out and nothing was amounting and we fell stuck inside our heads and its like we were trying to approach to get into state instead of approaching while in state and just enjoying ourselves. The vibe i could feel was awful, and all i could see was everyone having fun even if they were drunk.

I can put that down to practice I dont mind, but why is it, that even though we did so fantastic the first two nights I am left with such a bad feeling in my stomach? Like ive done something wrong? Its like I feel I never even had success at all.

Has my self image or reality been crushed? is it ego? do i have too much expectation on myself? because of my initial success is my ego taking over? this was my first real weekend sarging. Can someone give me some helpful advice on how to perhaps look at this so i can learn from it, as im sure everyone has nights where it hasnt come together and knows what im talking about. This sucks.

Hey man,

First of all RELAX.

Ahhhh, thats much better

The feeling(s) you are explaining has to be broken down, only by you.
I remember going out, drinking a lot, the night flying by and waking the next day feeling very negative. Hell, I would go out sober, have a laugh with everybody and still come back home feeling like something was missing, feeling a set of negative feelings.

However, I can tell you want to understand what is going on. I believe its all inside of you. I'm sure any good person can tell you that. What I mean is:

Sit down and write down what you expect on a night out;

Do you want to JUST get laid?
Do you want to JUST have a laugh or two with a group of women?
Do you want to have fun with a group of people and attract the hottest women to you?

Personally, I would prefer option 3!

My point is that you seem to have a lot of expectations and maybe you expect 100% success and your impatience has led you to feel disappointment whereas you should be giving yourself time to learn about who you are, what you enjoy, and then having all that you want (beautiful women and great social group) to eventually become a strong part of your life. You may be on a roll for two days and not for one, but its how you REACT to what has happened that will enable to sort your issues.


Stop me if I'm going too fast.

But does this make sense to you so far?

haha the first tip of relaxing got a smile out of me

Neither nights was I drunk, I hold a reasonable level of alcohol intake these days i remain quite socially aware.

Option 3. No question. That being said when i return home, option 1 thanks

Perhaps i do expect too much and if that is what im experiencing do you have any advice on how i can curb the emotions that come with it?

e.g I used to fear the being blown off, however going through enough material to realise it's part of the game and without being blown off I wont develop and grow in this area has given me an inner confidence to not worry about being blown off. i try to look at not reaching success the same way but its not quite working, feels like maybe im trying to apply an inner game band aid but the cuts too big. Something isnt right.

I know this is where i should revert back to tip 1 of yours but i need to learn to understand and accept a non responsive night in order for me to be able to react in a positive way. Im trying here, really.

Thanks for helping me look at this one, I'm coming along way if you saw me a year ago you would swear I'm someone else.

I just think you needed some sleep. Going out 3 nights in a row is against human nature. If I go out after a good sleep, I feel very happy and am in state. But if I go out every night at some point I get sleepy and don't feel good which fucks up my state. If you want to sarge every night, I suggest you to go home earlier (maybe at 2 in the morning instead of at 6). You have a biological clock and if you mess it up, you start feeling depressed which results in a bad inner state.

that's a very interesting point.

each night i would say i fell asleep approx 4am. worse yet each day i was up around 9.

come the third night i was so tired as was my wing we forced our selves into it, however i was feeling more tired on the friday night and we had an absolute ball.

A big part of what ruined our night is we went to a club which was full of muscle heads and we arent experienced enough to over come that kind of SPAM, we can tear up a room but only under certain circumstances. When there is drunk beefcake egos everywhere it gets pretty tough, so we took off and over analyzed our down fall and never just had fun.

You have high expectations which is good. Don't let that get the best of you. None of the best even have 100% success. If you aren't clicking with a group or a girl, even if your game is on, then it's best to just shrug it off and move on. You prob would never get along with her anyway. If I'm feeling a bit out of the zone I try to just start friendly stupid conv with anyone around me (mostly men) and draw other people in to the fun SPAM I'm creating. If you feel a bad vibe just go for life of the party fun guy. If nobody is into it you may have stumbled upon a bunch of dorks.

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cheers guys.

I can see why they call it pick up artist, not pick up science.


im going to take this from my bad night

1.) dont go there again on saturday night
2.) dont rely on creating momentum with girls to be the reason for a good night
3.) let it go and take it in as experience when a night does not deliver