So Ive been talking to this girl for about a month now and everything was great in the beginning, we would talk for a few hour every night and she would message me throughout the day, but now she hardly calls (I was hooking up with her best friend a few months before i meet her). Now, she tells me she likes some other guy. Is there any way to make her jealous and want me more or should I just say fuck it? I feel like I am in that push pull stage.

1. Star in a movie that Johnny Depp is also in.

2. Start sleeping with her older sister.

3. Hook the dude she's interested in up with some other babe.

4. State dating a girl much better looking that her and make her know about it (without going out of your way to tell her).

Well it sounds like you talked on the phone A LOT and messaged A LOT, but how often did you actually hang out in person? If you talked to her 24/7 like it seems, where is the mystery in that? How are you making her chase you?

Perhaps she barely calls you because she talked to you ALL the time (not in person) and there was never anything new to say. It got old and now she is into another guy because it is something new and fresh.

The push/pull stage should have been going from the start. That's how you get her to chase you and that's how she will stay interested. Cat-string theory: you put the string down early on if you waited until now to push/pull.

I don't think you need to make her jealous here, you need to be that new and fresh that she is semi-leaving you for. You said you "talked" for about a month, may I ask how far you advanced with her relationship wise? There's a chance she was wanting you to make a move and you never did, so she moved on.

I'm not trying to sound like an ass, sorry I came off as that. I'm just baiting you for more information by asking questions and giving you possible scenarios that could have happened. I could be off by assuming the majority of communication was done over phone calls and texting. I got that impression by you saying she texted you through out the days and called you at nights and now she barely calls... leading me to believe it is abnormal for communication to not be over the phone since you're bothered by it. If I am way off about that, maybe you can tell us how things went when you did hang out and we can analyze what may have gone wrong there, if in fact it was even anything you did.

I've had plenty of situations like this. After talking to a girl for a little bit it'll go cold. After looking back over it, plenty of opportunities presented itself and I didn't think about acting on them.

Now I'm not saying that's happened to you. But with girls you have to make stuff happen pretty quickly, especially if you don't see each other in person. She'll just get bored and move on to something new

Cut the cord.

Move on find a new chick.

Damn you remind me of my AFC days where I'd waste whole summers talking to ONE girl and STILL get denied/ her staying with her boyfriend.

Go in a club find a new hot chick (Or ugly w/e you're in to) and show her you're preselected and of higher value and that you don't care.

Don't try to get her to stay with you and "oh baby I'm better than him blah blah" tell her "It's fine, go for him I hope you guys have a grand time together"

Watch her reaction.

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Hi guys thanks for your help and sorry for the late reply. Vegas to answer your question we never really see each other Im in New york and she is in Baltimore. So basically all of our communication is over the phone. Even though we don't see each other we can talk about everything and I know she was definitely falling for me.
She has basically liked this guy for like a year and then she meet me and things were going great between us, we were both falling for each other, but then she talked to her best friend who told her about our history, and ever since then she has been off. This other guys seems like a duesh bag but no matter what i say now she has that one thing stuck in her head, me and her friend hooking up. So is there anyway i can get back to the way it was?


p.s. .....You said i need to be new and fresh.....any examples or suggestions?

Eww @ long distance relationships.

Go out in clubs read some material it'll work brosepity ploz trai dizz k?

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I know what you're saying.
But sometimes you gotta do some serious analyzing.
I would definetly get more action by just skiping all girls that wount go to bed with me
within a week of gaming... but where's the fun in that?
Personally Im for the moment really tired of just hitting on everything that moves,
and to me, thats not what its about. Im looking for quality.

If this guy has found a quality girl that has been into him, but then started drifting, it could be worth a couple of shots to try and get her back.
Most important thing is to learn.
But guess its up to everyone to decide for themselves, but for me
the game isnt over just cause I get a full close.

Nothing wrong with your angle though!

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Vino, vedi, vici.
I drank some wine, I saw her, I conquered

The Q is: Do you really like her that much to waste a lot of days making her jelous.
or do you just want to full-close her.

if its just the full-close i would say cut the cord plenty of hb's around these days.
But if you really like her. its no waste of time but fun time.
its up to you;)

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It's called a jealousy plotline and this is how its gonna work. Take her out to a club and bring a friend that you trust. In front of her sarge and pick up a hb10 tell her to find a someone and have a good time. Any guy in the club will be less likely to try and close her if they see she is with your friend. Don't K close the hb10 but a # close or something along those lines help. This shows preselection and amplifies any feelings she already has.

Dr. Gonzo please read a thread before you reply in it. This is a long distance relationship and he can't take her out in person.