Hi guys,
I live in Spain but am here on holiday in England at the moment. It is kinda of work and holidays combined.
I have approach anxiety on a kinda "lord of the rings" scale if you can imagine that and it is unbelievable what I actually go through emotionally just before I appraoch depending on how hot the hottie is.

Anway, last night, it was funny because I am back in ENgland and have a lot of friends and we were in a bar hanging out adn there were like loads of sexy French girls who had brought over students from France and I was running game on just about the whole crew. Every single set hooked fine. The problem is that I can bullshit and make nice conversation and get the babes laughing but escalating and just start making out for me is just scary as fuck.

I did kino, I did cocky funny and so on.There were loads of colleagues there but I just couldn't escalate to go for a kiss close or any kinda making out. this is my sticking point.
So, I guess a kinda text book answer would be that I should wait for 3 IOIs before I kinda decide to show any kind of interest. I always try to avoid showing interest because it could make me vulnerable.
anyway, this afternoon i will be going for a walk with this Spanish girl who has got two tits that could breast feed the whole of Spain but not sure if she will be coming along with her chump SPAM(he is a nice guy but not into pick up at all)

How do you escalate properly so that you feel you are "in"?

thanks guys.

Based on your comments you need to work on your inner game and confidence and your ability to escalate will come! I would highly recommend materials by David DeAngelo and Hypnotica to give your inner game a good direction. The problem is not so much you don't know how to kino, or escalate, its your mental barrier.

If you have that much anxiety you might seriously need counseling or other avenues to help with that. Don't view that as a mark against you, everyone needs some help here and there.

The question here really is, "Why do you feel like you shouldn't escalate?"

Do you feel unworthy? If Yes - Work on your inner game.

Does it feel socially awkward? If Yes - The more you kino and get use to it the less awkward it feels. Plus take a night off of game and just watch people. Believe me this is very natural to occur.

Are you afraid of what she'll do? If Yes - Again work on inner game. Your confidence and ability to shrug off a rejection is what will help with this.

All the above? - See the answers...

Hope this helps point you in the right direction.

Jon

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Hi J

was just reading your post.
thanks alot for replying.
anyway i liked your question "why shouldn't you escalate?"
and it is true, the more I get comfy with the idea of escalating the easier it will be.
it is all down to practise and persisitence.

thanks alot,

Not a problem! Just remember just like in dancing and most other social interactions the man is expected to lead. Its our responsibility to initiate kino, the kiss, ask her out, phone her, lead in a dance, etc, etc. It is just part of things and its perfectly natural to escalate things. When you do escalate and if she resists never apologize of it, just don't let it be a big deal.

I think you'll be doing well with this in no time.

Best of luck,

Jon

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Hi,

like you were saying before my barrier is more mental than anything- maybe I just don't want to get rejected thinking that kino may lead to some kinda immediate rejection but I think if I continue to work on my inner game things really are going to happen.

Thanks again bro