I kind of agree with some of the point the people here have made about your boyfriend, but guys seriously, just because this guy doesn't live up to certain 'PUA standards', doesn't mean she doesn't feel attraction to him. PUA's aren't the only people who have girlfriends you know.

I wouldn't ignore all their points but just saying 'leave him' is not helpful!

Stop being soo sensitive. You are not listening carefully to the direction I have dropped
Every 3some is different. And starts differently. By reading a few reports you would get different ideas on how to initiate. And I said you dont have much of a problem here because its true. When one of the girl is willing half the battle is won.

This was a word of caution

You might loose him if 3some is not in his reality. He might not want the mother of his children to be someone craving for 3some. hence he might enjoy it but never want to lead the relationship to the alter. Communication is key but he should be willing.

Wow, knock out!

nuff said.

If you want a game plan as for what YOU can do, that's fine. If you are trying to get your boyfriend to do something different (as the title of your thread implies), you're fucked.

Yes I want a game plan for what I can do - not him. I realise how my initial post miscommunicated what I was looking for, and it is my own fault for wording it wrongly, so again, apologies for that.

So simply, I want to come up with a game or a tactic about how I (ME) can approach & seduce girls, when we are both out together. Him being there, whether in the background or mingling with one of my friends or whatever is important, as of course, it will be a bit strange for me to go out on my own, approach girls and try to get them back to our place with them not even knowing what he looks like or what sort of person he is. So no, I am not wanting to change him or wanting him to do anything at all .... I chose to describe him how I did so that it would be noted that most of the work will have to be done by me...So yes, he will pretty much just be turning up (as usual lol) and me doing all the hard work / chasing. The only difference is he will be there at the time of me approaching these girls, as opposed to my previous technique.

Ok let's see if I can explain myself better....I know a PUA who is very well known in the circles and regarded as one of the "best" or whatever. I wont say we are friends as such, but I know him. Anyway, he has a bi gf and he has somehow trained or taught her how to pick women up for threesomes. So they pretty much go out and she goes off and finds girls who they take back with them. They have threesomes nearly every weekend. He doesnt even seem to do that much or get involved in what his gf is doing (which will be similar to what my own bf would do if we were out)

I never knew this existed until I witnessed it. And I prefer and want to learn this instead of my technique. Even though my technique works: I dont want to use it anymore, it is very time consuming and alot of effort and it can often produce a girl who can become psycho, obssessed, head over heels in love with us / or the situation, wanting to move in etc....which is not ideal!! So I dont want to use this anymore!!

The reason I have not asked him (the PUA) about the technique he uses, is because he is quite close friends with some of my close friends/family: who of course do not know about that part of my life.....if it wasn't for that, believe me I would have asked him / her ages ago and learnt it!!!!...which is why I have now ended up on this forum to see if I can learn it this way...

For the record, my bf does not object to threesomes, I am not forcing him. He is the most laid back person in the world. We never ever ever argue and we are best friends. We speak to each other about everything....so yes he knows how I feel in wanting to find girls and what I am saying here is all stuff I have said to him myself. He is ok with it all

Anyway, no one has yet offered me any advice or real suggestions....granted alot people wont know it, that is fair enough, if someone does, you can always feel free to send me a private message if you prefer. I know there is defo a technique is doing this (like I said, I have witnessed it many times with this girl doing it, I just need to figure out what it is... ) Hopefully there may be someone willing to share some suggestions with me. And hey, don't disregard me as a "newbie" novice whom one may prefer to just not help or advice, who knows, maybe I may be able to teach something too, in terms of my own techniques.

Who is the PUA you know? If you name-drop him here I might actually be able to tell you exactly what his technique is.

well, threesomes are generally more for the women. for guys the pleasure is totally overrated.

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Why does your guy have to attract a girl for a threesome ? Why don't you attract a woman for your threesome ?

Ok - got it!

Let's see if I have the facts straight:

The Facts:

You have a technique to pull threesomes.

It is a long process that takes months.

It requires a lot of effort.

You want to continue to pull threesomes.

You want to learn a new technique.

You have grown weary of your technique because you are meeting girls who have become psycho, obsessed, and head over heels in love with ya'all or the situation.

You want your b/f to be present or close by during your pick-up.

Your boyfriend does not have to participate directly in the pick-up.

You know of a PUA who has a technique you want to use.

You do not want to ask the PUA about the technique.

Do I have it?

Analysis:

Your technique to pull threesomes involves a lot of time and effort. As the time goes by the girls you are gaming form a friendship with you, and eventually an emotional bond with you and/or your boyfriend. After a period of time the friendship becomes sexual and you have a threesomes. You are not interested in a polygamous relationship and after a few sexual encounters you break off the physical relationship with the girl you are gaming. That's when the girl goes psycho because she felt a strong bond with you and you unexpectedly took it away

The problem is you are misleading your targets. You are running girlfriend game on them when all you want to do is get laid. I have a friend who makes the same mistake over and over and over again – he runs girlfriend game, then doesn't want a relationship and winds up with stalkers.

I think there is an easy solution to your problem: you should try to pull girls back to your place for a lay either the night you meet them, or within a few nights of meeting them. Usually a girl that has sex with you the night you meet her will not be looking for a long term relationship (at least, not at first, you can try to move the pickup in the relationship direction, but you don't want that right?).

Pulling one night stands is easy: find a girl who is talkative, start kino, if she responds positively invite her back to your place for a movie or a drink. It should be much easier for you to pull girls than a guy because girls are not used to being gamed by other girls and because you are a girl, she will feel more comfortable about the idea of going to your place. Also you are a model, who doesn't want to bang a young bisexual model?

One of the techniques you can try is to be direct: as you are starting kino (put your arm around her shoulder), say something like “you're adorable, I bet you would make a good girlfriend for someone special”. This statement is a good direct statement that is actually somewhat indirect because you are not clear if you are suggesting that you are the “someone special” or if it is someone else.

Then ask her about sex. Ask her where the craziest place she ever had sex was.

From there you can talk about how you have a boyfriend and how you are bisexual. This way you are making it more clear that you are looking for a ONS. If your target is game she will let you know.

Eskire YESSSS!!! That is precisely it and your analysis is exactly what I have been trying to get across! Finally!!!!! lol

I wont say I was running a girlfriend game before; I may say the opposite in that I was always honest to her: which was ironically is one of the key points of success of the strategy I used. As a woman, I have an insider view of how a girl's mind works and exactly what she thinks, wants, feels: so I am able to use this knowledge to magnify those needs and fulfilments...Yes I did the polyamorous thing before, but I do not want to go down that road (well....for now anyway! )

Thanks for your advice, you are totally AWESOME I sent you a private message so I hope that is ok for you to read and reply there.

IF there is anyone else with other suggestions and tips for me to use, please by all means post them as well!

Thanks x

sounds to me like turing him into a pua is not quite what your looking for, people become pick up artists out of there own will, it is very likely that if he himself doesnt really want to do it, no matter what techniques or methods he runs he will not have much success. i believe the solution to your problem is somthing much simpler an easier, communication. just sit down and talk with your boyfriend, explain your feelings to him and how much it would mean to you if both when out and enjoyed yourselves. if this is somthing he s uncomfotable woth still, take baby steps, a quiet bar at first, then gradualy move to the club scene. the same with groups of people, start of small with friends he knows, then move to groups of strangers and girls you would like to pick up. going out if a very fun part of life speicaly at my young age haha and it is somthing that would be good for you and your bf to share.

it sounds like you both have a good relationship and if you dont mind me saying, i think that the fact your dating someone who you describes as a "nice guy" is very romantic and puts a smile on my face, scenes that this is somthing alot of us pua's try not to be as we dont feel we can get success that way. the fact that you like somone for who they are is very heartwarming to me

Heya Danny,
Thanks for the great words of encouragement and feedback

We don't have any communication issues - he knows precisely how I feel and he is ok with my being bi. We are best friends and speak about everything, I hide nothing from him. I was even speaking to him about this today over lunch.

And as I said, my initial post was misinterpreted and my choice of "header" was more so to make it stand out more from the other posts - which it did

As stated again, I am just looking for a method for ME to pick up girls, while we are out together. I am NOT looking for him to do anything or even play a part in my gaming the girl. I described him the way I did so people would realise that he is not the sort of person who IS a PUA so ALL of the work will need to be done by me, so I was looking for a game tactic for myself.

If I am still making a mess of communicating what I am looking for and have not still managed to explain myself properly lol...then please read Eskwire's post above as he hit the nail on the head in understanding what I want and am looking for.

Thanks all