Alright guys, I need advice and help and anything right now.

The situation doesnt have to do necessarily with being a PUA. More of a relationship question.

So for the last 10.5 months Ive been with this girl. And recently it ended. Ever since the first fight we had about 4 months ago things were never right. She started acting in ways to avoid conflict like not speakin hardly around me. It was hard becuase at school we are so close but we live 3.5 hours away durring like summer and I saw her every night durring school. So yea like I said things just turned into an endless loop of avoiding problems that werent there and so she said that just needed time to think. This is the kinda girl that you would never think to leave a guy. Even my buddies were like dude that girl will never cheat on you and never break up with you. So it happened and she even came over the next day obviously upset. Tried doing what I could to make it ok, she said she really cared about still and still loved me bla bla and just RIGHT now cant be with me. Im slow sometimes to take hints, like that it wasnt a break that it was over. And I was in shock and in denial. I didnt want it to be over. Ive had long relationships before but never ones that I wanted to continue after they were over. Then I got drunk a few nights later, and said some cruel things to her on the phone, like that she is tearing me apart and not to tell me she still loves me because that just hurts me more. SO i tried to back off after that, sent her a few apology messages here an there, no answer. phone call once, no answer. I just couldnt beleive that after that long with someone oyu could just ignore them. She is a women run soley by feelings and finally responded to my persistance saying that she doesnt want to hurt me but I hurt her so bad she didnt know if she could forgive me or talk to me and she made the right choice in ending it and that she may want to get back with me. This whole time I felt like that was a shield and she was just saying that, never meaning. It sux when your head fights with your heart. So here is my delema. I started this stuff last week when I forsaw the end. I need motavation to get out there and do this. I am not an emotionally guy or seemingly. Ive over the years due to some troubled childhood shit learned to hide all my feelings and I formed my own shield. Well she was the first girl to ever break that shield and I still think that this a dream I can wake up from. I have never been this way before and I have no idea what to do. Im not gunna be that creepy stalker guy who calls and calls and followers her and shit like that she said not to talk to her for now, but here is what I wanna know....


1 How to get past this so I can function cuz I cant sleep and cant concentrate in school
2. Should I bother trying to get her back, if so ....how
3. im open for any advice ive just never had this happen before and it tore my world apart over night and i have no one to talk to and i figured maybe some of you guys have been there and have advice for me.

Thnx


If this helps this is the email she sent me...Am I just in denial that bad or is there a chance?


Chris,
I'm sorry for what I am about to say because it will probably come across as very harsh and mean, it's not my intention to hurt you anymore than I already have but this just has to be said. Sunday night you put me through hell and back I can confidently say that it was the worst night of my enitre life. I have never experienced someone be soo cruel to me ever in my life, you made me feel as low and as bad as a person could possibly feel. And for that I dont know if I will ever be able to forgive you. After Sunday night I realized that without a doubt I had made the right decision and now all hopes of ever repairing our relationship is gone. Right now I am not sure if I will be able to speak to you again, but what I do know is that I need my space from you so please dont call or text me anymore. It's just too painful.

I am so sorry I had to say this,
Carly

This is in direct conflict with PUA's theory. DLV'd into oblivion. Yes, because she's a woman. DIAGNOSIS: One-itis
PRESCRIPTION: FTOW/GFTOW

Guy I can tell by your writing that your still very young. Move on and learn from this situation and stop trying so hard to get back with this girl.
You fucked up. Face it. I'm not being cruel, I'm being Honest.

Im 20 and no this is what I wanted to hear, I hoping for this, just sux im cant even listen to my music for comfort becuase it fucking reminds me of her. Aight cool so now I need to read these books and get out there eh?

First off you f*ed up big time. You put her in control. When you lose control of the situation things happen that you dont want. Calling and texting after she says she needs space is borderline stalker, and you should have been ok, you need space have all the space you want, Im going to keep myself buisy with these girls over here. You can be on the back burner if you want to come back to me but honestly you shouldnt care if she does or not. You did convey horrid DLV when you could have flipped it on her to convey DHV. I personally believe you are still young, 20 or not, I am 23 and think I am young still. 10 and a half months is a good run. Learn from it, and use it to not make the same mistakes next time. That way it is not super difficult to get over her. Also since you say so much reminds you of her, you really do need to go out and hit some clubs or meet some people to occupy your mind off of her and the past and look to the future. It may seem harder than it sounds but as you work toward your goals you will overcome your fears. Hope this helps hommie...