ok so here goes....i met this girl about a year ago when i went on holiday with friends, she was part of our group and was staying in the same room as me and four others. We really hit it off and i could tell she liked me because id find her gazing at me all the time. Back then i was too shy to do anything about it. On the last night she came up to me and went to kiss me but instead passed an ice cube into my mouth (which was pretty hot!). So i get back home, a week later i get a call, from a friend that knows her, saying shes been asking all sorts of questions about me etc. So im like sweet mate il get on it. Left it a couple of weeks and then hit a club i knew she'd be at. Get there and go to talk to her, shes well off with me and pretty much ignores me all night. Skip forward to the next time i see her out - she ends up kissing me. Next day she acts like nothing had happened etc. Over the next few months i see her at after parties etc and she cuddles me on the sofa or where ever etc but no more than that. The other night she kissed me again and then did the same thing as last time and ignored me the next day. I call her up on it saying u know i like u so why the hell are u messing me around, she said she was just having a bit of fun. shes going to australia for 10 months in a few weeks. What should i do, iv really fallen for this girl........i think she likes me back and i keep telling myself its only because shes going to australia for 10 months that shes holding back. Its really affected my game in the past few months because i havent been able to approach any other girl or respond to any other girl that comes on to me. I dont want her to go to australia and leave me to think about her for ten months and ruin my game for 10 months, because A. ten months without seeing girls would suck B. when she comes back she might just carry on messing me around. what do i do?????

Hi,
I have a natural tendancy to one-itis too so I have an idea how you can feel. I am 35 years old and l had few adventures highly similar to the one that you are describing.

First thing don't feel bad pretending that if you would have had a better game at the beginning she wouldn't be going to Australia. This is probably something she needs to do in her life and would eventually resent anybody that would prevent her to go there.

She obviously used push pull techniques on you and even if you don't realise it it might be a big part of why you are so into her, the same way womens don't consciously realise why they are attracted to great PUAS. Females can also be PUA they don't even need to read stuff, it is surprisingly natural to many of them.

The way you describe this girl, she will not be the easiest girl to game anyway. I am not saying impossible I am only saying you don't have to feel bad because it didn't go further.

You need to meet many new girls and trust you will meet many mores that will seem to have even potential to make you happy. I had met many girls that I tougth were the best and only one for me...After each time I met a better one.

One very important thing in this game and in life in general is that what you believe and think...Will influence your life at each instant.So you need to start thinking that you can meet girls that will be better for you than her.If you do so you will meet some.Keep thinking joy and abundance.Good luck!

Thanks man,

your reply has made me see the situation in a new light. i will definitely be takin your advice!!!

Welcome and thank you for replying, I am glad that I can help you.

Until you can become confident with yourself, you can never be confident with another person.

If you have an individual in your life that you are obsessing over, you have given what little confidence you have to that individual. Take three steps back, breath deeply and focus on yourself instead of the person. Out of sight, out of mind. When the emotional attachment is gone, resume friendship, don't worry about gaming her, it will happen naturally if your confident in yourself.

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thanks for your input, i understand your point and admit i probably do need to focus on myself. we will see what happens aye!

One iti's last only as long as it takes you to find the next girl. I think its stems from the girls you actually get to know before you fuck, or after you fuck or even if you never fucked but got to know em. Thats normal thats basically a relationship (or a friendship if your not fucking her). Whats going on is that you've meet this girl that you normally dont think you'd have the balls to talk to but for whatever reason you did and you found out that she doesn't bite and shes just a regular down to earth person. Now she's leaving you and you're freaking out because OMG I've lost her forever. I suppose the point I'm making is that when you make the effort to meet more girls and get to know the you'll realize that there is a lot more than just that one girl that you can get along with. So drop a pair and meet new people. You wanna test my theory out ? go to a strip club and think about how you feel when the stripper gives you that look you'll know what I'm talking about.

''One iti's last only as long as it takes you to find the next girl. '''

at my case it's even worse ... i still have one-itis for one girl we broke up a long time ago ... anyway i had 2 relationships after ( and now a sort of sex relation) but i still have one-itis for this girl.

somtimes you meet '''this'' woman and your in love so much .... you really get along and all that stuff but somehow the relation fails.
you need to find the right one , don't fuck some slut it won't always make u feel better.

''Until you can become confident with yourself, you can never be confident with another person. ''

solid advice

I think your post is very sweet. I think if she read your post she would really appreaciate how you feel about her.

I think that she has control over you. I think you should tell her that you can't communicate with other women right now.

I think you are one of the nicest guys on this form. I think she will love you. She is probably scared, she seems a little spacy, and maybe like she can't commit. She probably doesn't have a stable family life... maybe.

Be careful about how you feel about her. Attraction is a funny thing. If you can see yourself in the long run with this girl then tell her how you feel about her. If she feels the same way she will show you. A real man can give the power to a women, and take the feeling that he has no control. A real women can give the power back to you after she trust you.

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