Hi all. Here's my story:
For the past weeks I've been talking to a girl online, and through MSN and stuff.
And we finally met today (Wednesday) .. it wasn't really a date, but more of a "lets hang out" ... I didn't kiss closed, I was more interested in just knowing her.
We might go out on Friday, where I plan to go for the kiss.
Here's the thing....
I want to send her flowers, to her work (I don't know her address) ... I think it could help me a bit in the process of actually having her as my girlfriend, to send her random flowers when she LESS expects it.
Whether or not we go out on Friday, and actually get a kiss.
What would you think of sending her flowers at work? I don't think it shows off as clingy/needy but it shows that I was thinking of her and I Care about her.
Opinions? Thoughts? Ideas? Would be all gladly appreciated!! Thanks!!

I think you better wait until the relationship is well established before you do this kind of thing or it definitely will send her the wrong message about you. Right now what you want to establish is attraction. Romantic stuff is much better for later on in relationships.

This could kinda freak her out since youve just met once so far. As above, just give it some time, dont rush anything, build up some comfort and more interest AND whats the most important - hold your frame dude

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Yup.

I've done this twice early in relationships (back 5-6 years). Both times it killed it. Girls freaked out and ran.

Is this what you want?

Also don't sent it at work. You will force her in an uncomfortable situation were she has to explain this to all her coleagues. The feeling of uneasiness will be associated to you.

The only advice I would give IF you go through with it is to send a peculiar flower and have a good story for it.

There is an old seduction story between Prime Minister Benjamin Disreaeli (1800s) and Queen Victoria. I won't go into all the details but basicaly the Queen was older then and was threated like old furniture by previous gouvernements and other politicians. When the new Prime Minister Disreaeli came along he slowly seduced her (on a platonic term...) to be a loyal anchor for his political career. One day he decided to send her flowers. He send her Primroses. Primroses are quite blend and not very unique. However he included a note saying something like " Of all the flowers, primrose are the ones the stay in blossom the longest ". The Queen was witty and understood the allusion to her age and was touched by his remark to the point were primerose became her favorite flower. She even named Primrose Day the day that Disreaeli died....

Long story short. Don't give her roses, and you better have a good reason for it if you don't want it to backfire.

Sorry man, but you're acting as a freak chump. Hopefully you're in the right place to fix it. Simply don't do that.

Cheers

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I simply have to write something in this thread! I am so happy that none of the others beat me to it.

Whenever you ask something like this, 99 % of all the Mystery apprentices will give their pre programmed automatic response that it is too AFC. You are needy, you are a loser etc. Be careful when you consider their advice.

The reason that Mystery and others tell you to not buy gifts and flowers etc is that it CAN make you seem needy. It CAN be too much and it CAN scare her away.

However, it is not necessarily the case. It all depends on your relation with the girl. There is no way we can know the vibe of your situation by just reading about it though. There is a way to not send flowers and a way to send flowers. It doesnt need to be a way of buying her love.

However, if you are gonna do something like this, be careful, make sure that you are already in her mind, that she is already attracted. A flower is a way to boost her interest, not to create it. A flower is only welcome if it comes from the right person, you dont become the right person just by sending it.

At work... Nah, I wouldnt do that.

So, although I wanted to stress the fact that sending flowers does not have to be wrong, in your case I would wait until after the kiss close. Unless you are sure that you are the one.

And the comment is as much for you other guys as for him!

Ezo

Whilst the man above me has a valid point, the plain assed fact is this has more chance of fucking up then it does working in YOUR situation.

I'm telling you this from experience however, I'm sure EVERYONE has been there and done that.

This is day FUCKING 2. She doesn't want to know how much you care about her or how much you are thinking about her (while yer jackin off). If you send her roses, her work colleagues will be like. 'Oh who's that from?' And she will be like, 'erm some guy I met yesterday!?'

Please, you are supplicating so badly, but you don't know it.

There is only one way to play it. You HAVE to detach yourself completely from the feelings swirling inside of you. The more practise you have at this the better.

For the sake of saying something controversial it might even be WORTH your interest for you to fall into the LJBF's trap. Then you will learn a very harsh but important lesson. Those WALT DISNEY movies are bull. And you will never make that mistake again.

All you can do is WAIT until she is blatantly telegraphing her interest to you. And when it is on, don't tell her you feel the same way or write it in a text message.

Make a MOVE on her. Push her against the wall, and stick your tongue down her throat.

I hope we have reached you in time. If not, you will have learned a lesson. It will sting. But girls take a lot longer to fall into the attraction trap. And they do so by spending time with a guy who conveys his sexual state to her through ACTIONS and NOT words.

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He he, the man between my posts has some points too...

However, go out in the street and have a look around. 99% of all the couples I see consists of a girl and an AFC.

I dont say that the AFC way works better than ours, not at all. I am the first to say that the PUA ways are waaaay superior, because I know them.

However, some AFCs are "born with it" the right mindset for that one girl. Some of them timed it right, some of them get away with sending flowers because the rest of them screams confidence.
Disney movies may be bull... But so are our teachings if you dont know how to use it right. No amount of techniques help if you dont have inner game.