Well it's impossible to change someone who doesn't want to change. So if he has no desire to change, you may have your work cut out for you. The problem is that right now he is very comfortable with his life. He apparently already has his perfect Friday nights, and he's spending it with his "quite attractive" girlfriend. It's going to be hard to get him motivated for more (even with the promise of a threesome), because right now he has everything he wants.

If you listen to how most of the guys on the forum started in pua, they started because of pain. Of pain from being alone, rejection, unrequited love, or feeling socially inept. The stronger the pain they felt, the more motivated they were to change. It's going to be hard to convince a content man, with a "quite attractive" girlfriend and who "lots of girls find him attractive", that he needs to change.

Honestly, your best bet is to just try and set up the first threesome on your own. Seduce some chick yourself and bring her home. And hopefully, once he see's how much pleasure there is in a threesome, he might be more motivated to change. But again that is going to depend on him.

One of the cornerstones of becoming an able minded PUA is having a strong belief that you want to make yourself a better person. Generally people here choose to define themselves as better people by getting better at interacting with women. Does your boyfriend really have any desire to learn PUA?

Sounds to me like he is perfectly happy hanging out with his girlfriend who is a young model on friday nights, and not going out. But you are not perfectly happy with the situation.

This is not really a place to try to change other people, or to trick people into doing things they don't want to do.

It seems like you are asking for advice on two separate things: you want to have a three-way and you want your boyfriend to go out more.

If you're really interested in three-ways then you should read up on some of the techniques and methods found here. You can pick up on girls at bars and treat your boyfriend to a three-way.

If you want him to go out more you should tell him how you feel and give him a chance to decide if that's right for him.

d'oh!!! Kalel beat me to the punch.

(on another note Kalel - you were right about the PUA who uses non-verbal cues in pick up and doesn't talk much. I don't know why I disagreed with the poster and said non-verbal pick ups are not practical, I studied non-verbal communication in school and found it to be an extremely powerful technique).

before you get massavie PM's from guys on this forum. Its great that you are trying to give your b/f that chance to live out most guys fantasy but.. how does he feel about it? See the thing is that some females are always trying to change something about a guy. you should consider he's feelings first and if he's willing to do so we are more then happy on helping you and him but what im more concern about is it gonna be healty for your relationship later. Just give it a thought and talk it over with him. Like the advice i give to most guy here. there plenty of fishs in the sea.

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ok, It seems that you really need it. Well the only thing you should do about it is to tell him, because the telling him would make him realize that you are true to yourself. Just don't expect too much because expectation can hurt us.

You dont have much of a problem here. If you only knew the basic 2-3 rules that we men follow, take care off, for a threesome then you could get a threesome every friday nite. BTW, it would be difficult to go out by yourself and then bring someone back for your BF. The girl would be wiered out by this....

But the problem here is that your BF probably does not want it for himself and you are trying to change him. Hence, I'm not sure if I want to tell you how to go about it. But yes there are routines in this forum for threesomes and if you read most of the reports you would understand that there is a common trend in all of the threesomes. Go Figure !!

Damn, I'm such a hypocriet(spelling ) . I would not think twice to give a guy an idea for a threesome but would deny a girl the same !! Men are such pigs and I like being one

Fuck that guy
Go out with me instead

Or at the very least find someone remotely like me lol

Why spend all that time and effort customizing your boyfriend when you can just get a new one with all the features you're looking for?

Sorry, even though I would half expect comments like this: I would truly appreciate it if people refrain from such unhelpful comments. I came on here like any other normal PUA looking for helpful useful advice. I don't mean to offend anyone, and would truly appreciate / expect the same etiquette. Thanks

I realise it was perhaps unwise for me to post here, and I was apprehensive if I would get much help on here - as of course, alot of guys may view me as the "enemy" and thus specifically go out of their way to not help me (which you have clearly demonstrated here)

But of course, sometimes in life we are fortunate enough to encounter cool people willing to overlook prejudices of sex, race, age, class, whatever and willing to help or communicate with someone else irrespective of such things ....so hey, there is always hope that perhaps there will be someone brave enough to go against the "standard norm"....so in the off chance if there is - then please by all means comment. If not - I feel my decorum here has been polite, so I would request politely that if no one has something productive to say, to please refrain from leaving me comments

Thanks all

Well there was some suggestions to what Chief said. It's another solution. Look for someone who would understand your desire better. It might not be what you are looking for but it's not just bull either.

As for my suggestion. It goes hand to hand with what has been said. If he doesn't want to change or do it, there is nothing much you can do about it. Now that being said. There is 2 main ways to 'motivate' someone to do something. Some people are motivated by the possible outcome, some are motivated by avoiding the 'bad things' that will come up if they don't do it. Figure out what way your bf is (you probably already know that) and use it.

Damn! Chief just got told!

In truth though, Bi_Girl, what these guys have been saying so far is pretty damn accurate. In order to become even remotely good at this sort of thing you have to be dedicated to making the change for yourself. Your boyfriend seems pretty content the way he is--and rightly so, if he has a super-hot girlfriend bringing home other girls to have threesomes with him!

The only event I can think of that might shake him out of apathy is if you were to leave him and he somehow realized exactly what he lost by acting like he was 70 years old, and even that assumes that he possesses the self-awareness to realize which of his actions caused you to leave. This is all totally moot of course, since you have no desire to break up with him.

In short: people are always going to be who they are. Men don't change, but we can evolve--the catch is, that takes time.

Your boy,
870

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The first real step towards a potential change here is discussing this with your boyfriend. Communication is one of the 3 major cornerstones to a successful relationship; and since you have a deep inherent desire for something it is in your best interest to be open with him about it.

Its amazing what people will do for one another in a "loving" relationship. On top of the fact if he were to get over being shy he would eventually enjoy going out with you. I've never met a single person who didn't enjoy it when it became part of their comfort zone.

There is one last point to consider here. The other guys weren't wrong when they said to leave him. 870 is perfectly correct in that by leaving him he'd potentially realize what he lost. If this is something you really want in a guy, then you shouldn't have to settle for less. We all have standards when it comes to relationships. Each and everyone one of us with the drive to get what they want deserves that.

I dont agree with the idea of leaving him in order to somehow blackmail him into having threesome, but what ever works i suppose.

I assume that it is just girl-girl-guy threesomes that you are after?

If that is all your after then just talk to him about it. I know very few guys who would turn down the chance at having regular threesomes of this type. A guy normally doesent want to watch his girl have sex with another guy but all of us love the thought of watching a girl on girl preformance, especially if we can then join in.

Again this all starts with you talking to him, you cant trick him into becoming a PUA becase its gona take him time and practice, especially if he's as shy as you say.

Good Luck!