Hi guys, I kinda messed up!

It all went off yesterday but let me take you back to the start.

I been with my girlfriend for about 7 months. At the beginning things were amazing, We were together a lot and I never stopped her seeing male friends. At the start I saw her flirting with lads and some were all over her. we spoke about it and i forgave her. Then friends had told me they saw her kissing other blokes! It pissed me off and was ready to call the relationship off.... But listend to what she had to say and gave her the benifit of the doubt. She got better as time went on and learnd to properly deal with men chatting her up.
Then... 2 weeks ago she went out!! I was tucked away in bed and got a txt messege saying that she was looking very cosy with some bloke. I know she has bloke mates and put it down to her chattin to 1 of them... Then 30 mins later someone totally random called me to tell me the same kind of thing so that got my heart racing then! Her and her mates swore blind she never done anything (as thy would) and again we made up and i forgave her.

The thing is it was eating at me and i felt like i had to catch her out, so when i was working I was preping to catch her and split up.

Now this is where i fucked up... Because i felt shit and had it in my head she was up to summin I started txting other girls to make myself fee better i guess.

Yesterday I went out and forgot my phone! ( dumb move i know). She looked at it and saw lots of msgs of me flirting strongly and being suggestive with others! I actually had no intentions of doing anything with anyone, just an ego boost for me i guess. I get home and all her stuff has gone and she has told everyone about it as if i cheated on her! We met for a chat... That went down like a led baloon.

Not really sure how to deal with this now... i do love her and think this could make us stronger if we sort it. HELP PLEASE.

forget about her mate, she cheated on you most likely and you don't deserve it. it's a good thing that she dumped you

thing is... Was i wrong for txting others to feel better when i felt like i was going to catch her?

She was wrong for looking through your phone, especially with you not even there. But I'm sure you never brought that up in the argument, did you. Because she made you think you messed up. Ask her why she looked through your phone in the first place, if you speak to her again. I bet it was because she felt guilty for cheating on you and wanted to find a reason to put the blame on you.

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No you are not wrong. She was doing the same thing. Flirting with guys, except in person. Not only that, she invaded your privacy by looking through your phone. If anything, you should have called the quits.