Situation:

I work at a clothing store. As usual, I have a discount to buy clothes there. So around two Fridays ago, so not the past friday but the one before that, I went into the store to buy a gift for a girl.

Since there was an attractive girl (HB8/9) working at the front, I decide just to start the conversation by asking what I should get for the friend of mine and asked what size I should get because she was the same size and height as my friend. Well this endeavor turned out to last around 20-30 minutes. I thought we hit off really well. She asked me if this girl was my girlfriend (I hesitated and kind of chuckled and said "Well..., I guess we're friends") and also complemented me on how nice I was etc... I just felt there was some attraction and flirtation, but I played it off by just focusing on the gift. So I left the store after I paid for my stuff and said a quick thanks to her.

So here's the mess up, I never secured her number because well I forgot, was focused on the gift. Fast forward to now, since I worked at the same store I got her number yesterday to say thanks and get a conversation that would lead to a date of some sort.

So here's my question how should I go about this? Text or call?

I was thinking I should text and say "Hey this is 'me'. Thanks for helping me out about a week ago finding clothes for my friend. I owe you big time"

And see what she replies or if she does, and see if its possible to start something.

What are your thoughts guys? Because I messed up twice already once not getting her number and a second time by contacting her almost a week later.

Thanks for the help

I would say go with the text. Texts are more nonthreatening than calls are so she will feel alot more comfortable. And think of it this way, everyones busy nowadays and dont always have time to answer phone calls. There was a texting thread on here that was filled with fun/interest spiking openers so go look that up. Try something simple like "SURPRISE!"

Go for the call it is more personal, I like your idea of they "hey thanks for helping me with my friend I owe ya" this is making her feel like she did something good and she is very likely NOT to turn you down if you feel you owe her. So after you say you owe her say "perhaps let me buy you a cup of coffee or something to pay you back" :) game - set - match.

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P.S - Do not pause between the i owe you and the coffe its all one sentance and it is very important you deliver together so that this is percieved as the payment quickly so she doesn't go "no no its ok"

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you could also throw in a little compliment as ... you have a great sense of fashion, my friend loved the gift...

Thanks thanks. I'm gonna try it out and report back.

Here's an update. I thought that I should text her, instead of calling because I haven't seen her in a week or two, so I thought it would be a little awkward.

I followed tim18 suggestion with "Suprise". After that I was gonna go with both Dr. Highlander and LostAFC suggestion with thanking her, complementing her, and asking her "perhaps...".

However, I never got a reply to my text of "Suprise" so what now? I texted her around 4:55 and now its 5:16. Should I wait? So should I call? I am also afraid she might think it is a spam advertisement txt.

You're thinkin too much try a HEY wat u up too im going to do ( whatever you're going to do) if ure not doing much ure welcome to tag along
Or Omg Guess what
she will say wat you say i was just thinkin of you so i taught id say hey , so there hey
If she does not reply to any of this DO N0T TEXT HER ANY LONGER that is until she texts u 1st

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I can see what your saying. The thing is that she doesn't know my phone number. I got her's from the store I work at. Its also been about a week or more since she helped me.

This is the first time I've been in this situation, so I am just kinda stuck lol.

After no reply at all after the "Surprise" text, I am just thinking about just going straight for it texting her "Hey this is "me", Thanks for helping me out choosing a gift for my friend. " And hopefully she'll respond this time.

What you guys think?

Forget about her is what we most all think.

If she doesn't text back she's being lame. No one wants a lame girl and you to look desperate man. You work at a clothing store, at a mall. There are other women in this world bro.

She probably didn't know who was texting her if it is your first message. Say hello and it's you from the store. you did a great job on the gift, etc. Keep it short and sweet but make sure you identify yourself.

I wouldn't say you screwed up there. Getting the number at first is the best idea but if you know she works there it's ok to heighten attraction over a few visits. You aren't blatantly hitting on her like most men. Maintain that. You are now the cool laid-back guy with chicks. You are far from desperate. Use it

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Wait a second. Did you get her number from your WORK or did SHE give you the number. Because if you got the number from your work thats kinda creepy and i doubt most girls would respond to a text from someone they dont know that says "Surprise". That would have been something important to point out. If you got her number from work i would delete it and get the number from her. Your not trying to stalk her your trying to get a date. Id go talk to her and forget the text. I have better luck in person then texting or calling. Especially since im kinda sarcastic and that does not show very well in texts.

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Lol. Woah misunderstanding. When she was helping me, I forgot to get her number from HER. I was busying trying to get the gift. Afterwards I thought about it, I felt that there was some attraction but I chose to ignore it. Fast forward to this week, I got her number from the STORE so I could contact her to say thank you. And work from there.

I see I messed up with the surprise text already. I was thinking I could still text her and just say hi and thank you. And pretend the SURPRISE text never existed or I sent it to the wrong number.

Any thoughts? I understand there are other women out there, but hey I think practice is practice, plus if you don't try its worse then getting rejected no?

So reporting back seeing what you guys think I should do. Should I drop or go with it?


So I sent her this yesterday : Hey, this is "me". Since I havent seen u at work, I'm texting to thank you for that time you helped me find a gift at "clothing store".

I work at a clothing store where they hire a bunch of people and you almost never work with the same people.

She replied today: hey sorry idk when you texted me but i just got it... my phone has been sucking lately lol but your welcome i guess i don't even remember helping you lol.

I can see I made the mistake first not getting her number and then by contacting her almost 3 weeks later, so all the connection was lost. I am almost positive she remembers me though if I remind her. Do you guys think I should just drop it? Or reply her with a witty description and go from there? Or any other suggestions?

well text her with a plan say.... you need her help once agian to help you find a gift for someone since the last time she help you out turned out to be a great sucess" and while you are at it invite her for some coffee or a quick bite for repayment for helping you out last time" now you can get re-aquainted and build more comfort

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