| Hey guys, I need some advice on weather it is possible to get back with my ex-gf. This may be a long post but I need some guidance of weather or not to go ahead and act to win her back from her current bf, or to just leave her happy.
So this is the story. Towards the end of my first year of College back in my confident girl getting, but somewhat AFC days I randomly meet this really hot chick on face book who mistakenly adds me. We get talking on AIM and hit it off, realising that we are studying the same major, and that we are in each others huge lectures every day, but have never met before because she sits on one side of the room, and I sit on the other.
After we get talking I say ill look out for her in the morning in the 200+ lecture. So the next day I see her, I realise how beautiful she is, and I see her kinda scan for me on my side of the lecture. She looks at me as I look at her, and we both freeze, and then look straight ahead. I then look back and she is smiling. So I take it as a huge IOI. So that night we talk more and say we saw each other, and then I keep being playful about meeting up and going on a date. She then suggests it, and gives me her number. A week goes by of more talking and we decide to meet up in a bar. I see her for the first time and then we hit it off for like 3 hours and she says goodbye with the promise of another date.
So we then start seeing each other more and more, and then kinda begin dating, hanging out at her room on campus etc and things are great. Then she invites me to meet her friends she lives with, including the guys, and we go out to a nightclub. In the club I totally out AMOG the guys and all the girls love me, and she is all over me for the first time since we are in a setting where we can. At this point she really liked me, and loved showing me off to her friends, and I realised that the guys she lived with liked her and kinda disliked me in private because I was better looking and taller than them (sorry to be arrogant haha).
So that night we go back to hers, and make out properly for the first time and do almost everything, and the possibility of sex was kinda there, but it was my AFC days and I was a virgin. Now this is the weird part. I was highly experienced with girls etc but just never actually had sex by that point. I had this kind of romanticized AFC relationship one partner forever thing floating around because it made me feel good. But I never really needed the Game and PUA back then because a lot was natural and I never had complaints. Its only when I discovered them formally did it enlighten me to leave the last remnants of AFC behind.
So back to the story. I said I didn’t want too sleep with her that night because it was too soon (I liked this girl and actually did think it was too soon), and she liked that. Also on an AIM conversation when I had told her I was a virgin she loved it and kept going on about how it was so cool, and how hopefully it will be taken soon. Which obviously was an insinuation.
So a few more weeks go by of making out and dates etc, and then I tell her how I had applied to study abroad at the London School of Economics in the fall of August which was looming. It was like April back then, so this date in August always loomed ahead. Back then she was the one who was like its months away, so don’t worry, we could still be together.
I agreed that I may not even get the grades to go so dating more would be ok. So we date more and it gets more intense, and then one night I go out with my buddies to a huge campus party at Ohio State and I was supposed to meet her there. But her and her friends left late from their dorms and then went to a bar instead. So I don’t here from her for hours after getting pissed off that she’s not answering her cell phone. But then she finally rings me around 1am when I’m going home and says she forgot her cell, and that the night was crap and that she was back in her dorms, and wanted me to come over. So I got in and was like ready to sleep as she texted me more and more begging me to come over.
So eventually I do go to her place across campus around 2-3ish am and then we make out at her place and she insinuates sex, I gave some pretty awesome foreplay and we get naked etc, and then for some reason, my fucking AFC mentality kicks in, and I don’t wanna go ahead with it because it isn’t the right setting. The worst mistake ever, this romanticism was getting outta hand I think now looking back. So because I’m thinking about this stuff, I am no longer horny and then we just make out and I get pissed and say im sorry to her, but she understands and is cool with it.
After that night things went a little weird because it seemed like I rejected her when I didn’t mean it that way. I got the grades for London and then I let her know, and she asks if we just want to have a fun relationship rather than a serious one if I’m leaving. So I kinda agreed, but we just decided to end it friendly. So we go out for our last date in a nice restaurant which I said id take her, and we have an awesome time, but then decide at the end of the meal to end it in a nice way, and we stayed friendly.
But then in the last month of school I got big time oneitis over her, and keep seeing her out in clubs etc and then she acts like nothing happened, and never answers texts, which is understandable as I probably sounded like a whiney AFC who was being weird and clingey. So basically we just finished that year of school and long story short, I went to London School of Economics which was the best year of my life, became a PUA, dated a million hot English girls haha, slept with a lot, lost this virginity bullshit and became a much more confident guy even though I already was.
Now I get back Home and we haven’t talked for like half a year since I’ve had like 3 awesome girlfriends in London but which didn’t last because I was going home again. So I’m back at home and I find out that she’s now dating one of the best of the loserish guys who lived with her that didn’t really like me when I dated her. I always missed her and said I’d try and get her back when I’m home, but this has messed up any chance now.
But the thing that I hate is that they look pretty serious now, even though they have dated since Febuary 2008, and when I tried to talk to her a few times a while back she was kinda cold towards me, and very formal. And now she wont even talk anymore really. So here’s my problem, how can I try to get her back? I mean, how can I show this new PUA self over AIM for the next few months before College starts again and I might see her around in person? How can I get rid of this guy she’s dating so that I could maybe restart it?
Anyway, sorry if there’s bad spelling, I’ve just rushed this at work haha. Also I’ve just realised that this may make me sound like a geek or something. I’m really not, I’m a 6’2 kinda handsome PUA who plays football haha (no arrogance intended haha). I just really want her back! and this guy she is with is an asshole, who I could easily dominate if I ever met him again when she was out, but she kinda wont let me prove it because its like impossible to talk to her without sounding alerts of old bf trying to take new boyfriend :S haha
Sorry for the long post guys, I just needed to lay the whole story out…any advice would be greatly appreciated.
P.S. I’m sure that if we were alone together say in a club or something I could show her the new me, and out Alpha this guy she’s with…its just for now I only have online stuff haha.
Damn this is long haha, sorry guys!
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