OK, at the start I was angry with her for doing something stupid - nothing like cheating or kissing other guys. And I used the name of this other girl (that she know I used to like) as an example. I said Lucy(name of the girls that I used to like) does this everyday and I dont want you to be like that. And she gets all angry about it and leaves the conversation and goes offline ( this happend on msn). What should I do?

Learn your lesson: don't start fights with your girlfriend on MSN. Serious conversation is for real life.

Your boy,
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Ok so how do I handle this if it happend face to face and she walked away angry?

Tell her to act more matured by talking to you and not running away from you.

My girl got really pissed early in our relationship once when I went to my friends (a chick I had fucked like three times 2 years previous). Anyways, she knows we have had sex. She said something stupid and fucked up like "Why dont you just fuck her, you obviously still want too!"

Basically what I said was "You need to grow up babe, that shit was so in the past, and if our future together is going to be about re-hashing what I did a long time ago, we need to break up right now, cus that wouldn't be fair to either one of us."

Then I got up to leave and she asked where I was going. "home, talk to you later." She was like, nonono, Im sorry, stay, etc, etc.

Heres the trick, you actually have to BELIEVE what you are saying for YOUR OWN good. Think about it.. how miserable will you both be if you dont set some sort of standard about what is acceptable to fight about, and what is simply ridiculous?

She still gets jealous when I talk to this girl but she knows not to bring it up. I can tell too that she is beginning to understand she has nothing to worry about, because she doesnt, this girl is just a friend, and my girl is my girl, period. I am sensitive to her feelings, but she needs to understand I am not going to shut out people in my life cus she has jealousy issues.

Conversely, I always play it cool when she talks to other dudes or her ex. She knows I would leave her in a heartbeat if she fucks up... What we have together is awesome and she wouldnt put it in jeopardy. And if she did, I wouldnt think twice about leaving, that is true power. You have to establish rules early on based on what you find acceptable, and stick to them. Never be afraid to find someone better either. We all deserve the best.

This type of thinking/frame will weed out the bad apples, and keep the good ones around. It comes down to respect for eachother, meaning trust essentially.

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Swoop thx man... I really love your advice thanks alot!

Basically what I said was "You need to grow up babe, that shit was so in the past, and if our future together is going to be about re-hashing what I did a long time ago, we need to break up right now, cus that wouldn't be fair to either one of us."

Then I got up to leave and she asked where I was going. "home, talk to you later." She was like, nonono, Im sorry, stay, etc, etc.

Beautiful...

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I agree with swoop. Knowing how to administer punishments will get you far. When his girlfriend freaked out he punished her by saying that specific behavior (rehashing old things) is going to have a punishment (ending the relationship). Then he strengthens it by getting up and leaving which also shows his distaste for the conversation at that point.

Now she knows exactly what she did wrong and the consequences of those actions and she hasn't done it since.

Wish i read this post before me and my girl broke up.