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Hi, this is probably one of my first posts here. I don't have time to explain my entire situation, but I probably will sooner or later.

Please note: I'm sorry if this is in the wrong section, just move if needed.

I broke up with a girl (pretty serious relationship - Well, we mutually broke up to be more exact), and it's been a good two years now. We were on bad terms for a long time, and now we're able to forgive each other and talk occasionally. I'm an all-around sort of guy when it comes to personality, and her exact words "You're a good mix". She is definitely a 9/10 in the perspective of others, and for lack of better terms, a "social butterfly".

After we made amends, I tried calling her once (2 weeks or so later to see whats up) and got no response. I saw her in person 3-4 weeks after that (accidental, first time in 2 years), and I got the feeling that our natural attraction kicked into the back of her head. That night, she called me (after a couple drinks), but I could not talk, so I called her the next night and we had a brief chat.

I figure that I want to stop being the one calling her, and have her start wanting to talk to me. And I came up with the idea of the phone freezeout. (Referring to Style's freezeout), but over the phone.

Do you guys think that it would be effective if you were in a somewhat deep conversation with an ex, and you start to bring back (POSITIVE) memories between you two. Something strange that happened when you went out somewhere, or something between you and one of her old friends, and then after a couple minutes of you both sharing great memories, telling her that you need to leave, that it's important, and asking her to call you sometime.

I believe if the conditions are right and the great positive SPAM is flowing, that it will subconsciously remind her that she really wants to continue talking to you.


I'd like your feedback (more on the freezeout, but I'll accept personal tips as well )

Happy Gaming!
Red

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I guess it's better if the 'bringing back memories' thing comes from her first, then you can just add some details. You don't want to be assuming that she want to get back with you if you're not yet sure. If she really wants to talk to you, or be around you she reach out more. She'll be the one calling more, and then maybe you can make your move.

I guess it's better if the 'bringing back memories' thing comes from her first, then you can just add some details. You don't want to be assuming that she want to get back with you if you're not yet sure. If she really wants to talk to you, or be around you she reach out more. She'll be the one calling more, and then maybe you can make your move.

when "bringing back memories", don't relate them to you two. Always give examples from other couples (can be made up) which should jog her memory of when you did something similar.

I often send a text asking "what you doing?" etc, then send another saying "sorry, that wern't for you". they then usually try and seem really interesting so as long as you keep them interested your in (most of the time).

-teen

I guess it's better if the 'bringing back memories' thing comes from her first, then you can just add some details. You don't want to be assuming that she want to get back with you if you're not yet sure. If she really wants to talk to you, or be around you she reach out more. She'll be the one calling more, and then maybe you can make your move.

Interesting responses. I've gathered;

- LET HER start with the memories. (Which is more probable).
@daanyaldvd01: The only problem with her reaching out is, I'm strongest when I'm in person, and we live a distance away from each other (15 minutes~ driving) and I may not have mentioned that we don't have cars yet
But I definitely have a very strong person to person game. I don't call her very often though. (I'm not desperate, I'm not going to act like I am)

- Don't relate the memories between the two of us. Make her think of them to herself, by mentioning something a friend in a relationship did.

@Teen: Thanks for that texting tip, I've never tried that one. I think I will sometime, I'll post my results.

Anymore feedback on the "phone freezeout"?
-Red

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I'm on a freezeout with a girl at this moment. I plan on texting her in a day or so since it's been a couple weeks. So we'll see how it goes! Oh and she's someone who's pretty interested too

My experience of freezeouts is the following.

Somtimes it works. Tell them something that brings back feelings, memories etc.
And they will call. Or not. She needs to have or discover that she has a certain amount of feelings left for you. Ex-boyfriends/girlsfriends are really strong anchors...
My ex girlfriend brooke up with me the day before christmas like 2,5 years ago.
The last thing she said before leaving:
"You know, you can always call me if you need to talk".

I never made that call.
I didn't text her.
I didn't talk to her on MSN.
Nothing.

Next time I see her, in a club. A nod my head, about to leave.

Two hours later she calls me, and wants to come over to place.
That was a 1,5 year long freezeout.

And by the time she called I was busy with another girl
That kind'a felt goood.

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