ok... so... just got hme from a night out (i live in adelaide, australia; went 2 flashdance) and met up with a chick there. this is as best as i can rememba what happened:
I got her number while i was at wrk last wknd (i bartend ) and av been textin her 4 a bit (always initiated by her). she suggested going out 2nyt cos shed never been out to this club, so i consented, telling her that she was a loosa 4 not being to this b4 etc...
Then 2nyt, she txted me saying she didnt think she would go out.
I texted her saying: "i thought u were gonna b fun 2 hang out with... obviously not? im going anyway... wed night exists 4 one reason= 4 marty 2 party at flashys!! " (im marty)
She texted back saying she wud come, but that her friends had all bailed so i had to look after her tonight.
I told her: "im always up for a callenge, but u shud kno that i vibe of ppl with a great energy, so if your not up 4 it, u may as well not come..."
I continued this theme of always being fun and energetic throughout the interaction, and challenged her where i could on whether she was fun and energetic 2.
*To make a long story short*
I met up with her at the club, and made myself just a bit l8r than her, so that she had to wait for a few minutes for me aiiiiiii!!
Then when i got there, at first i was on my fne txtin a m8, until i saw her (made sure she saw me first) then when i saw her, i put my fne away and sorta jogged up 2 her and gave her a quick kiss on the cheek as a hello and said :"fuck its cold out here!!!" (its winter here)
then i just grabbed her hand and sorta jogged into the queue for the club, pulling her along.
I think this was a good move because i had portrayed to her in the text messages that i was energetic and exciting, and her first impression of me was then that i was 1. confident, 2. energetic and 3. un-predictable (in an exciting way).
i made various small talk with her in the queue (i like the idea that style talks about in the game, as described initially by juggler talking about talking in open-ended statements, as opposed to questions).
when we got into the club, i said i needed 2 go 2 tha toilet, so i took her to th bar, and told her id meet her there.
*went 4 a piss...*
when i found her at the bar, she was talking to some dude. i came up to her and put an arm around her waist as i grabbed a spot at the bar. then i turned around and pretended i had only just noticed the dude talking to jade. i came out with a big, over the top "hey champ!! how ya doin?" completely fake as hell, but i think hes the only one that picked up on it... ;p
not wanting to be rude to the friend of the chick HE was trying to pick up, he was polite in his reply.
then, luckily for me (I have no idea of what i would have done otherwise... any help please??) she asked if i wanted to come dance with her.
this was a good thing... i can dance. i danced for 10 years doing latin and ballroom comps, so if anyone has any questions on dancing with girls, im happy to help u out
we moved to the dance floor (this particular night the club has a 90s theme, so all the music is spice girls and abba etc...) and we started dancing. i was kissing her pretty quickly after that, and pulling her hair while i kissed her, which i think really turned her on.
i spnt about 2 hours at the club with her, then she said she needed to go. she had work the nxt morning and had told me this earlier, so i believed her. i had told her previously that i had to help a friend move the next day, so i would be leaving early too, so i said to her: "hey, iv gotta b getting off aswell... y dont you come back to my place?"
she said no.
This is where i would like any help from you guys... i think that my biggest sticking point is the seduction part of the pickup, but im not quite sure what i need to be doing. I tried to create/increase sexual tension last night (i hVNT BEEN DOING THIS PREVIOUSLY), but not quite sure where to go from here. also, any ideas on fun ways to get a girl back to my place?
any help would be great!!
live2flirt

peace

Hey man, just scanning through the forum, and so havent read your post yet, but little tip, structure your posts better, its very messy and seems hard to read, I'll read it later, but you need to edit it and make it more user friendly

much appreciated dude!!
will do!!

had a lady here in my penthouse last night, and used the old, "well it is video and eat in night at my place Wednesday, come over!!"

and she did.

she came over last night and she brought the video(seven pounds, which is not recommended for suicidal people btw)

anyway we were sitting next to each other and she kinda folded her arms which i took to be a stand offish posture so i just didn't escalate plus, i didn't want her to think that i hadn't invited her to my place just to fuck although that might have been true.

so, i kinda blew it.

i like that video and eat in night idea!! will defo use it!!

as a followup, i havnt seen that girl again... figured i wouldn't follow it up,and if she initiated something id take it, but i didnt hear from her, so no worries!!

at the end of the day, she was just another girl, and theres plenty more whare that came from!!

aiiiiiiiii!!

first, never ask "do you want to...", instead tell them "let's go..." she can always say no if she doesn't want to. she doesn't feel like a slut because she didn't make the choice.

second, she needs plausibal deniability, say something like "let's go back to my place so i can show you the new brand of coffee i've been getting" or something like that or "...do some yoga" "...give you something for that sore shoulder" etc. she knows what is going on, but it makes her not feel like a slut.