My ex broke up with me a couple of weeks ago but I still love her. We had been going out for over a year, and she only recently broke up with me because she's going away for school. We still have chemistry, and I think she still has feelings for me (just a week ago we had sex again, and the week before that too!)

she only told me recently that she needs us to cut it out, but I can't. I'm obsessed with her. Any advice to get her to go with her instincts and just stick with me. I know that some people would just say get over her, but I don't want to I want to get with her

The most attractive thing you can do now is move on. It's also the most practical thing. LTRs don't work. Yes obviously she has feelings for you, but she still wants to break up. I still have feelings for all the girls I've been with. But breaking up doesn't require you to hate someone 100%, it just comes down to if it's worthwhile or not.

If she says no, and you keep trying, that only goes downhill.

If you move on, and later on it becomes more practical for you two to see each other, and she sees you can make an exciting and entertaining life without her (without you obviously shoving it in her face of course), she'll be really hot for you.

I aint no expert but this is my two cents. Dont hate me if it back-fires. I dont know the specifics of your situation.

But Id say the "no contact rule" is your only hope. Tell her you need sometime to move on and then, suddenly cut her off. Remove her from Facebook, Myspace, IM etc. Take no calls, especially when she calls you. Return no texts. Get rid of any pictures etc. Hide any reminders. Then, completely ignore her - every call and every text for about one month.

IMO, Dont let her make you into a friend (at least not now). This "friend" trap is how chicks get their cake and eat it too. They ween you off and then, 3 months later, you never talk again. You have to build attraction and desire. You do this by being unattainable like a rock star. Like everyone else, they want what they cant have. Women hate when they are ignored. Attention is their weakness.

The way I think of it is : You should effectively just die. If you think about people who have disappearred from your life or you can no longer contact, you will notice how suddenly no matter how much of a jerk they might have been, they become special and elevated. You remember them at their best. Everyone made fun of Michael Jackson until he died, now they remember "Thriller" and all the good times, how he was legend etc.

See what I mean? You should die. It has always worked for me, even though I never ended up getting back with any of my exes, they all gave me the verbal offer.

Like Conker says, "move on". She will then second guess her decision when there is a sudden change in you. She will see you as strong. If she doesnt, to me, it wasnt meant to be and either way, you should have used "no contact" time to explore other options and especially pick up new girls etc. You should be over her in a month or so/at least, you will have a better perspective.