I get sacred and freeze in clubs and bars. The music is so loud that I keep telling myself that the girls would not be able to hear me. I have ade a few approaches but the girls have walked away. Anyone has a good pick up line for clubs. Is there a way where one can just go upto a girl and without talking get her to dance with you.

I have tried grinding with girls by getting behind them but that works sometimes and sometimes it doesnt.

Uhhh.... there's a bigger problem here than the right technique or the right line.

You're experiencing the whole "deer caught in the headlights" thing. Clubs are INTENSE environments. The music is pounding. Lights are flashing. Girls are dancing. The smell of perfume, sweat and alcohol is in the air. And this is a HUGE overload for your senses. So what happens? You shut down. Your mind can't process all these things at the same time, and so you freeze up.

If you have a problem with vocal projection, you need to fix that. Being LOUD is a MUST, especially in a club. Not only that, if you're normally dating someone and you're super soft and quiet when you speak, it's just fucking annoying. Who wants to talk to someone that can barely be heard? This doesn't purvey confidence. Vocal projection is a must. You need to cultivate that.

Finally, grinding... well I have mixed feelings about this. Girls at the clubs that are used to the grinding and expect it will respond to it. OR Girls who get it all the time and expect it to happen will be really turned off by it. Honestly, you grinding up on her does not set you apart from the hundreds of other guys that will do the same thing. I avoid grinding at all costs. Step up, proud and confident, take her hand, spin her around, and start dancing.

You seem to be pretty new to this so for now I'd say take it slow. Get out to a club with your best buddies, and learn to live in that environment. Allow yourself to be absorbed by it all, and control your senses. When you're walking down the street in downtown T.O., with traffic lights flashing, cars honking, random people asking you for money/handing you flyers, and the constant stench of garbage because those guys are still on strike - do you freeze up?

No.

You're used to it. Progressive desensitization.

I think your first task should be to learn to just let go. Have fun. And live in the moment. Depending on where you are at with your inner game, this may take a long time, or no time at all. But it will save you many hurdles in the future.

Cheers and good luck.

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Its called nonverbal .. its the best method in the club ... in the video section there is a decent club dance opener ... but simply you don't ask to dance direct with a gurl ... I would suggest you come up to her with energy and mock her and then neg her and laugh it off ... I have had big time success with that ...