i imed her 4 times or so before that on my own and we had a text convo, then i made a joke or something and then it led to her telling me all the reasons I was a bad boyfriend saying I never saw her, and she was stupid for not leaving me earlier the way i treated her, remind you she has a boyfriend. Ten towards the end of the convo, she took 4 minutes at a time responding and took like 4 minutes to say bye back. thoughts?

and shes "like w.e im letting my anger out" and im like "your a great girl, i know i messed up things up, you deserve better than that. i know, im sorry. i like being your friend, your a cool girl. "

Honestly, don't bother with her. Set your goals elsewhere!

move on. you dont want to dwell on this old drama. Its nice to still be able to talk with your ex and all but i think she was looking for a sense of closure in it all. probably the reason why she told you what she did. Seems like you are still hung up on her.

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definitely no feelings for me, just closure most likely?

yeah i beleive so to.

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not even worth trying? just being like lets chill, she was basically flipping out on me

"then you got mad when i t hought you were cheating on me, how would u feel if kept making jokes about me cheating on u every day"

basically stating all the reasons i was a bad boyfriend

I'm unclear what exactly you want or expect out of this. You asked for thoughts on this... I don't think she is pursuing anything with you. I can see where the idea of closure comes from. If she is doing nothing other than pointing out what she doesn't like about you, she is most likely just venting. You also mentioned she has a boyfriend now, so chances are she is content and she is now able to tell you how she feels without risking the chance of not having a guy in her life.
You told her you like being her friend, so you are shooting down the idea of being more than friends yourself.

i just said that because i dont wanna show i have feelings for her through aim, i wanted to chill lol. yeah, but no chance really?

nope no chance. like i said just move on.

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Yeah. Sounds like you kinda shot yourself in the foot on this one. She might be interested but it dosnt matter. Too much baggage and bad history if you ask me. If you two did get back together it will always be an issue.

But if you are interested in getting back together best way wouldnt be going over the reason why you guys didnt work it would be better to go over reasons why you were great together or talking to her about great or memorable times. Get her back to the feeling she had for you at the time and if you could rekindle those you are back in. But like i said i wouldnt recommend it.

I also agree that if shes telling you the reasons why you two didnt work and coming clean after she has moved on its because she is done and ready for something else and is just cleaning her pallette.

Id take it as a compliment that she was still into you for so long after you two were over but i wouldnt loose sleep over it and i would accept thats its over. Also the things you said were probly not what i would have choosen to say since it sounds like your taking the blame and makeing it seem like you have a problem and at the same time your making her feel really good about her decision and giving her power. Which its not bad to make someone feel good or empowered but at this point the only person who will get much of a benefit from it is the new boyfriend.