Have you ever been in a position where you've been involved on whatever level, with a girl, and she just never, even more so, REFUSES to start any conversations?

This is happening to me right now. I'll tell you a little about my situation and hopefully some guys can help me to analyse things, help me to see what she's doing (and why), and how I can play this out..

To let you know, the girl that I have met, I know with no doubt that she is interested and attracted to me. That's why I'm getting more and more frustrated with the situation.. When I do talk to her, over msn or phone, she will respond and there is some major flirting going on. Yet, she will NEVER start the conversation, almost as though she is saying to herself "I'm not going to talk to him, even after that fun day two...." or: "We had fun flirting and got comfort and affection over msn, yet I'm not gonna start talking to him first, ever!"...

This has ended in me: Talking to her less, I don't want to always start the fucking conversation, be it through msn, text, or even in person (I don't have much fuss with in person, we can be forced to see each other through dates.), and it's made time brides longer.. I only talk to her once every 1-2 weeks.

She is quite talkative around her friends, though she is very shy when she may first meet a guy.. First time I met her, she would comply almost with anything I felt like.. she gave me the doggy dinner bowl look a few times..
We seam to have somewhat passed that stage however, are in comfort and rapport.. though yet to have a proper face-to-face conversation. So what's going on?

Attraction: Definite. I've received even a few doggy dinner bowl looks
Comfort and Rapport: Building (and seams to sometimes break.. is this a bad thing?)
Awkwardness: Shitload of it
Conversations: Also a shitload of flirting, and one time, deeper connection (used the cube routine on her, to try and show that I'm not just shallow!...).

I just read the beginning of "The Game" again. In one of the first chapters Style goes sarging with Mystery and the other students. At some point Style could catch the attention of a woman. She was really into him. But suddenly, at one point, she stopped paying attention to Style and just started to have a convo with another guy. Style just stood there and just waited until she finished her convo and then he asked her phone number, which he got. Mystery saw this and he said to Style that he did very wrong. He said that he should not have tolerated that kind of behaviour. He should have said "well, I am going" and than just leave. You should always be the price not her and if she doesn't behave as she should, you should punish her.

I think you are pretty much in a similar situation. You always start the talking and you don't like that she doesn't initiate any convo. Looks to me that she needs to get punished. Next time talk to her and if the convo stops and she doesn't reinitiate it, just leave the convo. Don't try to reinitiate it yourself. You are the price not her. It should be a honour to her to be talking to you and if she doesn't understand that, then she will lose the gift of talking to you.

This is my 5 cent. I hope this was helpful.

Like dude above me said punishment for bad behavior , Ignore her and turn ure body away from her , and let her restart the convo ; u can get up and walk away and leave her hanging , Or a neg like if u talked more i think ud be cooler ;
Main Point - START IGnoring her dnt text her dnt do anything completely ignore until she msgs u first even so u can still ignore her then till another time

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similar situation here, this one's totally into me when we run into each other, but she will never call or text first.

so i stopped. next time i seen her out, ignored her. of course she came over and said somethin to me first, but she still dont text or anything. so im not wasting my time. I'm movin on, if she learns and comes around, maybe ill consider her again, but not now. not unless shes figures it out.

some chicks are just weird.

we can't stand for this, and we can't give in.

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I'm dealing with a girl who is like that. I can tell she's interested, it's just that she won't initiate the conversation and sometimes it'll die out or she won't text back (but those are rare). So like you, I stopped talking to her all together. I may text her or something in another week or two but I highly doubt it

Oh snap!

I have that too! Okay check this out. I talk to the girl and run the ex-wife internet game on her. She digs it.

First she adds me to MSN, gets on cam cause I tease her about being a guy, but she'll never start a convo.

But she keeps reminding me to hang out, then asks to sleep over and cuddle. Which is happening this saturday.

Sooooo hard to plow thru all that.

this doesn't sound like a hugely big deal, after all girls can often be shy/busy thus won't start conversations first often

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I agree this really doesn't seem like a big deal, When I was younger women used to always call and start a conversation because they aint have nothing better to do ie no car just entering high school ect, now that I'am older none of the women I mess with text or call me besides my main chicks aka my girlfriends mainly because they have a job and a life, so if it is still bothering you I suggest that you "screen" women to your liking, ask them if they love text, talking on the phone all that good stuff, Me myself hate women texting and calling my
phone when i don't call or text them because I be with numerous women so that looks bad on me looking at my phone answering a text or call, also if you are not doing it find something to do be busy or something because worrying about why a woman is not calling you or texting you when she clearly is attracted. shows needyness and dependence,

cheers thatplayer89

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I do agree with you here, though I just wanted to point out that I feel she thinks that I like her, and so do all her friends, and feel they could also be using that to their advantage. Also, out of the girls I'm considering, she's my first pick. Mainly because she's the hottest and I couldn't help but feel instant attraction for her...

I know that I could get another date or so out of her, a hookup or w/e, it just fuckin' bugs me I always have to talk to her first! But cheers guys for the tips, it's helped me see things a bit more clearly.