| Let me tell you something, I used to be the biggest dork, loser, and outcast from elementary to high school, but all this torment, harassment, embarrassment, and "image" didn't hurt me in the long run. I'm actually sort of glad I was labeled the loser instead of being labeled a average normal person in my school because it taught me something.
"Rejection is nothing.... absolutely nothing if you think about it"
I got rejected so many times that I can even count. I got rejected pretty bad at some points in my life, but I can look back and laugh because I can see where I went wrong and where I messed up. You learn from your mistakes, but you always have to be brave enough to make em.
The most common misconception I made is if a girl rejects you she will go and tell her friends about you about your sad attempt and how ugly and nasty you were and she will criticize you and break you down with her friends as a fun activity. No, I highly doubt unless you made a completely BOMB'd approach which doesn't happen to anyone really... (unless you straight up said I love you or something completely wrong), and even if she does talk with her friends it doesn't really matter; you're not THAT important to her. For her to verbally abuse you and ridicule you she has to think of you as 'somebody', but to her, you were just another guy 'hitting' on her; she probably already forgot about you (unless you keep approaching her then you do become 'somebody').
Another thing that helped me get through my AA was realizing that there are so many women on this earth: there are billions and billions of women living on this planet; there are millions of women living in your state; there are thousands of women living in your city; There are hundreds of women in your school, what are you so terrified if you get rejected by ONE, when they're literally millions of untapped potential, you can't give up. Even if you failed a hundred times you can't give up because there is still millions and millions of women you haven't even met or talked to. When you meet every single woman on this planet then maybe you can say it's game over.
Women also WANT, yes WANT, to be hit on and they HAVE to be hit on. I get complaints all the time from my friends telling me stories of times they were somewhere and saw some cute guy, but the guy never approached her and she kept wondering 'why isn't he coming over here to talk to me?'. Yes it's twisted, it's sick, but women most likely aren't going to come to you, they WANT you to come to them and YOU HAVE TO if you want anything to happen. If you don't then they will just continue to do their own thing, and then nothing happens and they'll be disappointed, you'll be disappointed, and everyone loses... If you approach a girl then at least you're giving her a chance; she's not the one giving you a chance.
Believing things though won't get you anywhere, you have to act. Look to fail, don't look to succeed when you are trying to get over your AA. If you fail enough times you just don't really care anymore. Hope that helped someone, I'm not a PUA artist but I'm learning and working on it, and I know how hard AA is and I hope at least something in this helped one person.
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