..... but she had a bf. I worked on her for a while until she broke up with him, for me.

secondly, she started hanging out with her ex, whom she dumped for me.... however, she does not want to be with him.

Lastly, when she drinks, she "makes bad decisions". those are her exact words and it scares me.

......cheating broke up her parents marriage and she hates cheating but she admitted she doesnt think when shes drunk.

......my relationship may be over way too prematurely.

Dump her, period. And here is why:


Agreed you are a great guy but again what makes you think that she would not break up with you for him. There is something known as commitment and integrity. And you say that she doesnt like cheating. Open your eyes soldier




Why is she hanging out with her ex. when she has already broken off with him and doesnt want to be with him. You should be the no. 1 guy in her life and she should be concentrating on yours and hers relationship.


What does that mean !!! She is blaming her 'bad decisions' on alcohol ! if she knows that she makes bad decisions when she is drunk than she should not be getting drun in the first place.

You want to marry a girl who gets drunk and makes bad decisions.


Ok, here is the a major problem. If you want to know more about this than pm me if you care.
Sorry to say but she has lost a great guy like you by acting this way. Your relationship is going south and you should be the one ending it before she does that.

If you want to just sleep with this girl, or have her around for 'practise' than its your choice but if you want to marry this girl than you have issues.

Dump her, period ! she has no integrity and probaly is already making out with outher guys when she is drunk. Sorry to be harsh

@Marc

Listen here chump you got it all wrong.

Depending on the circumstances the girl probably came from a relationship that probably evolved from highschool. Therefore its like it was stale when entering college.

You can argue the commitment factor all you want but if a guy isn't meeting a girl's core values especially after two years that is his fault and not the girls.

There are plenty of ways to look at this but to the guy asking for advice... Don't show jealousy encourage her to hang out with her guy friends and say where you stand. Never give second chances.

Yeah... no. Don't listed to dark one. Controlling who your girlfriend hangs out with is not the answer to your jealousy. My girlfriend still talks to some of her exes every now and then. Granted, she doesn't go hang out with them very often, but they sometimes visit her at work and shit. This doesn't bother me. She won't cheat on me with them, she knows they lost her and aren't getting her back. On the off-chance she does cheat on me, I'll be glad I got it out in the open as soon as I could so I didn't waste time with someone who didn't feel the same way I felt. Another reason to let her hang out with other guys. My girlfriend's good guy friend is home from college for a bit. She hung out with him the other day for a bit, they went to the mall and shopped . Why do I not care? Same reason as above, plus I've met him and he has respect for me. Again, if I ever found out anything happened she'd be gone. But you can't live your whole life hoping your girlfriend isn't out cheating on you. You'll just wear yourself down and it won't be good for the relationship.


However, with that said, her leaving her boyfriend at the time for you is not a good sign. As said above, if she was willing to do that before it could happen again. Yet again, you can't have your guard up all day everyday.

As far as the "bad decisions" she makes while drinking, you may have to have a talk with her about that. Every now and then (when it comes in context) I tell my girlfriend I give no strikes and she would be out the door on the first screw up. Alcohol is no excuse for anything.

Rules you need to follow:

1. Never let a gf hang out or talk to an ex. If you tell her it makes you uncomfortable and she doesnt respect you enouph to not talk to him then she is being selfish and you should dump her end of story. Why is he talking to her? Il tell you why...he wants to fuck her / get back with her and its only a matter of time.

2. Never let your gf hang out alone with other men. that means no one on ones....your not her number one man and her best friend end of story. You should be the same...no hanging with women alone.

3. Use the 95% rule. trust your gf 95% of the time but dont give her the whole 100% because any women will cheat. keep your eyes open and keep an eye on her.

4. Dont let her know you dont trust her 100%. Unless she gives you a reason you cant let her know you dont trust her! you will look insecure and it will push her away...giving trust can work in your favour as well because if she thinks you trust her she will be more of a sloppy cheater....she wont feel the need to hide things because she wont think you are on to her.

5. dont be jealous ever! it wont do you any good to be jealous will it? no. If shes going to cheat she going to cheat and thers nothing you can do about it....if you catch her then you do somthing about it.

6. THIS ONE YOU REALLY NEED TO READ! lol dont get with a women who a.) leaves her bf for you. or b.) cheats on her bf with you. why you ask? because she an emotionally unstable women and its only a matter of time until she does it to you.

Hey believe what you want, but I'm not going to live in a relationship where I think my girlfriend is cheating on me everytime she is not in sight. I'd rather not worry about it and live happy. But think about it. Even if you tell her you don't want her to hang out with him she still is going to. She will probably want to even more because she isn't supposed to. I'd rather let my girlfriend hangout with guys than have her sneak around behind my back. Sure, they may be trying to get in her pants. But she won't let them. And if she does, like I'm said, I'll be glad to find out earlier rather than later.

hey guys...i appreciate the input here. i decided that im NOT going to break up with her because she really hasnt given me a reason to. We are still trying to work things out, and she has severely cut back on talking to him and has not seen him since i told her how it made me feel. I trust her, but i have some jealousy issues that i need to work on to make our relationship better. But thats my problem, not hers. Peace

Grappler