I met this serious hb last week. We both do the same collegiate sport so we'd known eachother all year but never talked to eachother. last week we were all going out and i set my sights on her. I played the mysterious alpha and got her easily.

We had sex and i was expecting it to be a one off thing but two days later, i meet her in a nightclub again with the same group of people. You could feel the very strong attraction between us. That night we had very passionate sex twice.

So for the past few days i've been pretty happy with myself but i'm a bit annoyed. I really want to start going out with her and have her as my gf but i dont have any money. I need to find a job first but i think that by the time i do, she'll have gone off me and ill have moved on too. I really like her and she likes me.

Should i tell her i want to bring her out but have no money? or should i wait till i get a job and try meet up with her again. for the record i can scrape together some money for another night out with her but not enough for a really great night. any advice!? thanks!

I am consistently poor as well....
It really depends on what type of girl she is.
If you think she's the kinda person who isn't stuck up and buying ed hardy shit ALL the time....then I'd say go ahead and tell her the truth but be FUN regardless. Just let her know you don't have that much money but looking for a job

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She now knows im looking for a job. Maybe ill just go ahead and look for a job while still keeping in contact with her. Ill do my best to bring her out soon on what little money i have just to keep her interested. Ill try to move things along slowly. If i had money right now she'd be my girlfriend in three days. This sucks. Thanks for the reply.

Taking a girl out doesn't have to break the bank, dude. Scroll down a little bit in this section and find a thread I started called "5 free or inexpensive day 2's she'll never forget". In it, you'll find tons of suggestions from forum members for, as the title implies, cheap or free dates that will leave a lasting impression

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Im in a similar situation man, Im not sure shes GF material yet, but if I see some potential then I'd tell her in a jokey way, just say your looking for a job, but you have a back up such as 'Male escourting because your high maintenance and so looking for a rich cougar to spoil you' etc etc, remember happy and poor is better than rich and unhappy...apparently

Hey, i read the 5 cheap date ideas. Really good. I figure the best one would be to meet for coffee or something in town and go for a walk. But i dont wanna ask her out over text to do that. Im worried she wont enjoy it enough as a date. Shed probably expect more than that if i asked her out on a date.

I figure i might tell her im going to a club some day this week and ask her if she'll be there. I live in a relatively small city so you see a lot of people you know at the clubs. When im out with her i can ask her at the end of the night to meet me in the city for coffee of something. Ill tell her ill be in there sorting out a job and could use some company. Being in the club we should be kissing so i guess thatll make it less awkward to kiss her the next day in town.

Bear in mind that we've had sex twice last week so the attraction is there. Its just im no good at dating at all. It been three days since we last talked. I should probably talk to her again soon.

You're going about this with the completely wrong mindset. Dating and getting serious with a girl isn't about trying to guess what thing she'll enjoy the most and re-arranging your life to suit it. Just think of what kind of precedent that sets for the relationship! You're setting a frame right from the get-go that your decisions will be governed by her preferences--this does not lead to a happy future.

What you should do, and what most women really want, is to invite her to be a part of your world, whatever that may be. If she takes the opportunity, give her an honest look at you as a person and the life you live.

Whatever you do, stop struggling to be "good enough" or meet some arbitrary set of standards you think she might have. The only person you need to be good enough for is yourself.

Your boy,
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thats brilliant. never thought of it that way. good point. thanks 870!

870 nailed it. It's all about prizing. Youcan read all about this in swinggcat's ebook. If you don't want to pay for a date you need her to see you as the prize. You need to make her want you. She will chase you and want to be with you. Use push/pull and cold reading. Don't call anything date(it's just hanging out) if you intstill into her that your the prize it will work. She pays for herself cause it's just two people hanging out. Just build comfort and you'll be fine. If you want to call it date just say something like "I'll pay this time, you got the next three" it's funny and it shows that you don't plan on paying for everything.

I was on the same boat as you lost my Job i got one now but i still was getting laid, my point is if she likes you the money wont be a problem to a (CERTAIN POINT); You gotta provide for youreself No Money = No girls because money is a necessity for everything if u have somewat of an income it would work ; wat id do in this case look im not workin rite now and i dnt have alot of cash rite now , Now obivously i enjoy being around you and i have feelings for you which are amazing theres going to be a point where money is going to be an issue so i think we should be really good friends or whatever else you want to say besides tht .

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Please don't full in to easy ... this gurl might only want sex and thats all ... but I agree with everyone else if she is about money then she is shallow and you don't need her ... I would take her out and see how yall get along and see what kind of girl she is .......

nah shes not in it for the money, and i dont think she's just in it for the sex either. She did refuse sex a few nights ago. And I haven't paid anything for her yet. I got a job in a restaurant the other day and im getting paid soon so money ain't a problem anymore.

Im going to a bar with her in a few nights and I'm wondering what to do. I keep meeting her in diferent clubs in the city and i think i should meet her when theres no alcohol involved.

Do you think maybe i should ask her on a date? or should i just be completely open and ask where this is going and what she wants to do? I have very little experience with this relationship stuff. Thanks dudes!!!