I broke up with my girlfriend 3 years ago because she simply wasn't mature enough. Now I want her back. During the past 3 years I have sarged very well, and picking up is not a problem. However, I still can't manage to re-ignite the old spark with the ex.

She seems hesitant to do things and conversation sometimes isn't smooth.

Any ideas?

Amour.

Get in with her friends, get close to them and she will get jealous. Best case, u get her to come out with some of her friends n just hit on her friends all night. Should lead to a little bit of jealousy on her part and hopefully get that spark goin.

Yeah done that all ready, but seemed only midely affective. She sometimes brings it up slyly in conversation to use a neg against me.

Does she ever seem interested?

I know I don't think I'd ever go back out with an ex... That's why they are exs.

All the best though

It's difficult to give any sort of real advice as we don't need how you broke up, or how you've acted since or even how you acted during your relationship.

It's been a while so I won't expect things to go smoothly at all.

The universal advice would be to not appear needy. Do the cocky funny routine. This depends if there was any of it going on before. What worked before may not now because times have changed. You've both changed.

My real advice would be to let it go, it's run it's course and whilst some couples do get back together, do you really see it working out. Why not, put it behind you and start something new. It's in the past, leave it there. I know what you speak of as I've had a gf I dated for 2 years, and even after 2-3 years I kind of wanted her back at certain times. But I knew that wasn't what I needed or really wanted, it was just a part of me that longed for what I had. I guess I didn't appreciate what I had until it was gone.

It was the needy aspect of me speaking. I've since made that voice in me more distant, dimmer, quieter, blurry. I replace her image with new girls I meet in bright beautiful colours.

What we had was a memory now. Pleasant memories.

Yeah, agreed. Every time I have appeared needy, it would work ok that night. But then a day or even a week later, I had lost so much momentum and game. A short gain, for a long term loss.

From what I can tell, cockyfunny works the best, however, with this girl, she responds best to an emotional connection bought through touch and trust. It's a delicate balance between cockyfunny and just seeming up yourself. And she is the kind of girl that will neg you instantly if you cross the line. She is pretty switched on. She has befriended many boys, she's a typical girl that guys fall in love with but can never have.

Your right with letting it go, there definitely much more out there. But the allure of the fish that got away draws you back so easily! It's almost a test of my game. I think I"m more attracted to the chase, than the prize.