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I began to mail to about the real details a while back and now am back on the online stream....
I want to say thanks for your last mail because many people forget about the little details and its you lack of forgetting that is awesome.
Kris,
You are welcome!
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The next question invloves frame. I am reading through your mail and it is apparent that your frame is very important. Showing she is chasing you and making yourself the highest value possible. Does this show the difference between being sexy and just nice??
I am a little confused at what you are getting at. I agree you want the girl to chase you. I also agree that you want to Demonstrate Higher Value (DHV) when you can during your messages back and forth. Not to mention you want to show your personality in your messages. I am not sure what you mean by is this the difference in being sexy and just nice?
Using DHV spikes doesn't really make us sexy but it does create attraction if that is what you mean. Yes while during your conversations you want to insert DHV spikes, use teasing, and qualification to create attraction so you don't just become friends that like to talk to each other on the Internet.
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The frames questions as i see are slotted in along normal conversation.
I can see what a frame question works like and have a few myself however they lack congruence. The mystery 'looks are common' for example doesn't easily fit into a conversation and if left at the very end of the message seems to be a little to intrusive ... ?? how do you view this?
I agree that this question doesn't work the best for online game. It can be used but my results with it aren't that solid. I like using qualification questions as I go because it does help establish that you are the one being chased in a way since they will be qualifying to you by answering the question. I might use:
Tell me 3 interesting things about you.
What are some things people don't get about you right away?
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My finale queastion invloves microcalibration (yeah i have been doing my homework lol.) Knowing when to stop using these quaifying questions seems to be the difference between being seen as a pressure interview and just making sure you have the right women?? How do you calibrate with only pictures???
Is it her response being forthcoming or not?
I could go on for days...
thnks
Kris
Microcalibration.
Yeah you have been doing your homework studying that sort of stuff and it's good to know. As you know microcalibration can best be described as a scale of social value between the two of you. You want things to be balanced to the best of your ability. We reward positive behaviour with positive behaviour and negative behaviour with negative, etc.
I'm not sure how you would calibrate with only pictures since microcalibration really refers to more of a verbal sense back and forth or possibly with body language when in front of someone.
We do have to be careful asking questions though because we don't want this to become an interview or interrogation. However, the only way to get to know someone is going to be asking questions. It is just the way it works. They have information you want to know you have to ask them a question. With stuff like the qualification questions I listed above or with open ended questions I ask I try to elicit the biggest response I can from them. Then from there I branch off their stories. An open ended question I'd use is "What was it like growing up for you?"
Does that answer you questions or have I missed something?
Jon
CHAT
Talk to you all when I return. 
