Background, been gaming a girl for the last week or so who is the mistress of a married man with kids.

He is my age, she is in her early 20s. she clearly wants to hook up with me when she is here but can some one give me some insight into her mindset please.

She says that she is happy to be his number 2 and that he does not want her to see other men. However, she is now prepared to cheat on him with me on the condition that I will not have her exclusively.

What is going on in this chick's head?

She smokes (which I have told her I do not like), drinks far too much coffee. Is she an adrenalin junkie?

I met her for a couple of day and then managed to game her with my words (online) and stirred up emotions in her. So much so that she now starts to txt me if I do not reply to her emails in reasonable time.

Thanks or any help in advance.

Shes bored man. Shes married in her early 20's with kids. Shes missing out on life! I have a view on this that others my not agree with. But shes the one wearing the ring not you. She is a big girl and can make her own choices, and it sounds like she has. She is being totally up front and honest about it, even stating that it is not going to be a legit relationship.

Moving forward just be safe man, sounds like she will give it to you but be careful of the insuring drama. Make sure your just as honest and up front as she is that you don't wanna mess with her boy and your not going to have a legit relationship with someone who is married.

Any other opinions on this one guys?

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Dont worry so much. Why would this be any business of yours? Ever heard of respecting and accepting people for who they are? If they do not suit you, move along. Dont ever change anyone into something they are not just in order to fit them into your life.

As for the rest. So shes 20. Newly wed. A mistress. None of these things makes her any different from any other girls you have met.

If she is married, thats her problem, not your responsibility.

Her mistress mindset may result in interesting situations.

Is she my girlfriend? No, so I say go for it.

Guys, it seems that I have not made myself clear. let me try again.

She is not married. She is seeing a married man. she is His mistress. It is the married man who has the wife and kids.

The married man (MM)has obviously not told his wife about her (the HB8 in her 20s). The MM does not want her (the HB mistress) to see and other men.

Hope that clarifies things.

It seems that she is now willing to cheat on her cheating lover, with me.

What I am after is an understanding about the type of person she is. She has been seeing this guy as his mistress for about 2 1/2 years as his number 2.

Oh I get it now!! Haha that makes way more sense. Fuck it dude, bang her. But don't expect much of a relationship out of it. Not really sure thats someone you would want to get involved with on a much more than a hook up level anyway. Screw the MM brother, doesn't want her to see other men. Is he mind fucking her or what?

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I agree. I have no issues with banging her and you are right that this is not going to be a LTR. normally I would not knowingly participate in using BF destroyer tac tics but I think that in this case it is perfectly fair game.

How he heck can he (the MM) cheat on his wife and then expect his mistress (the HB8) to remain faithful to him......

Any ideas on what is going on inside this HB8s mind guys?

She likes to have sex. End of story.

fair enough Ezo, but I thought that women see sex differently from us men. that is they start to form these deeper connections with the person they have sex with and want to stay or keep him.

Sorry, they are just like us. And it depends on the person. Generally a bit more towards the "romantic" stuff you say and mainly because of social pressure. A lot of guys share this too. The variance of individuals can overcome "common" sex based behaviours.

So they are seen as sluts if they get what they want and we dont. Really unfair.

Why would you even worry yourself with the boyfriend destroyer. That is grade "A" F-Buddy Sex on a weekday afternoon man. I have an LTR that has been engaged to some guy for like 4-5 years. We call each other whenever we would like to spend a nice evening together (Maybe twice a month) and that's it. We see each other on the streets and wave. Not a problem.

The key is to figure out what you want. If you want to date this female then I wouldn't advise it. But as far as sex every now and again. Definite green light.

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