Alright I am so flustered beyond belief I feel crushed and confused sound a bit AFC to you guys . Ok I’ve been gaming this chick for a while now and she has been into me and everything. She kino’s me all the time and we’ve built a ton of attraction and comfort. I see her pretty regularly (co-worker) and the other guy in this story is also a co-worker.

Well there is this other guy and she told me before that he creeped her out and couldn’t stand him. She told me to tell him to stop bothering her, she told me to tell him to fuck off basically. I didn’t do all of what she said because I’m not her little bitch, but you could see that he was bothering her even from an audiences standpoint. She would just get up and leave after he said something.

This guy looks for her to laugh at his jokes, and does about every needy thing in the book. This guy is the biggest AFC chump you will ever meet, he does almost everything she says and she controls him, and yet he’s the one in a fbook relationship. She’s always hanging around me touching me and acting excited to see me while the other guys seems to come second. She always tries to get my attention even to the point where she says my name only to say hi or something stupid.

Now I’ve been getting more and more sexual with this girl, I smack her on the ass and she says she likes it. The other guy barely touches her at work. Keep in mind she is all over me at work and always screaming my name when I come in, she never acts as excited to see the other guy as when she see’s me.

Now I go on facebook today and see that she is in a relationship with the creepy guy she told me earlier that creeped her out, the same guy who is doing all of these loser things.


I’ve been through a couple text threads with her that scream IOI after IOI and even today she was like I was really happy to see you, we need to hang out soon, blah blah blah. She would continue to touch me in front of everybody and use the other guy as her boy toy, telling him to do shit (he actually didn’t do something she said today).

Now I don’t know what I should do. Should I just act like it doesn’t even bother me yet I know about it, should I act like I didn’t even see it and proceed. Or should I confront her about it and say if she wants me to back off and leave her alone with her new found glorious boyfriend that’s cool with me and to leave me alone. Should I wish them the best and try to put in “now treat her right” kinda stuff flipping the protective attraction switches. Should I do this all in-person not in a text, I’m extremely lost and need some direction.

It seems to me like she’s playing a huge game on me to trying to get me extremely jealous, I’m more pissed then jealous actually, but still confused. I think her plan was to get me jealous, have me go crazy for her and beg to be in a relationship with her, and she drops the other guy. I will say that her friends are into me and they all like me, should I try and get with one of her friends (i hate playing tit for tat but hey she started it)

Even after all this PUA stuff I still feel like I’ve been hurt in a big way. How do I snap myself out of this. I haven’t done anything yet and really need advice, I feel doing things in a rushed manor creates mistakes so I want to get everybodies opinion on this.

When I’m acting I can’t be compelled to do anything from a nervous/rushed position so I’m going to let myself calm down a little bit, see what you guys have to say, then make some choices.

Thanks a lot guys

-Ion

Lets see...

do not acknowledge the boyfriend, in all honesty who cares and what does he matter. Your frame of mind shouldnt really include him at all.

If shes trying to make you jealous, dont be, just redirect the feeling. she starts making you feel jealous say something witty, "Hey now, are you trying to make me jealous? If so you're doing it all wrong.."

Now little bit of shame on you mate, this story shouldnt have happened. She was/is there around you constantly and seems to be interested and she also seems to be pawning that guy to get to you.

You're her target to some degree dont let her hit hit the bulls-eye, keep her a few rings away from it. In short, keep her intrigued.

Do something with her in person. just the two of you. Isolate. Take her to a few different venues in a relatively short amount of time it'll will make it feel like you guys did alot in a short amount of time.

What you were saying about her friends is half right...if you want her dont fully go for her friends but make it look like you are. Have a good time with her AND her friends, and more importantly have fun while doing it. tease her friends make them respond to you.

When talking to her put a sexual frame on the situation. look for some gunwitch(sp?) stuff.

And in any situation make sure its fun from the get go then transition to in depth conversation and ultimately to seduction.

And as for feeling down about this chick just go chase girls, ones that she doesnt know, just run around spittin game at any girl that remotely catches your eye. Helped me get over a girl. You just need to realize theres more out there.

No one-itis mate.

best of luck,

Smile

Hey man, Smile gives some good pointers here. I would take his advice and say to her "Hey, are you trying to make me jealous" But be blunt, be honest when you say that you didn't expect it but do NOT show her any AFC feelings. Jealousy is a hard thing to control. Really hard. But don't let her see it. Don't even act bothered by this situation, she's missing out on you. Reframe it so that you are the winner. And you are the winner. You're a fu**ing PUA!
Anyway, if she actually does like this guy, I feel bad for her. What an AFC. If she says that she's into this guy. AMOG him. Why not? Say something like "Oh yeah, he seems really into you. I could tell he wanted to date you for like ever"
Another thing, maybe they are hiding their relationship? I've done this before. A secret relationship that only she and he know about? That definitely would get easy IOIs with the sexual tension and all. Tell me if it's at all possible.

Here's a question. Are you sure that isn't like a JOKE relationship status?

I mean my mate has his status as being married to me and VICE VERSA. Obviously bullshit.

THINK ABOUT THIS BEFORE YOU CALL HER OUT! As everything in your story thus far would suggest those two are anything BUT girlfriend and boyfriend.

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Heys Guys

Thanks for all the quick replies.
As to the question is it a real relationship on facebook. I guess real to who is the question. It seems like it might be real to the guy but not to the girl because of stuff I'll tell you later in this post. But I mean its on facebook and relationships between girls and guys are usually pretty serious if they put it on facebook man, all there friends will know. This girl was in a relationship with one of her best female friends as "married" for the longest time, but now that friend is moving away, so I guess she is trying to fill the void.
And about AMOG'ing him. People have been telling this girl for months that this guys like hers. He's the one who initiated the facebook status (I can tell cuz his comes first..hard to explain). All the things that we read about as being bad he has done. Needy, he chases her, looks for her to laugh, follows her around, does "almost" everything she says, etc. She owns him and she knows it.

I'll tell you guys a little more about what happened yesterday night. Alright I'm working late and the other guy is working with me but without the target. Ok the girl (target) comes in with five of her friends and they all are into me, some more then others.

Alright the hottest girl of the group comes up to me first and starts complaining about how I was going to take her+the initial target to the same venue at different times. She said she's mad at me but whatever. I know you guys are probably thinking why don't I just go with this girl but I really don't see her that often and her personality isn't that great. Plus she has a reputation for hanging out with a really fast crowd that drinks all the time and does drugs (not sure on the drugs but I've heard). I really don't want to deal with all that but that might change. She's one of those girls who are in it for the chase, I'm playing hard to get right now and she's chasing.

One girl said she had a fantasy of making out with me with pop rocks in her mouth (kinda weird but ok haha). Another girl asked me what I thought of her earings. Another girl said she was talking about a time when we went to the mall with each other months ago. All of this pretty much happened in front of the target. As this was going on the target was saying my name, only to wave at me just to get my attention. Then the target wanted to do our secret handshake in front of all her friends. I hope you guys know that the other guy is there as all of this is going on.

Now when she first came in, she saw me and ran right up to me and stared in my eyes and was like "hi". She didn't run up to the other guy. But then as the friends were getting more into me she was like "alright lets go", and her girlfriends were like whats the rush, and she seemed sad. I couldn't really understand why she was upset.

I then went to say goodbye and I gave her a "ghetto" hand shake that lingered and feel apart like one of those romance novels , all in front of the other guy. Now you can imagine my surprise getting on fbook last night to see that she is in a relationship with this guy.

Now that I think about it, I kinda feel bad for the guy, escpecially if she is just trying to make me jealous.

I feel what you guys are telling me about saying "are you trying to make me jealous". If I see her what should may tonality and presentation be when I tell her this, should I be playful, serious, jokingly, etc. Should I text her that or wait until the next time she comes in. I was texting her just yesterday about how she would come visit me on the days I work because we are not working a lot together this week and she said she would with smiling faces in her text messages say "Oh I will )......."



Thanks for the Tips

tonality should be halfway sarcastic and halfway playful.
the sarcastic part is so you can basically say "shame on you" to her without saying it.
and the joking part is so she'll take what you're saying and try to play with it