I got back on good terms again with a girl I had a falling out with. Previously I thought it was impossible - I had been too afc, we got into huge arguments, and we said things that were pretty terrible. She said she never wanted to speak with me again.

2 months later, I decided to try contacting her. Part of me strongly believed that she couldn't forget all the fun we had and would be open to making up. Another voice in me was trying to tell me that she would be mad and bite my head off and I would have to crawl back to her. I did my best to shut that voice up.

So I contacted her. She was very stand-off-ish, and although I was positive, I had to txt her "I could sense your apprehension last time, which made for a very akward phone call. I can only guess what's wrong, but I know the best thing for you when you're not talking, is to leave you be." She just said "No apprehension, was just a girl on a mission really." (it was about her dropping something off that she accidently took with her when she left.)

I didn't buy it. I knew something was up.

This is where the manifestive thinking comes in.

The voice was telling me she was being "too cool" for me, but I just felt that was the wrong way to think, based on everything I've learned as a PUA.

Instead I convinced myself that no matter what happened, we were going to meet up again and things would be just like old times.

And then I ended up texting her as someone in that mindset. My txts were full of positive energy, and reminding her of the good times. Eventually she came round. And she had to confess the real reason she was holding back was because she thought she'd get a lecture again.

That's where I would have screwed up, if I was thinking the old way!

Right before I convinced myself to be positive, I was getting all torn up that she was holding back, and thoughts entered my head like - she probably thinks she was in the right the whole time when we were arguing, and as a PUA I have to remind her that it was actually a lot of her fault too, and that brought out the arguing in me too... etc... turns out that would have been the worst approach to take! And now I can see how being afraid is not the way to go.

Visualise how you want things to be, that's Manifestive thinking - I got that from Sean (the wheelchair guy) in David Deangelo's "Man Transformation" seminar (only recently released)