hi guys, been going out with my girl for 2 months now. Very happy. One thing bothers me thou.

When she sees her 'friends' she never really texts me back. Is this normal? Howcan i get her to perhaps text me back occassionally. I text her still when im with my mates so i dont see why i shouldnt get the same back....

It just makes me feel that perhaps there are other reasons why she doesnt text back, and i know when im with my mates, taking 30 seconds time out to text her really doesnt take much effort for me....

ya, stop texting her. if she wants to talk to you she will. you shouldn't even try to force it becasue it will give you a lower social value and make you seem needy.

Chevylover man, I know the feeling well. You're really into the girl, and sometimes your doing your thing and shes on your mind. Alot. So you text her - have little chats.

Unfortunately, this is a bit dangerous, no matter how it satisfies our "she's on my mind" situations. Not only do you seem a tad needy initiating all these conversations; you're gonna burn out all these things to text about fast. "What you up to?" gets old real fast.

Make a rule to yourself. Right now.

You will not text her everyday.

Or every two days.

You will text her first on one or two days within a four day period, unless there is an important message or event you need to set up right at that moment.

Some people will complain that 'little phone games' aren't a good idea. But trust, if you have this problem - resist that urge to text first if you did the day before.

What happens? Guaranteed:

When you text. She'll be more happy you have and will text back unless she really is busy.
And the other days, you'll probably find she texts you first alot more and those magic words, "miss you" will appear more often.

Little things make the relationships sweeter. 'cos when she feels like she hasn't had much contact with you much, she misses you and shows you more affection when you're actually there.

I don't use the 1 in 4 or whatever rule, but I make sure me texting first isn't THAT often. My girl texts me alot in return, and often sends me 'miss you's' and such even when I'm asleep or something. There's alot to be said for aloofness.

Give it a try man, let us know!

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Personally I have had the same issue before. I just usually don't text first period under most circumstances, or the time it takes her to text you back you mirror the time with when you send a text back. Or if she takes forever to answer freeze her out. Don't get mad cause then it will show insecurity and bad inner game- she will see you as desperate and needy. I always pay attention not to "lean" during a text conversation also.

I agree with Chevy and Riot. Don't text her unless you have important information to communicate, period. And even then, keep it short.

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Yh.... I wanna ask about the length of the text. Is there a specific rule that you guys use. I remember back in the days when I was attracting this girl, i used to write really short because I didnt have the time, and her texts were always long and full of sweet comments. Yet now that she is my gf..she has the nerves to reply with "k" or even "Bi"... when am the one writting the text. This really pisses me off. ANy advice on that?

It sounds like she is loosing interest (low IL) bro. You need to get control back. Don't slide into AFCville.

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How can I do that?

Are you a dumbass or something? Riot just explained to you PERFECTLY how to solve your problem, yet it's like you didn't even read his post when you ask Sinful "How do I get control back?" Dude, don't waste other PUA's valuable time and hard-learned advice if you're not even going to listen.

You have a point, but there is no need to become so aggressive. Chillax man.

Errm... Riot answered a question based on the fact that the girl doesnt reply. I asked a question realting the length of the text. I dont need Riots advice because she always texts me everyday - now tell me who needs to read propely and not waste other "PUA valuable time".

Personally, I hate really, really short texts, like the person doesn't give a fuck. I don't think the text length is the issue here. Like I said, Riot gave you all the advice you need. The less needy you become the more needy she will come. It's like a seesaw. Make her become the one that needs your attention. Either that, or get a girlfriend who is at the same comfort level as you in terms of how often you need to text each other. Good luck man.