Hello guys,

I am proud to say that this is my first post on here.

A couple of months back I met this girl at a bar. We got off really well, I isolated her by taking her outside and having a cigarette with her. Things seemed to be going well until her friend cockblocked the shit out of me, I was left there kicking the dirt. She gave me her facebook, as her phone just got stolen that night. I tried to get in contact with her twice on Facebook (wallposts, messages) but she failed to reply.

I again met her just a while back at a friends party, and I straight away started off by some pretty gutsy negs. Cutting her down to size about her ignoring me on facebook. These negs seemed to work as she started apologizing, and hugging me, asking me to give her a second chance. We talked for a while, and she finally had gotten a new phone number which she immediately gave me. I am pretty keen on this girl. I just need some advice on what to do next. I reckon that I should text her. Though I am pretty confused as to what I should say in this situation. I seemed to have won the second battle.

Help would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks alot

cheers

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How long has it been since you've last contacted/seen her?

Most recommend a phone call over a text, however I find if the girl is 18/19 years old a text is far better to initiate the conversation. Again, the message will depend on how long its been since you've spoken with her.

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Last time I spoke to her was on Wednesday night. It is Friday here in Australia now. So let me know what the best thing to do is.

cheers

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People have differing views, but my experience is that often times girls just want the attention of tons of guys posting on their facebook wall. If they say, 'my phone is ???? how about facebook', I tease them saying: "Oh, so you're one those facebook whores. How many friends do you have, 2000?". She may say 'no, only 300', then you can say 'I guess you're not as good as I thought'.

If she insists on facebook only, I usually message them instead of posting on their wall. Or I will add them as a friend and a couple weeks later comment on their status, as if I just happened to notice it pop up when I logged into facebook. After that I can message them privately and say 'I just so happened to see your status... blah blah blah'

As for the second meet it sounds like you did a good job. Normally I would not even let on that I noticed she ignored me on facebook (acting like she was one of many friends I hit up on FB), but it sounds like it worked out for you. Again, people have different views here but I find a good phone call to be most effective. I think lots of people hide behind text messaging and computers, so a phone call shows more confidence. Review some of the material out there on phone game and make rehearse several 'practice' calls. Take 10 auditions of yourself leaving a winning voicemail in case she doesn't answer. If you still feel too nervous, casually call some other female friends to get into the phone mood.

jmm is right about everyone having different ways to go about this.

Me personally,
I would have sent a txt or facebook message the next day saying "it was nice seeing her again" Whatever she says - if it isn't about her wanting to see you again - end the conversation quickly (a line about being busy at the moment)

I would then not call or txt her until the day before or day of that I'm going out somewhere. Or maybe wait till the next weekend and pull something like

you - "Hey what are you doing tonight?"

her - "going out to dinner with friends"

you - "awesome, same here - having sushi with some friends. Yummy! - after we eat, we're gonna have some drinks at *******, you're down for it right?"

What she answers swings things in different directions and how you handle it is up to you.
You can PM me for what I would do when she answers yes, no , maybe.

-Xerxes

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