F About two weeks ago I met this girl in line for the club, she had an accent so i couldn't help but to gravitate towards her (HB 8.5/9), we played in the club.. long story short after an initial k-close rejection i shut her out eventually got the k-close came across as an interesting and very smooth/fun/confident guy, moved her out of the club we walked around making out in all different places and talking...she was really digging me. We ended up cuddling on a couch and making out. Next week I put in aloooot! of text game...every other fucking day thinking of the best texts the best times etc. she always texted back positively..but after 10min-1 hour after alot of ambiguity of whether her friends were gonna meet my friend at the nearby club seen she FINALLY said she would come. We chilled that night made out a lot to got to know each other a little more (in a fun way but still just the tip of the iceberg) for instance i found out what kind of wine she likes what sports, movies a little about brazilian culture, her height etc. and visa versa. I invited her to have coffee with me the next day, she thought it was to soon or something but we agreed for next week coffee then wine and a movie at my place;) we had a fun night, nothing beautiful or crazy awesome but we enjoyed eachothers company and it was nice, i told her to call me when she got home to let me know she got there safe...she did. OK so the next week same thing playful texts to her monday, wednesday and all positive responses (still 15min to 1 hour wait) THEN THE THURSDAY TEXT I GAVE HER WENT LIKE THIS ((with wink face)) "i just thought the perfect thing thing to show you saturday;) AND SHE THREW THE FIRST BIG CURVEBALL "Cool...but i have bad news...i will work saturday. my host parents said for me today morning they will a dinner and i will watch the kids all night. so i cant go". WHAT THE FUK!!! THAT WAS IT SO THAT NIGHT(8 hrs later) I TEXTED HER THIS "no prob i'll hang with the boys sat let me know whens a good time and if it fits my schedule i'll give the OK". Now granted its still taht night now im still pissed for putting in all this work and getting a text that looks like a flake. What can i do if she doesn;t text back. I dont get why she flaked, was the first text i sent that day sounding sexual...is this a shit test. SOMEONE PLEASE HELP. this girl is hot...and from brazil. I put in mad work my game was tight. was it to much playfulness not enough comfort? I think maybe all my texts throughout the two weeks were playful. HELP!!

I think you just needa relax.. She has a dinner with the parents and watch the kids. That's a legitimate excuse. Now take the time to get more options so she's not the only one. You're doing fine just don't over think it. A relationship is mutual so if you're doing all the work u should slow down and let her hit you up to or else you'll come off as needy. Realize how the interactions are with your female friends.. It's always no more no less but u always get the point across everytime, right?

If anything Brazilian women see sex the way the average guy does, i think u could have hit that already, especially if she was at your house and you guys were making out, Idk what went wrong there?

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less texting.. females usually have text convos with their girlfriends and u don't wanna follow her hoop of compliance, the other way around. Plus it's very impersonal. Say what you have to say thru text and that's it. U should have built enough rapport for her to answer your calls or call u back.

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It was the plans to come over that she flaked..so i never got her over to my house...also she lives an hour away so its harder...thanks for the advice this is good. I recently texted her (after three days of no texts from her or me) I said "i was listening to a bossa nova tune and it reminded me of you:) how was ur weekend pretty girl" she texted back positively blah blah lol.. how was ur weekend?
I'm still trying to get that d2 without seeming like i'm putting in to much work...what now? Switch to phone?

thanks for the advice...when do i call her if i anwsere this new thread today by text? if she doesnt answere do i leave a voicemail wat do i say? keep in mind that after a while we've chilled twice and texted a shit load but i've never called so would a call be random?

The AFC trapped inside us would say to "chase her" but that would only repel her and make her want u less. Cause it's like, say someone is drinking something and they're like this drink is good it taste soo fucking awesome have some.. come on try it! You'll love it, just take a sip! You'll most likely be like Are they for real?? what did they do to this drink?? And chances are you won't willingly try any of that drink, would u? Maybe unless u had more trust and knew them then u just would.

Kind of the same with inviting a girl out and you're like come on lets hang out come on! and u keep inviting her and inviting her, the less she'll actually come. It comes down to if she doesn't know much of your personality already she'll flake out to avoid any possible awkwardness because women loathe them. So the Brazilian girl flaked on you, don't reward her with too much attention at all and a phone call would be just that.. sometimes u have to just chill. actually at all times.

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I just remembered about this thread...it's been a long time but it's amusing what ended up happening with this girl. We ended up chilling ALL summer, she ended up falling in love with me literally, telling me she knows what she wants for her life and that it's me. I love her sooo much for the great moments we spent but I'm not in love with her so i had to tell her the truth that I don't see us getting married. She is back in Brazil and knows I'm seeing other women but we still talk and i still have a lot of good feelings towards her. Who knows if i will see her in the physical again...BTW now is an opportunity for me to set a moral to this story...The game will help you get the girl if you put it in practice and improve your sticking points. It can even help you with your growth as a person if you practice inner game. But lets not forget that women aren't just good for hooking up with (some of you guys in the community might think this way). I understand that this whole social game thing with them feels stupid and petty sometimes which results in us reacting in stupid, petty ways or only trying to get petty things out of the interaction. But lets remember that genuine interactions with our fellow humans are key to a happy life...whatever kind of interaction that might be...with any gender, and women do make up half the human species and are just as capable of assisting you in the creation of a memorable moment as our fellow man. This is why I am only honest with my women...not because I am a good guy (believe me I do it for myself just as anyone does) but because this way the moments I share are untainted and genuine and my interactions are more fulfilling and memorable...people are accepting me for my honest true self.

chill man your probably good shes busy it happens when you have a life not revolving around some body... DONT SEEM NEEDY