Hi All,

I am new here, been lurking for a couple of days, great site, so much good reading! Hope it's okay to post twice like this, my previous post was about a specific message, here I just want to introduce myself and ask for some more gneral advice (if that's okay mods please don't hurt me!)

Just out a LTR, dumped after 6 years. So I'm gonna get out there and have some meaningless sex to help me get over it.

I used to be okay at pulling women, nothing special, but after 6 years I'm very rusty now, had no idea there was a whole community with it's own lingo and everything for this stuff, man it's gold and will really help me get back in the groove in live situations. After 6 years in an LTR I've developed extreme chat up nerves (or AA as you guys call it!), but stuff like the newbie exercise will soon cure that.

My real problem is with online pulling. It's a whole new and exciting world to me and I'm not having any luck. Also I'm not really interested in getting numbers, dates, etc, I just want some meaningless sex, one night stands, a f-buddy, that kinda no strings stuff.

So I've been looking at these dirty dating sites like Horny Matches, Find Contacts, etc. The one I have joined is called Sex in the UK.

There are some poor women with Match type profiles who are clearly on the wrong sort of site, but most of the profiles are very dirty, rude and looking for what I want - NSA fun/sex.

I have read tons of this forum, and a lot of the advice for FB and normal dating sites is useful, but I can't find anything specifically about these really sexy sites.

How do you go about 'sarging' on a dating site where most of the women have their tits out (or more!) in their profile photo and just want no strings fun? I mean how am I not having any luck on a site where the women mostly slags who are gagging for it lol.

After reading this forum I'm ashamed to say my first attempts were major 'AFC' crap, but I have tried some of the cleverer ideas on here but no joy.

Does anyone have any advice or can link me to threads specifically for dating sites that are all about casual sex/NSA fun?

To be honest for what you are looking for you be far better going to a bar and pikc up a really drunk girl. As most of those profiles on those NSA sites are fake or web cam girls. Very few are real girls. But if you really don't want to go to the bar, you may want to try MySpace or Plenty of Fish (it has some NSA options).

Thanks for the reply man.

Yeh starting to realise plenty of webcam girls and escorts lol.

Getting used to the site now tho and the fake/escort ones are becoming easy to spot. There are real women, I would say it's the majority too, but I did chose my site carefully, didn’t part with any money until I’d checked loads out and set up some free profiles. The one I’m at actually has a sister site that is normal respectable dating so it seems pretty cool. But you’re right, some of them are complete cons, just dodgy sites set up to rip off lonely and vulnerable men.

Anyway I just dunno whether I should be really upfront and direct, like the profiles are, or if I should be all charming and polite first. The site has an IM application and that's where I really get lost. I don't know if I should dive straight into the dirty talk or what. It really worked with one girl but scared off another. And I tried witty, charming banter with another and she got pissed off cos she wanted to get straight down to the naughty stuff.

I guess it’s trial and error, I’ve been trying to gauge from what they say in their profiles, but it’s tough, especially if their profile is just a line or two. Have actually got into convos with a couple of girls, and last night actually got one number but man I was so disappointed when she sent a full body photo. God she was so fat and ugly I didn’t even bother putting the no in my mobile. If I actually ever get my leg over with anyone half decent I’ll post about it lol!

And you’re right, I’m far better off going out and chatting up drunk girls, or even getting an escort…the real world rules lol, but I wanted to try one of these sites too, they seemed really intriguing and exciting.

In fact, after 6 years in a LTR, absolutely ANYTHING to do with meeting new women is really intriguing and exciting haha!

Every hook up site I have come across has been a scam pretty much.
You can dive into dirty talk, the key is being polite and respectful at the same time. As most girls don't want to be talked to as if they are a piece of meat you want to bang.

That reminds me, I left a steak out on the counter.